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Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Sanjayd1(f): 8:48am On Sep 14, 2015 |
johnwell: Thanks for quoting me. I didn't even get the title right. OP, its "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor " Ayin Eka, e tie didie? |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 8:54am On Sep 14, 2015 |
megastu: I expected ninety-nine percent of guys here to conclude it was lust. When you don't know how to empathize with others you gleefully treat them with an iron fist. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 8:55am On Sep 14, 2015 |
My dear, marriage is all about discipline & contentment. If you leave your fiance, call off the wedding & go with the new guy, you'd always come across someone else you want in the course of your marriage & the cycle will repeat itself again. You have a man you've been with for 5 years, you love him, until recently when things started to become a little sour- that's not a very big problem. Talk to him about it. Talk, talk & talk again. You both can even see a counsellor. I'm sure you'll both wade through it. Except of course, one of you is not totally into this. Contentment & discipline is the key. Be contented with what you have. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by broxymall(m): 9:01am On Sep 14, 2015 |
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Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Superman11(m): 9:04am On Sep 14, 2015 |
she don chop the guy for 5 years now she don tire for him D she wan dump am .. see her life?? |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by MrzKay: 9:06am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Relationship is all about communication. Just try to talk it out wit ur man instead of u tinking abt dat came dat came out of nowhere. Am married and we didn't court up to 1yr but we still live happily togeda and I LOVE HIM so very much. FYI: am just 21 n my marriage is not up to a year. So d key here is communication, patience and understanding. ![]() ![]() |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 9:07am On Sep 14, 2015 |
nnacent: "Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety" (Proverbs 11:14). Bored you said? My eldest sister courted for about a decade. She and her husband of today were so excited when their wedding was finally approved by my parents. Sit there and be keep screaming "remain". I hope when issues surface tomorrow you won't come here to advocate divorce or separation. Too many marriages are falling apart because people are constantly being encouraged and pressured to go ahead with weddings despite glaring signs of foreboding. Nobody wants them to talk about their fears and reservations. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by wunmi590(m): 9:11am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Squig: First I would like to congratulate you for summoning courage, to pour out your mind to a public forum like this. I am a man, and I would never deny the fact that all men have their different characters, I have being courting for like 7years now with my fiancée, who has offended me most of the time, but I never used that to change my attitude towards her, her birthday gift, christmas&new year gift is always constant even the phone she uses, I change it for her every 1year, I always do that on her birthday, not just small phones, I get her something bigger than the previous one, and it has been constant every year, not that she wants it or she's from a poor home, but I just try to do my best to make her happy, which she has been doing in return. My advice as I have said earlier, every man has his own character, what gave you the assurance that the new guy you are talking about would not do the same or something even worst than that. Please call your man, sit him down, cry, they are some men that are very emotional, just like me, pour out your mind, tell him what you want, let him realize what you are going through, he would definately change. Why hide your marriage from the other guy, let him know you are getting married, and is not every guy you see you start telling your personal issue, am sure, that guy would be praying you guys break up so that he can get married to you. I pray thing get better has you work down the aisle this weekend. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by blessingee: 9:15am On Sep 14, 2015 |
PastorOsamede: I want to disagree with you on this....This is just a case distraction, it happens to ALMOST everyone. I had a similar scenario few months to my wedding, i went ahead with my wedding and the lady i got attracted to also got married 4 months after...so its not an issue that requires a periscope...Just to add...Am now married for 5 years and i have not regretted it. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by litetias(m): 9:18am On Sep 14, 2015 |
No be only lust na slut |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by smuth(m): 9:20am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Squig: [b]ok my dear, open your ear and head and shut your senses completely from this guy you just met...ask yourself this question what if this temporary feeling you have for this new guy begin to deteriorat just as the one you had with your man you spent 5 years with? That means you are gonna be wasting 10 years and possible more unless you stick with your man and keep the fire burning just as when you guys started dating. The good thing is that you are admitting its your fault for not given your man the necessary attention. Firstly, If na jazz the new guy dey use for you you better go to the Lord in prayer before enemy of progress get hold of your life. Secondly, if na spiritual problem dey disturb you you better go for deliverance. On a final note, lust is temporal and leads to distruction while love is everlasting and leads to happiness. So use your brain and choose which you will prefer. If you truly love the man you are about to wed next month NO DEMON can make you shift your attention unless if the new man himself is a devils advocate, so my sister pack your slippers and tear race commot from the new guy and delete his number from your phone, you can politely tell him not to call your number again that your wedding is next month. I don talk my own...you suppose pay me for this advice self.[/b] 1 Like |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by ofoka: 9:21am On Sep 14, 2015 |
You are a materialistic distracted person QED |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by litetias(m): 9:23am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Sanjayd1: I hope you're not insinuating that she will end up like that lady with HIV et al? |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by johnnday222(m): 9:29am On Sep 14, 2015 |
d devil u knw they say is better than the angel u don't knw.do u just say u'hv been wit ur husband to.b 4 5yrs n 1 guy come frm anoda world according to u n u hvn doubt nw.nw if u switch side nw n after lik 1-2yrs nw u discover he has a family even b4 u met,u wil b wailing dat men r evil abi.keep dreaming o. I guess d new guy is loaded cos dat wot women call luv,bt u shud also remember money is nt everything. a word is enuf for d wise. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by 2termz(m): 9:30am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Hate dem hoes..Bunch of f*****g betrayals ![]() |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by unuane1(m): 9:31am On Sep 14, 2015 |
To me I believe the Op is not mentally ripe for marriage and also maybe she's not ready yet for such commitment call marriage. She don't even know what she want yet and truly I really feel for the fiance. She's surely lusting after the new guy. My advice @ Op marriage is not meant for kids like u pls grow up before considering marriage again because clearly u are not ready mentally and otherwise. Men are truly in trouble with ur kind around. I really sorry for ur fiance he obviously don't deserve someone like u. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Pamelayoung: 9:32am On Sep 14, 2015 |
MrPeterson: |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by ben1daEbiri(m): 9:36am On Sep 14, 2015 |
vizkiz:you see what i keep saying?"likes everywhere" |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Pamelayoung: 9:40am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Pls go ahead with ur marriage don't let d side dude distract u. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by beey4u(m): 9:40am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Helo,you've heard many opinions.wat I will say is pls take your time very becos dis decision is a once in a lifetime decision,it a decision u have to live with for the rest of your life.my advice is take only the decision u can live with.i believe u know wat u want.Al d very best. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by ben1daEbiri(m): 9:41am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Tashaamania:"....Anyone can pretend for any length of time"....You mean someone can pretend to be what he/she is not for over 5yrs ![]() |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Nobody: 9:44am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Amhappy: This is so on point . |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by braine(m): 9:47am On Sep 14, 2015 |
bukatyne: Some guys do this. May God forgive us. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by emperorchedda(m): 9:48am On Sep 14, 2015 |
queenfav:You must have gotten a lot of experience to be this wise. I'm amazed people like you still exist. Girls like to play smart and keep admirers as 'options' so they will see a man to fall on when their relationship falls. They fail to realize relationship is all about risks, that one day they may fall into temptation with one of the 'options' |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by ben1daEbiri(m): 9:53am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Platnum1:Absolutely...it's a shame that she's been in a serious relationship for over 5years yet she's still considering other "options" |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Empedocles(m): 10:05am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Now lemme tell you marriage is not as romantic as dating,for the fact that you dated him for five years of cos it won't b as spicy as it was at the beginning which is normal,u̶̲̥̅̊ ve sin his bad and good syd.This guy u̶̲̥̅̊ just met do u̶̲̥̅̊ knw his last name?is it because he z richer of month gudluking.The worse part is when you find out he z ūя̲̅ husbands friend and this is just a test you re already failing.OMG! What if you were already married b4 meeting dis nu guy,bita 2ruth=I strongly pray against meeting a woman lyk u̶̲̥̅̊...u̶̲̥̅̊ are kinda a shame to tru woman hood |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by smuth(m): 10:10am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Mariecakes: Did you not read the part where she admitted she is the reason behind the disconnection? As long as her husband to be has not shown any sign of disconnection she should not even bring the matter up with him cuz the outcome could be more diverstating, she is the problem here not the husband to be or the new guy, her head is so messed up she needs to visit a carpenter so that several planks can be administered to her head. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by ajimega: 10:11am On Sep 14, 2015 |
vizkiz:You can just shut your mouth |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by donbabade: 10:12am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Ori e ko pe! Hard truth What happens when u meet someone else after 5 years with the new guy? Lady it happen us all. Reason for most adultery case we hear about. My dear God ll give u a happy home. Leave distraction alone. Marriage is about taking crap. The decision is to decide whose crap u can live with for life. Squig: |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by Martyr601: 10:13am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Send me an email.. |
Re: I'm Having Doubts About Getting Married Next Month by ipain: 10:15am On Sep 14, 2015 |
Martyr601:drop your email. |
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