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Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 8:58pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
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Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 8:59pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Spare the rod, Spoil the child. Need anything from Jumia? Contact me now! |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 9:03pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
You don't beat a child in my presence; not even yours. Corporal punishment is also criminal in Lagos state. The problem is that we abdicate our responsibility. We should talk to the child before even he/she is born and keep talking to them before they start to talk. It's a process; not crash program. I was nearly killed in the name of discipline and I know the lasting impression. 4 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by muhammed10: 9:05pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Ok |
Re: Disciplining Children by tuoyoojo(m): 9:07pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Ok Nothing does beta dat a good whip either by using a cane or d sole of a flip flop esp in d early stages from 4 to 10 years Den from 10 to 12 smacking with d hand or that unexpected knock or "konk" on the head does wonders. From the teens , talking to them and financial embargo wud do the trick. I wud tell me kids who r in their teen " They are at liberty to make their choices but not at liberty to determine the consequences of those choices" 6 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by Lionhearted: 9:07pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Growing up Pa cane us a lot, so much that our neighbours used to hear our cries. What do u expect in a household of six boys? Despite this there is nothing we lack. He pampered as much as he caned. And things turn out well. To my unborn kids better not be born in Naija if not na 3-pronged koboko! 2 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by babasolo(m): 9:08pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
At times u need 2 flog de devil nd demons out of these kids 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Kastonkastroll(m): 9:09pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
my son(3yrs of age), I do smack him sometimes, but not very hard, a very light smacking. Canning/spanking my son is a no no no for me. I don't do it and I don't think I will ever do it. Yesterday I smacked(light smacking) my son when he refused to stop what I asked him to stop. He normally takes my smacking as a joke or something like a play that he laughs anytime I smack him... 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by fairheven: 9:10pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Like a drug dosage,you can combine the three for morning ,noon an night for more effective results, the kind of infant-terrible I see these days.. 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Bigdreams(m): 9:10pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Training a child nowadays should be a mixture of the word and the rod in appropriate measure and at the appropriate times. Please, check my signature. 2 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by freshfarms: 9:13pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
He that spares his rod hates his son: but he that loves him disciplines him. Proverbs 13: 24 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Disciplining Children by fairheven: 9:19pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
kITATITA: And what happens to the ones that won't just listen? You keep talking ba?..the reason in American today, a primary school kid will take a loaded gun to school and go on a shooting-spree. And we are gradually towing same line for lack of proper discipline. Freedom without bounds will lead to anarchy an that's Wat I see of today kids. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Disciplining Children by MsNas(f): 9:20pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
kITATITA:I respect your opinion. But what will you do if I spank MY KID (notice the emphasis on "MY KID" ) in your presence? You can do as you like which your children, but you won't tell me what to do with mine. That is just not possible. No ill feelings, just countering what you said. 5 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by DrGroove(f): 9:21pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
I was brought up under very strict,should I say harsh training.My father in particular became like a terrorist to me n my siblings..He would beat /flog,hit us with any available stick,rod,iron,name them! until sometimes, we fainted n hospitalized,at d slightest provocation.people used to ask us what crime we commit that our father leaves such wounds n scars on our skins...Not that we were stubborn but because he understood discipline that way n would quote bible to support it. Childhood was horrible.The moment we left home for uni,nobody wished to return,even to visit on holidays Now we are adults and living apart and we wish to stay as far away from him as possible Bottomline: Beating a child is not a proper way of discipline.You can actually talk to your child and he/she listens and obeys! Only if you make yourself your child's best friend. from my experience...spanking/smacking a child should end @ 2years old.once he/she can understand n communicate,TaLk! Talk!! Talk!!! Children brought up with beating(esp into teenagehood)usually end up either rebellious and hardened OR shy and timid.Initially,i was the latter but I grow into the former! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Disciplining Children by oviejnr(m): 9:24pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
I will talk to them and advise them but if the recalcitrant ones don't comply. I will flog the devil out of him! ![]() |
Re: Disciplining Children by bummyla(m): 9:25pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
a combination of every thing: Prayer; whipping; talking and befriending them! http://www.bummyla.com |
Re: Disciplining Children by vivypretty(f): 9:26pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
midolian:i will like to know what u did to receive that punishment i agree with u to an extent but i think whipping a child is necessary atimes depending on the wrong he did but never let him get used to it if not he will grow a thick skin just like in talking to them they will start seeing it as normal thing and therefore not afraid of the punishment whip them reasonably 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 9:34pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
fairheven:Don't even compare Nigeria with America. I tell you that Nigeria is a more violent society than America. Lawless Nigerians would lynch a pickpocket or someone accused of witchcraft without bathing an eyelid. I shudder to think what would happen if Nigerians have access to guns like we have in America. You can't even drive out of your Nigerian neighborhood at 11pm. 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by fluxbush(f): 9:37pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
tunergy:Your post reminds me of a neighbour who usually tortures me with her three rambunctious kids,all in the name of babysitting. Three days ago,while babysitting and fighting a tornado simultaneously in my sitting room, her little girl of 4years threw her brother's shoe at my tv screen. I took the shoe from her,reprimanded her and removed all 'throwable' items. This little girl intentionally walked to my table,picked up the remote and threw it at the tv again. I looked at this girl and realised that it was a battle of wills. I smacked her across the bottom and snatched the remote from her. I had not taken five steps away before I heard a loud hiss behind me. At that point, I was ready to swear that that girl was an agent sent to make my life miserable. I don't think I ve ever been so eager to dump a kid as I chased them out of my house,back to their mum. ![]() ![]() 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Disciplining Children by ndcide(m): 9:41pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. The ROD is the most effective correction tool. The world became worse of, when we stopped effective use of the ROD. Hummm, Dr do-good!!!! You should lovingly talk to a child, but Dr do-good must join. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Disciplining Children by amazingspiderma: 9:41pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
There should be a balance to discipline.From my experience I got three things from my father. The rod,the Word of God(bible) and moral example which is a life to emulate. It worked for me. Today it is still the guiding principles on how I approach my daughter. |
Re: Disciplining Children by histemple: 9:49pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
There is no generally endorsed procedure for training a child. Just like all marriages are different and requires different approach that suits each, so it is for punishing or correcting a child. We must also understand that DIALOGUE is another form of correcting/punishing a child More so, the age of the child should be considered. It is senseless to whip a 18-year-old-------if conversation can't work at that age, only prayers can. There is no point advising a baby of 2 years old always--------Whipping may serve better for such, sometimes. Just imagine if we were not whipped in nursery / primary and junior secondary schools. Now why is it a taboo to whip an undergraduate? The answer is simple------different approaches based on age. We must also know that punishment is only intended to CORRECT the child. It makes no sense if the child is only made to feel excruciating pains without getting the message. We must also guide against the following; ----Making the child to lose self confidence. ----Creating so much fears in the child. ----Making the child to be happier when you are away. ----Not letting the child know when he/she is being punished. As we must correct erring child, we must also understand that certain traits must be pardoned as they are natural and normal within some age bracket. 3 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by mmsen: 9:53pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
salisuammy: How are children of these days different? |
Re: Disciplining Children by midolian(m): 10:08pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
vivypretty:why do you want to know? ![]() |
Re: Disciplining Children by misspicy(f): 10:18pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
mutter:Well said ma'am,i wish I had a happy home,am sure i'd still be a virgin and possibly be more happy,i always want to leave home |
Re: Disciplining Children by histemple: 10:21pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
tunergy: Training a child is not easy I must tell you. It is just like being a football coach, you must handle every team and players with a good understanding of how to get the best results. Some parents even need more training than their child. Others need to be trained on how NOT to train a child. One of the best gifts to a child of this boy's age, is spanking and whipping. Just imagine if we were not whipped in nursery/primary and junior secondary schools. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Disciplining Children by Nobody: 10:26pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
yh 2 Likes |
Re: Disciplining Children by thelish(f): 10:29pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
midolian:Na u be d first person wey I see say cane nor work he stubbornness ooo. |
Re: Disciplining Children by lonelydora: 10:31pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
I'm here to read comments |
Re: Disciplining Children by midolian(m): 10:35pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
bayino:lol @ the emboldened. You are on point, bro ![]() |
Re: Disciplining Children by osifred(m): 10:42pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
midolian: Tell me my friend if for some reason unknown to you your child of 8 start urinating inside your fridge which of this strategies as listed above will you use to handle the child? 1 Like |
Re: Disciplining Children by Jackossky(m): 10:54pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
Hmm....actually whenever they caned me....it usually change me back to my default setting But I think we teens nowadays what we need is dialogue and it should not be too much My mum wanna advise me coz some girls are calling me players....she used like 4 hours....midway I was tired....the use of dialogue should not be long... I think it is step by step When the child can read a to z u will use spanking(small chilo for head e don do) Wen he start reading 1 to 100 u can use canning ( I calls it Dr do good) When the child is able to read (u will mix both spanking and canning) When he becomes a teen starting from fifteen you will begin the use of dialogue Simple as that.... Also make ur child to trust you.... |
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