Kimoni:
OP, I advise that you involve her more in financial matters. Let her know the total income the family makes and how it is spent. Take monetary decisions together and she won't have any cause to whine about you being broke.

I suspect she doesn't know how much you earn and she feels you can do much more than you are doing now. Or maybe there is something you are spending on that she doesn't believe in.

Again, since she is the type that complains a lot about money, tell her to get a job/start a biz and use the income to meet her needs.

BRAVAGAD0O:
Hello friends, 1st of all, I don't want you to see me as a man that involves third party in his marrital life/affair, am not that kind of man, in fact a lot of things go on that I rather let it stay in my home for us to sort or face together than involving family or friends but this challenge is really heavy for me to bear.

I don't really know what else to preach to her that I don't like her behavior anytime am broke ,for me it's a total turn off because it always makes me feel like am not being appreciated even with all my efforts to make us happy.

My wife nag anytime am broke or notice my pay ain't coming soon, all she does is play blame game like telling me all sort of story, like she never eat since last year, like she's not happy, that the marriage is hell because of just few days broke, and the few days broke doesn't mean no food for us, the few days broke doesn't mean I won't raise money to fuel generator talk less of some more important bills. I am just 10 months old in this marriage, please, real men in the house kindly advice me on what to do, if am the one being wrong here because I don't understand why she's always like that.






Lalasticlala I wouldn't mind front page at all because I really want to learn from all other husbands out there... Thanks

BRAVAGAD0O:
Hello friends, 1st of all, I don't want you to see me as a man that involves third party in his marrital life/affair, am not that kind of man, in fact a lot of things go on that I rather let it stay in my home for us to sort or face together than involving family or friends but this challenge is really heavy for me to bear.

I don't really know what else to preach to her that I don't like her behavior anytime am broke ,for me it's a total turn off because it always makes me feel like am not being appreciated even with all my efforts to make us happy.

My wife nag anytime am broke or notice my pay ain't coming soon, all she does is play blame game like telling me all sort of story, like she never eat since last year, like she's not happy, that the marriage is hell because of just few days broke, and the few days broke doesn't mean no food for us, the few days broke doesn't mean I won't raise money to fuel generator talk less of some more important bills. I am just 10 months old in this marriage, please, real men in the house kindly advice me on what to do, if am the one being wrong here because I don't understand why she's always like that.

Lalasticlala I wouldn't mind front page at all because I really want to learn from all other husbands out there... Thanks

bjprodint:
Two reasons (1)mayb u used money to entise her to marry u. (2) she might b pregnant...abeg shey I spell ''entise'' well?.pls correct me if I make mistake

BRAVAGAD0O:
Hello friends, 1st of all, I don't want you to see me as a man that involves third party in his marrital life/affair, am not that kind of man, in fact a lot of things go on that I rather let it stay in my home for us to sort or face together than involving family or friends but this challenge is really heavy for me to bear.

I don't really know what else to preach to her that I don't like her behavior anytime am broke ,for me it's a total turn off because it always makes me feel like am not being appreciated even with all my efforts to make us happy.

My wife nag anytime am broke or notice my pay ain't coming soon, all she does is play blame game like telling me all sort of story, like she never eat since last year, like she's not happy, that the marriage is hell because of just few days broke, and the few days broke doesn't mean no food for us, the few days broke doesn't mean I won't raise money to fuel generator talk less of some more important bills. I am just 10 months old in this marriage, please, real men in the house kindly advice me on what to do, if am the one being wrong here because I don't understand why she's always like that.

Lalasticlala I wouldn't mind front page at all because I really want to learn from all other husbands out there... Thanks

vani86:
Feel for you bro. Juat 10 months and it is like this, what will happen if god forbid you lose your job.

Is she working, if she aint contributing to the marriage in anyway knowing how hard naija is. Tell her to shut the fo.ck up.

If she said she have not eaten in 4 years tell her another 4 years wont kill her.

This is how men die before their time and what will she do? Move on to the next man immediately

Flashh:
Silly stuffs like these are the reason why some men aren't planning for marriage.

She won't die if she assist the family financially instead of her nagging and stop being a leech.

If a man fails being a husband definitely a woman fails being a wife.

I'm gonna say you married the wrong woman bro!

bjprodint:
Two reasons (1)mayb u used money to entise her to marry u. (2) she might b pregnant...abeg shey I spell ''entise'' well?.pls correct me if I make mistake

Joy1706:

Is it her responsibility to provide for the family? Lazy men everywhere

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I just wonder at those who make excuses for "untrustworthiness and unreliability" in a marriage were TRUST and being RELIABLE are the Pillars?
Being broke or even being poor is not a crime afterall, we cant all be rich and no one has told me that poor people are not supposed to have a family?
Marriage is termed "for better, for worse" when you say "i do" yet here are some "silly men" making excuse for and even blaming the husband for the wife's "treacherous behaviour"? I can understand "some" Nairaland women, their post is a reflection of their own moral values, if they have any .... but these pussy-whipped" men really annoy me

How about if it was the man who is nagging simply because his wife "falls short" in some areas (e.g if she is a terrible cook) .... would they roundly condemn the woman or ask the man to stop nagging and buy her a cookery book or even suggest he learn how to cook himself ?
Why cant we use the same yardstick we use for one gender, for the other gender.... afterall, we all go around parroting "equality of gender"?

You need to see the statistics (and why) men die earlier than women, despite the fact that it is women that do things that have a detrimental effect on longevity (periods, menopause, childbirth, e.t.c)!
The reason is that "some men", urged on by some women, have placed undue burden and stress on their own life (wanting to "be the man and impress women" by slaving away, trying to acquire vanities and money, just to please their women, who are forever demanding and would not move a toe for them if places are swapped..... and end-up paying dearly for it with reduced life-span.

I am sure we all know what l am talking about here so dont let us pretend. Dying from "stress-induced heart attack" is not what makes you a man! What about the children who lost a father too early, do they deserve that in life?

Men should understand that their is a limit you can use all your life to chase money/wealth because you want to impress an "insatiable woman" who demands more and more from you (directly or indirectly using subtle methods like nagging) while you work your self to death because you want to meet up and be considered a real man.
That is stewpid, if you ask me because if after stressing your life out, you acquire all the "wealth" and lose your life early (45 -55 years), the nice one will mourn you for three months before deciding its time to move on with another man (the wicked ones are already doing it with the next man when they complain you are not doing marathon in bed, forgetting that a man that is stressed-out all the time will have his libido affected!).

WHO THEN IS THE LOSER HERE?

Brothers, be wise!
Be hard-working, be financially prudent, provide for your family's "reasonable" needs, within the limits of your power and health.
Take your personal health seriously, Rest very well at intervals, Exercise a lot (if she would let you have the time), dont be a glutton (that protruding stomach is NOT a sign of wealth, it is a disease and a ticket to shortened life span!), eat right and dont let your wife feed you with stuff that shortens your life (intentionally or otherwise.... like too much fatty food. Some women are known to intentionally "force-feed" their husbands to look/be unattractive and unhealthy!)... and take "breaks" from all strenuous activities" every now and then, to "recharge" your batteries.

I tell you, if like me you look so good (physically, mentally & health-wise) that people think you are twenty years younger, your wife cant keep nagging you because she is aware that if she does, she will be "throwing away" what other ladies who are thirty years younger than her, will grab with both hands. Its a reality of life.

Caveat: My wife is a major contributor to my fitness and stress-free life (one of a kind ......damn!..she will read this comment before tomorrow or next! ) so l give credit to whom and where it deserves.... and she is reaping the "benefits" and will, till death do us apart.

But hey, take your life into your hands and stop being a whimp...... .this only one life!


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SAMBARRY:
I will give you 2 pragmatic options that you can use

1. Anytime she starts her nagging, increase the volume of the music that it becomes deafening loud and drowns her voice. You can play personally by psquare or shakitibobo by olamide then start dancing while ignoring her

2.leave the house for her anytime you are broke and go and stay with a friend. When she doesn't see you for a while she'll start to behave herself

by the way what does she even nag about sef because if a man is nagging you'll tag it as complaining, if a woman is always repeating herself regularly you'll tag it as nagging


. Are you sure there's nothing you're doing to that woman to make her continually because women don't nag for nothing

Joy1706:

You don't say! But you men will die ba if you assist your wives with chores. I know it's not related. #justsaying

Amhappy:
I thought they said making money is the man's responsibility while home keeping is the wife's. If you nag your wife for not keeping your house clean,not cooking food etc,everybody will still blame her. Now that she nags you for not living up to your traditional responsibility,she is now a bad woman. Ok oooooooo.

Tunder wey go fire anyone that will quote me is doing press up
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cococandy:
If you people have divided roles that you must provide and she must face the home keeping, then don't complain that she's nagging.
Do your own part.
I'm sure you will nag her if she doesn't cook for 3days.

When they tell people to relax their rigid rules of who does what in the home, they will think someone wants to divide their home.

If she doesn't see you as sole provider, why would she have problem bringing her own money to supplement your income?