Hello Nairalanders,
My younger brother wants to quit his relationship of 9months with his girl and he wants me to advise him.
I don't just want to give him my mind alone, I want other views from able nairalanders with experience.

He complains that his girlfriend is too proud and cannot submit to him.
She complains about everything and she never seem to appreciate anything he does.
The word of her mouth does not match her action.
She talks to him with disregard and anytime he threatens to quit the relationship for her lack of respect, she begins to cry and
promise to change.

He loves her despite her weaknesses but he is scared he may not be able to cope with her character if they get married.
They are both already planning to get married December but he says he doesn't want to regret his actions.
He loves her but detest her character.

I told him to give me time because relationship issues are delicate to poke nose and they might both decide
to get married eventually after I must have advised him to quit. In my opinion I feel he should quit if he his sure he cannot
tolerate her attitude in marriage. I have seen men who thought they will never lay a finger on their wives but eventually after
marriage, out of frustration they beat and batter their wives. My brother is a very gentle guy I don't want him to turn to a wife
beater someday.

I need your advise what should I tell him?

By submit, what exactly does he mean?

I think he meant that she disrespects him

Can you please cite a case of her disrespecting him?

First it's "advice"

Let him quit instead of making threats every bloody minute.

9 months is too short to jump into marriage anyway.

Why must everything lead to MARRIAGE?

@post
If a guy does all that to a reasonable girl, she'd have left. Aleast, I would.

So I tell the dude, pack and go

He loves her despite her weaknesses but he is scared he may not be able to cope with her character if they get married.

Well, guess what, buddy.
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage

@Poster,
Don't Hastily conclude that the sole problem lies with your brother's girl,
Without being Bias,critically analyse the relationship and find out what your brother meant by not getting total submission from her.
He might be exhibiting some authoritative tendencies/traits that isn't going down well with the lady.
Be the independent person by seeking audience from both parties on the issue at stake.
After your findings try as much as possible not to tell your brother what to do,guide him but let him take his stand himself.

@poster
Why would he turn into a wife beater based on what you posted? Abi the guy dey show those tendencies already? In that case i think the girl is better off without him

IFELEKE:

@Poster,
Don't Hastily conclude that the sole problem lies with your brother's girl,
Without being Bias,critically analyse the relationship and find out what your brother meant by not getting total submission from her.
He might be exhibiting some authoritative tendencies/traits that isn't going down well with the lady.
Be the independent person by seeking audience from both parties on the issue at stake.
After your findings try as much as possible not to tell your brother what to do,guide him but let him take his stand himself.

I like the cut of your gib

Oya deb, follow this person's adviCe

TOH and her total dislike of "submissiveness" . . . too bad you cant entirely run away from it.

I think the dude shld quit asap.

and what exactly is wrong with ifeleke's post, david?

Btw I wasnt the one who bolded the submission part, oniranu. Mr. ashewo

thank you all for your contribution.
My bro has thrown in the towel as we speak, but the girl has refused to accept o.
As usually, she's gone on her kneels begging him to reconsider.

I guess at this junction, i should just leave them to sort themselves.

They should rather work at understanding each other, not changing each other.

They should also give it more time.

More time.

A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE I THINK U KNOW THAT RIGHT, LET YOUR BROTHER PRAY VERY WILL B4 DOING ANYTHING BECOS I HAVE COME TO UNDERSTAND THAT GOD CREATED MAN FIRST AND WHEN GOD WANTED TO CREATE EVE FOR ADAM GOD CAUSE ADAM TO A DIP SLEEP DO KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS- IT SIMPLE THAT GOD WILL WORK ON THE MAN FIRST B4 PRESENTING THE WOMAN TO HIM, GOD WILL WORK ON THE CHARACTER OF MAN SO THAT THE MAN CAN STAND THE WOMAN, IF YOUR BROTHER CAN'T STAND THE GIRL LET HIM HONESTLY LEAVE HER IF AND ONLY IF THE LORD GOD HAD SAID IT TO HIM, PLS U GUYS SHOULD JION HANDS TOGETHER TO PRAY I RECOMMAND A VIGINE FROM 10PM-3AM THAT GOD SHOULD U PEOPLE IF ITS HIS WILL FOR THEM TO GET MARRIED. THANKS AND GOD BLESS U. ONE LOVE!!!

@Poster

Tell your brother to man the f*ck up and quit looking for other people to fight his battles.

Sweet T or bitter W or whatever?
must you contribute?