whizqueen:
by that time, wife go done finish

EnlightenedSoul:


Well, I completely disagree with you there. You're being disrespectful. I believe the partner should be in the general know (as opposed to specifics), and in agreement with whats going on. Is your partner also a "Picasso"?

Lasgidy1:
I'm deeply in love with my orente. She means so much to me and I hold her in high esteem. I can't do without hearing from her at least 3 times daily despite my schedule at work on all days but I've come to realize that despite my unfailing love for her, I still cheat on her. Though, once she caught me cheating on her but she won't walk away. I believe she's forced to assume now that cheating is in the DNA of most men.

To the guys here, is it really possible to love your wife or babe so dearly and cheat on her? When you cheat on her, is it still fair to boast of your love for her? Also, why do most men cheat? Is it really true that cheating is in the DNA of men? Should we conclude its as a result of rampant moral decadence? Is there a way to stop it?
Cc: mods please do the needful

Lasgidy1:
I'm deeply in love with my orente. She means so much to me and I hold her in high esteem. I can't do without hearing from her at least 3 times daily despite my schedule at work on all days but I've come to realize that despite my unfailing love for her, I still cheat on her. Though, once she caught me cheating on her but she won't walk away. I believe she's forced to assume now that cheating is in the DNA of most men.

To the guys here, is it really possible to love your wife or babe so dearly and cheat on her? When you cheat on her, is it still fair to boast of your love for her? Also, why do most men cheat? Is it really true that cheating is in the DNA of men? Should we conclude its as a result of rampant moral decadence? Is there a way to stop it?
Cc: mods please do the needful

ilobasama:
I de o. Who be this

Miracle4Sure:
ur guy..#awohall

naijaboiy:
Omo see as angry females attack this thread

Lasgidy1:
I'm deeply in love with my orente. She means so much to me and I hold her in high esteem. I can't do without hearing from her at least 3 times daily despite my schedule at work on all days but I've come to realize that despite my unfailing love for her, I still cheat on her. Though, once she caught me cheating on her but she won't walk away. I believe she's forced to assume now that cheating is in the DNA of most men.

To the guys here, is it really possible to love your wife or babe so dearly and cheat on her? When you cheat on her, is it still fair to boast of your love for her? Also, why do most men cheat? Is it really true that cheating is in the DNA of men? Should we conclude its as a result of rampant moral decadence? Is there a way to stop it?
Cc: mods please do the needful

bettercreature:
Most married men do it and that doesn't mean they don't love their wife,it's possible and it's working

tosyne2much:
Broda Naij aboiy

Bros I greet you o. How far na?

MRBrownJ:


same thing sista... you cant possibly LOVE someone and not respect them.... IMPOSSIBLE!!!! so, if RESPECT is not present then there is no way that LOVE can remotely be present!

EnlightenedSoul:


I sincerely hope you don't actually believe that. Love and respect are not mutually inclusive.

Give it some thought.

MRBrownJ:


i guess we have a different definition of LOVE.

EnlightenedSoul:


I sincerely hope you don't actually believe that. Love and respect are not mutually inclusive.

Give it some thought.

MrsChima:


I have family members that I love but do not respect.

Respect means giving the person the admiration or high regards it has nothing to do with love.

There are many different types of love by the way.

Think about a person who abused or used you....do you still "respect" them? (Admire or put them in high regards)

MRBrownJ:


the love you have for a family member is different than the LOVE we are discussing about here.



again, do you actually believe that love can blossom with someone that you have no respect for?



now you are talking sista C, many of you are confusing the love we are talking about here



there are many reasons why someone would abuse and/or use you, but one thing is certain, the person doing the ill deeds does not LOVE nor respect the abused person (unless they believe in their fukced up head that abusing your partner is actually love)

the IMPORTANT question IS: do you think that a man who willingly and REPEATEDLY cheats on you, actually loves you?!

MrsChima:

I guess you got me confused with the previously chatter. I made it very clear in my single post that a person who loves someone will not think to hurt that person. I stand on that. I also said you can love someone and still not respect them family or not.

A committed boyfriend and husband is family. So the love for family would be different as of a stranger or an associate.
A Bleep buddy or a booty caller wouldn't have the family love but a lust love.
According to OP, he is a boyfriend so the love would be a family love if they have been committed for a while.

There are people who are not family that I love and do not respect them but it is worst to love FAMILY and not respect them.

MRBrownJ:


well the subject of this thread still is: is it possible to BE IN LOVE and cheat on your spouse. so what is your answer to that?!



by family we are talking of brother, parents etc, not partner because these are 2 distinct type of LOVE. stop mixing the two, as family (aka siblings/parents) love is COMPLETELY different from the love you have for your partner.



i am lost, stay on the subject... and answer the following question: do you think that a husband/bf who willingly and REPEATEDLY cheats on you, actually loves you?!

MrsChima:


Just because YOU disagree with the term doesn't change the fact that a committed partner i.e. husband, fiance, and committed boyfriend is in the same category as family.

I have already answered your question about the love and cheating part....IF YOU TRULY LOVE YOUR PARTNER YOU WON'T CHEAT ON your partner.

My point is you can love someone and not respect someone just like the last chatter told you. I DID NOT SAY OP LOVE HIS GIRLFRIEND.

YOU THINK LOVE AND RESPECT ARE MUTUAL. YOU Can respect someone and don't love them in any fashion.

pslm23:
You have lied to yourself and made yourself believe that you truly love your wife! A lot of men who defend their wayward lifestyles are always quick to scream I LOVE MY WIFE, BUT THIS CHEATING IS IN MY GENES, I CAN'T HELP MYSELF! Puleasseeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!! Cheating is a disease, like taking cocaine and other hard drugs. But that habit, like drugs can be kicked if the DETERMINATION is there! If you know your wife is your missing rib and the center of your being, if you know she compliments you as a man, if you know she's the best wife and mother any man can ever ask for, if she still has ALL the qualities you ever wanted in a woman, then dude, you have absolutely no reason to go boinking any other woman! You are a selfish man and honestly, you ought to be ashamed of yourself for even starting this thread by proclaiming undying love for your wife and then add that you are a serial cheat!

I'm sorry if this is a bit harsh, but i truly have zero tolerance for cheating men! Tell me, when you are on top of another woman, do you see your wife's face? when you are kissing another woman, does an image of your beautiful wife cross your mind? when you place your lips on another woman's mammary glands, do you imagine they are your wife's?
Why bother get married in the first place if hopping from aisha to bisi to nkiru to Jezebel was what you truly wanted to do? I don't know if you are Christian or Muslim but i want to believe that when you got married you both SWORE on the HOLY BOOK to remain faithful to each other, hmmmmmmm, are you now mocking God and your vows? you know the Bible says there's a special place in HELL for men that cheat?

Bottom line, go home to your wife, look at her, remember why you love her, tell her your weakness, tell her you've cheated on her for probably the duration of your marriage and ask her to forgive you. Then make the f'ing effort to STOP all that mess! You don't know where the end will meet you, it better not be with a ho0ker.

Yesterday on TV, I watched a shocking news story that happened in Philadelphia. A man had been cheating on his wife and one day, this girlfriend went to her married lovers house and fired 3 shots at his wife and kids as she was bringing groceries out the car. Two bullets struck the woman in the stomach and one hit their infant daughter .....

MEN, CHEATING ON YOUR WIVES PUTS THEM, YOUR KIDS AND HOME IN MORTAL DANGER

MrsChima:
LMAO@husband and fiance can't be a family member.
I thought I heard EVERYTHING but. No!

MRBrownJ:


stop trying to twist everything around, we are taking about LOVE from a partner here, and the LOVE you have for a sibling/parent (aka FAMILY) is way different than the LOVE you have for a partner (they certainy cant "cheat" on you) . so whether you want to call them all "family" (to each their own), they are NOT the same LOVE.... which is the subject of this thread.

MrsChima:


The love I HAVE for MY HUSBAND is the same love I HAVE FOR MY MOTHER ETC.

Sorry!

MRBrownJ:


lol, if you actually believe that they are THE SAME, then fair enough, you must be a special one. but, for the sake of making this discussion interesting, let me ask you these few questions.... since both are the same:
- are you in love with your mother?!
- did you choose to love your mother just like you chose to love your husband?
- does the love you have for your husband based on the same foundation as the love you have for your mother?
- since the love you have for your husband is the same as the one you have for your mother, who would you choose if you had only two parachutes and the plane was crashing with all 3 of you in it?

MRBrownJ:


i guess we have a different definition of LOVE.

MrsChima:


I agree. In used to think that love and respect are interchangeable until I understood the truth behind love and perspectives of love. I realized people have different definition of love and respect.

Imagine a woman saying a man doesn't love her until he beat her.

EnlightenedSoul:


Not to mean that I outrightly disrespect the people I don't 'respect', but if I speak for myself, the number of people I respect I can count on one hand (with digits to spare), whereas the people I care for and/or love are near numerous and diverse in nature, degree, and method [of love]. But I digress...

The definition agrees with me. It's your perception of it that differs. Never was love synonymous with respect. Still, I don't wish to argue with you.

MRBrownJ:


so what you are saying is that YOU CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH A MAN YOU HAVE NO RESPECT FOR... and therefore i am saying again, we have a different definition of LOVE.