platinumnk:

My parents are trying to tear me and my bf apart

Aww. . . what don't they like about him?

My parents have such a distrust of Nigeria that is putting a big hamper on my relationship.

I am supposed to come to 9ja for my grandmas burial and also to spend my bday with my baby.

Short version

My mom called me at work and canceld him taking me out and ive been in the dumps all day.

Now I'm going to be seriously all lonely in 9ja ( my good cuzins are not gonna be by me)

While my siblings enjoy the fact that my peeps are gone and party their ass off in the us while i sit alone in another country with tears

ive been really down inthe dumps all day

Aww . . . Nigerian parents are really strict but I suppose it's all for the best. I won't suggest going against their wishes.

Btw, why aren't your siblings going to Nigeria too?

no they didnt have fun last xmas so they defintely didnt want to come espcially if u had to pay for your own flight

which i did

Dang that sucks. Well think of this as a test of the bond in your relationship. I suppose it's going to be a couple of weeks and they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. . .

he lives in PH I live here, we havent seen each other in 5 months!

I pay for my own ticket, and this is how i am treated, 23 on lockdown?!!

I was planning a secret trip to 9ja by myself later this year, but used the funds for this trip.

Now im moving from one house just to sit in another.


this is me--->

Where's PH?

Port Harcourt, Nigeria

ummm im confused u say ur folks want u in 9ja yeah?
so y the tears?
get ur man to come visit u there!
i mean they (ur folks) will be in US yeah?

bluespice:

ummm im confused u say ur folks want u in 9ja yeah?
so y the tears?
get ur man to come visit u there!
i mean they (ur folks) will be in US yeah?

I'm in the US now. I'm traveling to 9ja in a few days. I already paid (with my own money) for my ticket to 9ja. My parents closed down any notion of spending time with my bf in 9ja. And out of five , I am the only one who is traveling with my parents. My siblings are going to stay here, in the US, while I"m all lonely in 9ja.

I love my grandmother, but my main point in going was to spend my bday with my bf who I havent seen in 5 MONTHS!!

ahh,  dont let the tears start again

ur 23, n working u should be able to stand up to ur folks
its high time u acted ur age
i know parents can be tough
especially nigerian parents but ull need to reason with them
explain to them that despite their doubts about nigerian guys, u still havent been dissapointed
let them know ull like to make ur own mistakes n learn from them
have them agree to met him
anything to make em comfy with a nigerian guy dating their baby

if all else fails
have ur guy come to lag anyway (ur going to be staying in lag rite? dunno y i think u will)
shiet they aint gon follow n monitor ur every move now will they?

Pele, I understand what you are going through. Am sure your parents are trying to do what they think is best ( kind of trying to protect you). Just try and allay their fears.

Like bluespice said, if you are going to be in lagos have your bf come to lagos. You are not going to be with your parents 24/7 na.

thanks for ur replies.
he is coming where i am staying but not for long.

We wont get any privacy at all
Im gonna be surronded by so many nosey family members that it'll be soo umcomfotable.
Why me?

I think Im just gonna plan to come to 9ja on my own next time

gurl have the eatries, hotels n hang out spots in wherever ur staying finished?
i know u hurting but u beginning to sound a lil bit babyish rite now. . .

bluespice:

gurl have the eatries, hotels n hang out spots in wherever ur staying finished?
i know u hurting but u beginning to sound a lil bit babyish rite now. . .

I know but my parents are not letting me go! They dont even trust my older cousins. They always yabba about kidnapping. When I came for xmas, me and my sisters barely stayed in VI (Victoria Island, Lagos) for 20 mins before my mom started calling for us to come back. They will not allow me to move around by myself, even though I know I can. They believe that everyone in 9ja is theives and kidnappers. Sometimes I dont believe they were born there


I couldnt even walk outside my compund without protection. shesh

time to let go of the apron strings

go to 9ja but before u leave make them aware ur going to be going out
let ur parents know ur no longer a child
if u dont act like an adult, they'll keep on treating u like a kid
thats wat my mom says
about their following ur every move,
there are soo many ways to get 'lost'

to start with, u can blame the innability to get to ur number on the bad networks
u know u switched ur fone off
u can blame ur coming back home late on traffic, lagos traffic is legendary

okay we dont want to spoil mommy n daddy's baby but im just saying . . .

bluespice:

time to let go of the apron strings

go to 9ja but before u leave make them aware ur going to be going out
let ur parents know ur no longer a child
if u dont act like an adult, they'll keep on treating u like a kid
thats wat my mom says
about their following ur every move,
there are soo many ways to get 'lost'

to start with, u can blame the innability to get to ur number on the bad networks
u know u switched ur fone off
u can blame ur coming back home late on traffic, lagos traffic is legendary

okay we dont want to spoil mommy n daddy's baby but im just saying . . .

I think thats what I'm gonna do, after all i paid for my ticket. If there are repercussions when i come back so be it

I talked to my bf about that last nite, but he doesnt want to a part of any drama.

hun ur an adult
if there r repercussions its just them sulking

thanks blue. . . really good advice. .
I feel so much better

anytime hun
anytime

why is the other one pissed off?

studio43:

studio, this' a chat thread and not for shilren

thanks jare ben

bluespice:

anytime hun
anytime

why is the other one pissed off?

Lol . . i wonder

@platinumnk
Girl . . . . . .ur parent doesnt have to get along with u bf but u have to let them know that he is part of u and they have to accept it like that unless ofcos they have a valid reason as to why they dont want u with him.

Ben,
my guy,

i buy market for your hand and refused to pay?
why u dey pursue me everywhere i go naw.

i dey bow for you o  



platinum,

dont mention    

emmm i think its imperative people know the section they r before they begin to post

bluespice:

emmm i think its imperative people know the section they r before they begin to post

gbam!

tope5000:

Lol . . i wonder

@platinumnk
Girl . . . . . .ur parent doesnt have to get along with u bf but u have to let them know that he is part of u and they have to accept it like that unless ofcos they have a valid reason as to why they dont want u with him.

they don't have any. they distrust like 99% of nigerians, which is sad

ur rite it is

Is this the complain thread? Please. Let me make my complain and hopefully the poster got mouth to solve ma problem oo. . .


My complain is that. . . .










I'm in love with a Nairalander but. . , .

but what

I fart too much

@gab
just lock your yarsh whenever you dey with am