biina:

I am a bit skeptical of this one-sided bashing

Bashing on the side of the OP or on the side of the sister?

spikedcylinder:

Bashing on the side of the OP or on the side of the sister?

eyeshadow:

Hmmm, maybe I should ask her to join the thread. You would like that isn't it. Want to see some cat fight eh? Nice.

eyeshadow:

iice, only met her before we got engage but she somewhat reclusive and can stay in her room for 24 hours; only coming out to eat and use the bathroom. The relationship between them, he likes to feel close to her but she always seems so bitter about everything and doesn't like to associate with anyone. 

eyeshadow:

olanajim, when I met her I noticed she was not very friendly. Then she complained to him that she didn't like me calling her by name. I then started putting "sister" before her name(she's older than me by a year and he's older than her by 5). Then it became little complaints like me not going to church when I'm over, her not liking the colour of my eyeshadow and the one that broke the camel's back - she thinks I'm not happy that her brother likes her. I honestly thought she had more sense than she displayed the day she said that.

eyeshadow:

That's exactly what I want to do to her Spikedcylinder but I feel bad for my partner who always feels sorry for her. He thinks she's sad and always wants to make her happy. He hopes this will make her change. I have told him though that the very next time she tries me she will be very shocked at my reaction. She is really very silly and I don't care if she finds a man or not. She should just leave before the year ends cos there is no way I'm staying in his house if as much as a pair of shoes belonging to her are still there by the time we wed. He knows how I feel sha. I think she's just an old, sad witch, he says she reminds him of his late mum. TOUGH!

eyeshadow:

amebo no 1, I don't think but KNOW the problem is from me. My problem however is that I am prettier and more outgoing than she is. Unfortunately for her, I can't change and for that reason, the next time I visit, I'll make sure I wear every colour of eyeshadow I own, just to frustrate her. 

eyeshadow:

Thanks for the advice. Initially when I met her I tried to be friendly even as we are very different people but now I know we can never be friends however I don't want us to be enemies for the sake of her brother who loves her a lot. I'm not desperate for marriage and he knows and I don't try to take the attention from her (even though quite honestly it can be very easy by mere standing beside her). I have ignored every single thing she's done to me except the last one and I don't even discuss it with my family or friends cos I don't want it to escalate.

At the end of the day we'll be married and she will have to live with it.

eyeshadow:

I appreciate your advise especially as you sound quite experienced. Could you please then tell me what you would do in my situation? I have never had this sort of problem in the past and although I think I have done very well by ignoring her I won't want to be described as a fool cos I'm not one.

eyeshadow:

amebo no 1, I don't think but KNOW the problem is from me. My problem however is that I am prettier and more outgoing than she is. Unfortunately for her, I can't change and for that reason, the next time I visit, I'll make sure I wear every colour of eyeshadow I own, just to frustrate her. 

eyeshadow:

Gosh someone is angry. No need for name calling!

eyeshadow:

Biina. You don't have to be fond of anything. I came here
1. To vent my anger as I'm not able to do that to her or any of my friends and family
2. To get advice from people who have been in similar situations which would bring me to  
3. To come to a sensible conclusion as to what to do.

I have done all 3 and therefore I'm very happy.
Baby girl, if you have any advice, maybe if you have been in my shoes (or in hers) let me know what you would do. I'm not really interested in what you are fond of. Thanks sis.  

eyeshadow:

The thing is I can call her that on here but not to her face. I'm not uncomfortable about anything. It's actually the opposite. I know I'm not this nasty person in real life but your angry reaction allows me know how annoyed people around me (especially my future sis-in law) would be should I decided to be. Thanks dude.