Good evening everyone, I am officially new to BellaNaija. I love this and this article " Olajumoke Awosemo: When Sex Walks Away From Your Matrimonial Bedroom" /touched me and the comments were wow.

No need to hide, in my marriage, I am experiencing such now. I know sex before marriage is bad, but while I was dating my wife, we collaboed some times and she was the one asking for it and reluctantly I give in as I love her so much.

Okay we got married and have kids and its 7 years now, from the 3rd year, its been a lot of ‘black out’, she doesn’t fancy sex. I know we are busy and we have to work to keep two kids going but I feel we can’t forget we married each other.

I have spoken to her several times on this topic, but no changes. I cheated once, in the course of the marriage, how it happened was still a mystery. I felt the attention I lacked at home but I know I don’t love that woman. During the sex, I felt so bad as I know I was not suppose to do it. I retraced my steps and from the 4th year I have kept on and remained faithful. But I am so frustrated as our sex life hasn’t improved. Social life also dead.

I felt I was just a means to an end, just to achieve the marriage status for wifey. I have spoken to her on this topic, no improvement. Hence I have ignored it as it always leads to a quarrel.

So a young man is living like an old man and I am determined not to cheat again after I did it once, knowing I was starved of affection.

What do I do?

Source: http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/11/18/aunty-bella-mr-sex-starved-marriage/

Go for marriage counseling and start afresh.
Google on tips to revive a dying marriage.
Change some of your normal and usual approaches towards intimacy.

Once a lady has lost her libido that's it. It's gone for good. You're chasing a lost cause. Try other alternatives or suffer in silence

Estharfabian:
Lo! i'd Suggest You keep it cool.. Everything shouldn't revolve around "SEX"...

Atleast the cuddles And Hugs should be Enough...

Did you say enough? she has to find her mojo for the sake of her marriage (if she still values it) and her man. We're talking of married couples, young ones for that matter. Sex is as important to the marriage as anything else. let's not act the saint here

ur wife is having maleria.and lacks sexual drive.

joanana:
Good evening everyone, I am officially new to BellaNaija. I love this and this article " Olajumoke Awosemo: When Sex Walks Away From Your Matrimonial Bedroom" /touched me and the comments were wow.

No need to hide, in my marriage, I am experiencing such now. I know sex before marriage is bad, but while I was dating my wife, we collaboed some times and she was the one asking for it and reluctantly I give in as I love her so much.

Okay we got married and have kids and its 7 years now, from the 3rd year, its been a lot of ‘black out’, she doesn’t fancy sex. I know we are busy and we have to work to keep two kids going but I feel we can’t forget we married each other.

I have spoken to her several times on this topic, but no changes. I cheated once, in the course of the marriage, how it happened was still a mystery. I felt the attention I lacked at home but I know I don’t love that woman. During the sex, I felt so bad as I know I was not suppose to do it. I retraced my steps and from the 4th year I have kept on and remained faithful. But I am so frustrated as our sex life hasn’t improved. Social life also dead.

I felt I was just a means to an end, just to achieve the marriage status for wifey. I have spoken to her on this topic, no improvement. Hence I have ignored it as it always leads to a quarrel.

So a young man is living like an old man and I am determined not to cheat again after I did it once, knowing I was starved of affection.

What do I do?

Source: http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/11/18/aunty-bella-mr-sex-starved-marriage/

Hello Jo,
I'm out of work for now and part my not being idle routine is to listen to some messages, so I was trying to get some of TD Jakes and I got ur thread via google.

Do you still have his messages?

Eyekandi:



Hello Jo,
I'm out of work for now and part my not being idle routine is to listen to some messages, so I was trying to get some of TD Jakes and I got ur thread via google.

Do you still have his messages?

Yes I do. I will send the link to you.

Eyekandi:



Hello Jo,
I'm out of work for now and part my not being idle routine is to listen to some messages, so I was trying to get some of TD Jakes and I got ur thread via google.

Do you still have his messages?

Yes I do. I will send the link to you.

https://www.nairaland.com/1353840/bishop-t-d-jakes-7steps
Use this link. If you need more I will send it to you

Estharfabian:
Lo! i'd Suggest You keep it cool.. Everything shouldn't revolve around "SEX"...

Atleast the cuddles And Hugs should be Enough...

If u had a cock and in your 30's or 40's u wouldn't be saying dis so dear I don't really blame u

chai I feel for u bro.why don't u guys consult a counsellor.they might help.my opinion

cold:
Once a lady has lost her libido that's it. It's gone for good. You're chasing a lost cause. Try other alternatives or suffer in silence

She hasn't lost her libido.

She's no longer attracted to him.

Hmmm!!! U guies really need help man! Just few years of marriage, u sure she faithful? Why da hell would she deprive you of ur conjugals. Damn! N ur sayn u don't wana cheat? Ur a good loving husband. U hav to tell som1, seein a therapist might not be so bad, her mothr could help too. Hypothetically if I'm profering this as an advice, whc technically am not but if I were in ur shoes, thr'll be no peace in dat haus, so becaus its causing quarrel u'v decided to stop askn her for it, step up man, she's ur wife. Am not sayin turn ur wife to ur slave but she should undrstand dats exactly wht she's turnin u into. Life indeed a mistery! Men dat sleep arround thr wives would be crying evryday beging dem for sex see bettr man now wife de Bleep up.

joanana:


Yes I do. I will send the link to you.

https://www.nairaland.com/1353840/bishop-t-d-jakes-7steps
Use this link. If you need more I will send it to you

Thanks dear, I can't still seem to access it, could I get it directly from you?

Stories that touch the Liver.

Buy her spanish fly. She will literally break your dick into two.

sorry to announce it to you, but your wife is CHEATING ON YOU.

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