totalhouse:


Even though the question sounds absurd, it still remains the reality. Nothing should be held back when it comes to knowing much about the person you are settling down with...
For me i have questions for the op

Have they have carnal knowledge of themselves? If yes under the 2 months then the question is in order.

Has he noticed anything in her pointing to the question raised?

What is op opinion about her?

If the answers to the questions are not negative then it could be that she felt insulted despite her good virtues at the full 'glare' of the op.

MzPecs:

You have a point there..

The girl flared either because she's guilty of the question or like you said, she felt insulted despite her good virtues while with the OP for 2mnths.

The OP still should not have asked her that question considering the fact that the relationship is barely 2mnths old.

Gaborone:
Goodevening totalhouse.

Saw your mention. I really don't see anything wrong with his question, not even with the timing. I feel that's a valid question to ask any lady who is/has been sexually active. It's better to clear certain things in a relationship early on, to save both parties from wasting time if they discover something they can't deal with.

Gaborone:
Goodevening totalhouse.

Saw your mention. I really don't see anything wrong with his question, not even with the timing. I feel that's a valid question to ask any lady who is/has been sexually active. It's better to clear certain things in a relationship early on, to save both parties from wasting time if they discover something they can't deal with

Samfigo1:
Hello everyone! I didn't want to bring this up but I can't just imagine how this question could make her so annoyed. Before I say the question, let me take you down the memory lane.
I started dating this girl for two months(I don't know if we're still dating, I'll tell you the reason why I say so), everything has been going on smoothly not until recently when we started asking each other questions. She has asked me so many questions, some of the questions are as follow:

My Babe: Have you dated before?

Me : Of course!

My Babe: Why did u break up?

Me: We didn't get along with each other, so we decided to call it quit.

My Babe: Oh I see....

She has asked me series of questions but I never asked her any.
One day precisely 3days ago, I decided to ask her this simple question that shouldn't take a minute to answer!
Have you been pregnant before? She paused and looked straight into my eyes and said What sort of question is that? What do l take her for? Am I saying she had done abortions before? She hissed, stood and left, since 2days now we've not called, sent text to each other.
Does the question sound absurd? why did she take it so personal? I have decided not to apologize because I don't think I have done wrong, that's why I said earlier that I don't know if we're still dating!

Samfigo1:
Thanks jawe ,thank God it's coming from a person ! I don't know how I would have stylishly asked such question!

VampireeM:
For me I dont see anything wrong with the question you asked her. I feel guys should ask ladies they intend getting serious with that question. Am wondering why she is vexing that much if she doesnt ve a skeleton in her cupboard.. You did well samfigo1 and make sure she gives you an answer before you guys continue

Xiadnat:
The apology letter below is not an ideal apology. It is wrought with defensiveness, rationalization and justification. It nullifies the apology.

Here is how it should go:

First email from you: "Dear: (insert name), I am sorry for asking you such a question. I did not mean to upset or offend you.

If she replies: It's okay. blah blah. Or she may tell you why she is vexed by the question etc.

Second email from you:. OK. I understand.

And, if she didn't tell you why the question was offensive to her, then your next question would be: If you feel comfortable telling me, please, I would like to know why the question upset you so".

Then so on and so forth........You are now in damage control and restoration mode with further chats.

This is the art of effective communication. Afterall, the dating period is for learning each other, NOT for coital acts and superficialities.

If you proceed properly, your relationship should get back on the right tract. And, if it doesn't, well, then that is also the point of dating. No biggies.

Samfigo1:
This is one of the reasons I was contemplating of not bringing this topic up! You for kuku call me a silly guy now! The last topic you created though! The power of Sanctification. Are you sanctified?

VampireeM:
For me I dont see anything wrong with the question you asked her. I feel guys should ask ladies they intend getting serious with that question. Am wondering why she is vexing that much if she doesnt ve a skeleton in her cupboard.. You did well samfigo1 and make sure she gives you an answer before you guys continue

MzPecs:
Silly guys with silly questions!

SexyStrawberry:
Mehn Op! u were too direct! hehehehehehehe, but her actions to me shows that she's guilty of something, lemme not say guilty of abortion o! hehehehehehe if na me u ask that question, I will definitely be shocked at first coz for u to ask me that thing, hmmmm e be like say my body don show u signs and u just want to confirm, lolzzzzzz but I will still answer u nonetheless, but anyway just apologise and give her time, she will come back to her senses.
We ladies are complex beings u know

Samfigo1:
Hello everyone! I didn't want to bring this up but I can't just imagine how this question could make her so annoyed. Before I say the question, let me take you down the memory lane.
I started dating this girl for two months(I don't know if we're still dating, I'll tell you the reason why I say so), everything has been going on smoothly not until recently when we started asking each other questions. She has asked me so many questions, some of the questions are as follow:

My Babe: Have you dated before?

Me : Of course!

My Babe: Why did u break up?

Me: We didn't get along with each other, so we decided to call it quit.

My Babe: Oh I see....

She has asked me series of questions but I never asked her any.
One day precisely 3days ago, I decided to ask her this simple question that shouldn't take a minute to answer!
Have you been pregnant before? She paused and looked straight into my eyes and said What sort of question is that? What do l take her for? Am I saying she had done abortions before? She hissed, stood and left, since 2days now we've not called, sent text to each other.
Does the question sound absurd? why did she take it so personal? I have decided not to apologize because I don't think I have done wrong, that's why I said earlier that I don't know if we're still dating!