truly-opal:

@ poster

Why are women so hard on themselves, either we like it or not the mental and psychological network of a woman is diffrent from that of a man. If you aint willing to take care of you family , why start one in the first place. All the ladies making noise abt balancin work and family definately aint reffering to nigerian setup, ypu leave for work at 6:00 and get back by 9:00, u be witch 2 be able to assist ur kids with home work, cook a lovely meal for ur man and have extra strenght to give him some TLC,
My kids (when i eventually hav them) are my No. 1 investment. no amount of money carreer i have will ever be compared in importance to them. O.K agreed , the husband may die, well, i have seen many carreer women that toiled for years and saved money together with hubby and buy joint properties with him, only for hubby 2 die and his relatives claiming everything. Ehen , the husband can desert you , we are all living in a world of uncertainity, thousands of people are dissmissed from there jobs, owing to 1 reform or the other, or simply becos the new boss wants 2 provide space for his towns ppl in the office.
My suggesstion is;
1) if my husbands salary is very unimpressive, i will definately contribute. By getting a job that allows me to appreciate my family. such as teaching or weekend jobs.
2) if my husband earns reasonably well, i will stay at home and be a STAY AT HOME MOM, take 100% care of my kids, wats d point of d cash their daddy is making if they see the faces of strangers mare than their parents.NAHHHH. though a stay at home mom needs side attractions to keep her brain active, my hubby will give me some cash to invest in WISELY. makin me my own boss at my own pace.
3) If i feel i must work to justify my certificates, i will shelve kids and possibly marriage until i reach a gud carreer position and have earned mega bucks.Then i will smartly invest my money, retire, get married and have kids ( all is possible with technology) and enjoy my money, hubby and kids.
THIS LIFE IS TO BE ENJOYED, NOT TO BE ENDURED

Redfox:

It is easier said than done,most ladies will just blab in this forum and at the end of the day turn up housewives especially those ones that are desperate to tie the nuptial knot with uncountable reasons, age factor been the foremost.

you never know till they get married.

zaliya:

Please irrespective of the fact that one works or better still a career woman doesn't make one less a WIFE. The bone of contention here is are you a career-wife or a House- wife.

I can't imagine a lady as a medical doctor sitting at home and practicing medicine only on her KIDS and husband!!!!! she needs to get up and go add value to her nation.
See the likes of MADAM CECELIA IBRU. If she decided to sit at home all in the name of 'housewifing', there wouldn't have been any OCEANIC BANK today. Let's add value to ourselves and to the society as women.

Fhemmmy:

There is nothing wrong in a woman choosing a career over being a house wife.
There is nothing wrong either in a woman choosing to be a housewife over being a career woman.

kok:

Yes but it has to be properly aligned and well understood. Most ladies ignore one for the other and end up creating crisis in the home.

*Hauwa*:

if my man is making real good money, no need dealing with weird boss and work stress 

never say never so i don't know what's going to happen until then. my man and kids will always be first. thank God am in a good place, if he messes up, i'd definitely make him shit sweat.

*Hauwa*:

he is going to be doing the shitting

Moyola:

Housewife wiv full pay? then yeh

*Hauwa*:

if my man is making real good money, no need dealing with weird boss and work stress 

never say never so i don't know what's going to happen until then. my man and kids will always be first. thank God am in a good place, if he messes up, i'd definitely make him shit sweat.

*Hauwa*:

@ Pataki, in my dream? lol

ifedy:

Ok lets imagine a little girl that has always aspired to become a doctor.  She left high school with good grades but couldnt get into uni because of JAMB scores. she tried all her best, but she couldnt get medicine, but she got other courses. But she really wanted medicine until after 4years of leaving high school. She got to study medicine abroad with her parents and sibbling struggling to pay 2million naira every year for tution aside other expenses which can be arround 2.5 million for 6years.
Ok she finished got a job and was getting good wages until a guy came to sweep her off her feet into the house to become a housewife with the certificate where She could have saved her parents, her sibblings and herself all those troubles

chaircover:

The irony of the situation is that is most cases when the couple are newly married, money is tight and the woman finds herself working to support the family whilst the kids are young. As the years go by, the couple move up the career ladder and begin to make more money, by which time the children are much older and dont need mummy to wipe their noses anymore.

fine-apple:

One of the most important jobs in the world is to raise a child to become a responsible grown-up. Dear ladies there is nothing boring about being a housewife. If you made kids please be available to BE with them, wipe their nose, sing to them, read to them, kiss their boo-boos, make meals for them introduce them to the world etc etc. And if you are married to a husband BE there for them when they are back from work, etc.

Career ladies, does these makes u a housewife

fine-apple:

One of the most important jobs in the world is to raise a child to become a responsible grown-up. Dear ladies there is nothing boring about being a housewife. If you made kids please be available to BE with them, wipe their nose, sing to them, read to them, kiss their boo-boos, make meals for them introduce them to the world etc etc. And if you are married to a husband BE there for them when they are back from work, etc. I certainly do not mind being a housewife. Because in turn my husband takes care of me. (Men love being superheros ). Being a lady doesn't make sub-anything to your husbands, you are partners with different duties for a happy family. Your degrees/brain don't ever go to waste and you can always get into the workforce when kids are grown and out of the house. This my little opinion. Thanks