Hello nairaland. I am a 23yr old lady seeking for a way to overcome my shyness and get views on how people deal with different personalities. Last week i was sent on a quick errand to a shop close to my apartment, after purchasing what i came for, the shop owner told me i needed to change the way i treat people and stop being a snob. She proceeded to say that the last time i came to her shop, i just came down from my car and didn't greet anybody despite seeing a lot of people there . I became sad because this was not the first time i was getting judged unfairly, it is upsetting that people think i am a snob and arrogant while in reality i am shy and awkward; i like to think that i am a warm, peaceful person and being rude is the last thing I'd want to be intentionally doing if i could help it. .....i have never been lucky with friends so i fly solo most times

I wish i could walk into a room without attracting attention but no, people always look at me and i get panic attacks and end up behaving awkwardly and silly , being seen as a spoilt brat doesn't help either, if Miss A forgets to say hi its fine but when i do; oh my! she thinks she is a mini god.... It is funny that i see myself as nice but awkward person while others see me as a snob and a show off, i wish people understood shy people better and stop projecting their insecurities onto things that they don't understand, i wish people will learn to be nicer to other people instead of being so mean & ignorant

Gossips don't normally get to me but i am tired of getting; so you are nice i thought you were arrogant speech from people , how do i cope with dis issue without losing myself ?

go and be singing..


they will be the first person to greet you and be begging gor autographs if you are ASA or tiwa savage..

i have learnt not to give a fvvck about ehat others say.. in a hard way

Dats ur personality but if u feel pipu keep telling u dat u a snob dats bcus it's 2ru.

Jst try 2 loosen up a bit lyk acknowledging people wherever u r cuz it commands respect

Aw...people will always say what they want to say. Don't let them get to you
I use to be like you..maybe worse sef .
I got better by joining organisations. Social clubs like rotary, JCI or Aisec can help you meet new ppl who you will get comfortable with over time and this will help you deal with other ppl.
If someone stares at you too much or you walk in a midst of so many ppl, a simple good morning can ease the tension or simply looking at them, smiling and go on with ur business van help
Also have this mindset or belief that they are looking at you beca use you are beautiful and unique and awesome..this way you will feel more confident
It worked for me...though am still shy, but I think am better than before

It must be true
Can tell from ur write up

Just take it on board n change ... U seem arrogant too .. Ur hot u get car , u get attention e don do .. Be humble if not... Anyway your in the right place dear

Mercedes65:
Hello nairaland. I am a 23yr old lady seeking for a way to overcome my shyness and get views on how people deal with different personalities. Last week i was sent on a quick errand to a shop close to my apartment, after purchasing what i came for, the shop owner told me i needed to change the way i treat people and stop being a snob. She proceeded to say that the last time i came to her shop, i just came down from my car and didn't greet anybody despite seeing a lot of people there . I became sad because this was not the first time i was getting judged unfairly, it is upsetting that people think i am a snob and arrogant while in reality i am shy and awkward; i like to think that i am a warm, peaceful person and being rude is the last thing I'd want to be intentionally doing if i could help it. .....i have never been lucky with friends so i fly solo most times

I wish i could walk into a room without attracting attention but no, people always look at me and i get panic attacks and end up behaving awkwardly and silly , being seen as a spoilt brat doesn't help either, if Miss A forgets to say hi its fine but when i do; oh my! she thinks she is a mini god.... It is funny that i see myself as nice but awkward person while others see me as a snob and a show off, i wish people understood shy people better and stop projecting their insecurities onto things that they don't understand, i wish people will learn to be nicer to other people instead of being so mean & ignorant

Gossips don't normally get to me but i am tired of getting; so you are nice i thought you were arrogant speech from people , how do i cope with dis issue without losing myself ?

my dear same with me oooo.they just thnkim snub,whn I'm not cos I'm d shy type.I don't associate easily

Stop giving a shiit about what people say

Thank you , its a nice place to start from

lonngmann:
Aw...people will always say what they want to say. Don't let them get to you
I use to be like you..maybe worse sef .
I got better by joining organisations. Social clubs like rotary, JCI or Aisec can help you meet new ppl who you will get comfortable with over time and this will help you deal with other ppl.
If someone stares at you too much or you walk in a midst of so many ppl, a simple good morning can ease the tension or simply looking at them, smiling and go on with ur business van help
Also have this mindset or belief that they are looking at you beca use you are beautiful and unique and awesome..this way you will feel more confident
It worked for me...though am still shy, but I think am better than before

Thank you , its a nice place to start from

Mercedes65:
Hello nairaland. I am a 23yr old lady seeking for a way to overcome my shyness and get views on how people deal with different personalities. Last week i was sent on a quick errand to a shop close to my apartment, after purchasing what i came for, the shop owner told me i needed to change the way i treat people and stop being a snob. She proceeded to say that the last time i came to her shop, i just came down from my car and didn't greet anybody despite seeing a lot of people there . I became sad because this was not the first time i was getting judged unfairly, it is upsetting that people think i am a snob and arrogant while in reality i am shy and awkward; i like to think that i am a warm, peaceful person and being rude is the last thing I'd want to be intentionally doing if i could help it. .....i have never been lucky with friends so i fly solo most times

I wish i could walk into a room without attracting attention but no, people always look at me and i get panic attacks and end up behaving awkwardly and silly , being seen as a spoilt brat doesn't help either, if Miss A forgets to say hi its fine but when i do; oh my! she thinks she is a mini god.... It is funny that i see myself as nice but awkward person while others see me as a snob and a show off, i wish people understood shy people better and stop projecting their insecurities onto things that they don't understand, i wish people will learn to be nicer to other people instead of being so mean & ignorant

Gossips don't normally get to me but i am tired of getting; so you are nice i thought you were arrogant speech from people , how do i cope with dis issue without losing myself ?

Hmm I can relate to your feelings.. you know humans use looks to judge,I just learnt to ignore most times but sometimes u av to go out of ur comfort zone cos the truth is peoples impression about u matters sometimes,it could either help with getting favours or not so put up a smile and try more to just say hello,it helps a great deal..make more friends too online and meet the good ones in person so u can develop ur social skills OK,ul be fine,Most times those that matter don't judge,its those that don't matter who judge..life is too short not to make the best of every moment..goodluck

in short you are an introvert....

StrawberryCream:
It must be true
Can tell from ur write up

Just take it on board n change ... U seem arrogant too .. Ur hot u get car , u get attention e don do .. Be humble if not... Anyway your in the right place dear

lol i never said i was hot, what if they stare at me because i am ugly, think about it for a min. Dont be too quick to judge

Mercedes65:
Thank you , its a nice place to start fromThank you , its a nice place to start from

You welcome

Mercedes65:
lol i never said i was hot, what if they stare at me because i am ugly, think about it for a min. Dont be too quick to judge

U said they always look at u when u walk in or something like that
I have thought about it take it from me tweek ur attitude thats all .. Even if u dont want to tlk just smile at ppl makes a huge difference ..
When i went to nigeria , it was during some hardship i wasnt smiling with no one ... N i came across arrogant : eh see her she don come blah blah blah .. N im far from it so sometimes. The way we carry ourselves can make ppl think we are what were not if that makes sense ..

Just be yourself.

Dont be rude but dont try to live by people's expectations. Try to greet people, especially elders..

Alot of us go through this daily.

It is better to be rich and noticed than poor and hungry.

Funny as it seems, poor people see gossip as the only way to get back at the rich..

Thanks for your comments. I guess i have to smile more since am not rill a talker , i told my neighbour her hair looks nice after exchanging greetings , would have just walked away after greeting her in the past( she seems pleased ) .Small steps

Go out, be sociable, make friends, always put up a smile even if its forced, join clubs( I don't mean tgif type of club), say hello to neighbors,people you meet and people around you, don't wait for them to say hello first... most importantly be yourself.

I used to be like you ,but now I've grown older and wiser. Why shall I shy