House please help me i seriously need your advice.

Am a young lady of 26yrs, i meet this guy after Church in 2007 when i was serving(i serve in Benin Please)
,the guy is niece,honest,Godfearing,caring,understanding,
but he is not educated and cannot speak good English.

He loves me with his life cos i have tried  everything possible to know if he will hate me but the more i tried,the more he loves me even to the extent of telling his parish priest about me.All his family knows and call me without me even meeting them.
He always go to chapel because of me,believing that am his own,

The problem is that he is ready to marry me anytime i said yes,but am not settled in my mind to marry him.(for 2 yrs + now he has been waiting for me).

Am not comfortable with him and not proud of him.I don't even love him but i like him as a person.
Although am good to him,and tried to relate as a friend to him,but am not comfortable with him at all.I have told him severally that am not interested but he kept on pleading that i should allow him into my life.


I don't want to marry out of pity,i want somebody i love.am confuse cos i don't want to hurt him.he is too good to be hurt.
Please advice me,on how to go about it so as not to hurt his feelings(cos am taking my time as regard to anything relationship now cos i don't want to be a victim again)

WHAT WILL I DO??

Did You date him OR You've both being just friends for this 2yrs+?

we are just friends ,but he want more than that,
he is coming too close and i dont like it.i need a space,

@uglychy

I feel u, i think u should calmly explain things to his family, tell them how u feel, even parish priest, cos it will may get worst. He may listen to them and give u some breathing space.
Keep ur cool as u have done so far, but stand ur ground since u don't love him, don't high his hopes by any means cos that will encourage him.

Good luck

I think You should pass your message across to him politely and intently. . . .
Not in a  ''Go-away-I- want-You'' manner.

I think you should be blunt without being hostile, because if you don't make it clear to him now, he will feel like you have been encouraging him all this time. IF YOU ARE SURE you cannot have a relationship with this man, the set him free, cause he doesn't want to be your friend, he wants to be your HUSBAND.

from all indications ur english aint fabulous either, so unfabulous that ive 4gotten all i wnted to say, all i cn remember is ur errrr english that leaves a bitter taste in my brain,, oyes i think u sld give the dude a chance, u never know the nxt man, might not only have poor english,he might be blind in one eye,suffer from serious mouth and body odour and worst of all he might not even be a christian, if i were u i wldnt let this oppurtunity pass u by, this might be as good as it gets, oh am so mean

Don't you think beautifulchy would have been a better username.Cuz yours reek of low self esteem.Not cool

tell him ur mind n stop wasting d poor guy's time!

@post,
if ur main reason u turning him down is cos he is uneducated, then that's some wrong choice u making.
education is supposed to make us prepared for the life ahead, its not so way to show off u got a degree.
if he is capable of meeting family responsibility, then i say he is okay.

one thing girls fail to realise is that, when u meet the educated one, u begin to rue the fact u gave up this fabulous opportunity  just for a degree
that treats u shabbily.

unless u dint love him, i suggest u give him a chance.
but then again how are u sure u don't love him?
and u sound like u have been stringing him along all this while for ur own selfish gains. my take though.

Just go about it wit modesty..dis guy iz desperate..folo ur heart..

uglychy:
Am not comfortable with him and not proud of him.I don't even love him but i like him as a person.

@OP
The above statement should be the end of the discussion, and I really don't know where you problem is? You are confused where there should be NO CONFUSION. Tell this guy exactly how you feel and move away, instead of wasting HIS time and YOURS.

This is exactly why we men don't understand women, when most think the way you do.

^^lol....op how are we sure you didn't lead this guy on by collecting things from him,I mean what do you expect after all you say he's uneducated (like you'r any different from him)....I'm not concluding you did o!...lol...but he could also think that way even if he does love you as you claim,afterall he's UNEDUCATED!

Йą wa for some guys sef! Ђδω i go chase one chic for 2years? I dey crase?