I just arrive lagos to hear some unpalatable news about my tenant. This yoruba family blessed with three children. The wife is a struggling woman. Doing her best to provide for the home and truthfully all the while I have known this man. He has been reasonable, a loving parent. He could do anything to provide for his family. Yet this year no rent payment, no nepa payment, yet we pump water free with either generator or nepa to ensure the taps in his home are running always as well as other amenities

I was told my another neighbour that this man now sleeps in the house of another woman old enough to be his mother, on inquiry to his wife as to the whereabouts of the husband. She told me he says he wanna hustle at night buying produce from far away towns. Unknowingly to her the stupid man has been sleeping out with another woman, a widow old enough to be his mother. I believe juju must be involved, because I never envisioned such character from him.

Anyway it isn't my business how he wants to ruin his family. But my concern is that news from the grapevine indicates he just paid the house rent of the so called woman. Yet he hasn't paid the one his family lives in. This is my bone of contention. I pity the family but I don't have time for empathy especially when my money is concerned (I am an igbo man). This is soon April and his rent expired since October last year.

I believe a quit notice could harm the wife and kids more than the hopeless man. But Wat can I do. I doubt advice to a man under a spell will work. Hence haven't called him to advise him. Am really stewing and confused on what to do.

If the rent is yearly you can give them the option of paying in instalments, maybe monthly, or any other way they can pay it regularly.

Your tenant's private life is not your business, so I don't think there's any need harping on it. If you're fed up you can simply write off their debt and send them out.
Besides what's the essence of stating your tribe?
Do others play or joke with their money??

thesicilian:
Your tenant's private life is not your business

but he hasn't paid his rent, yet could afford the rent of someone else. Was told of that from a reliable source

Evict them from your house Wen it's the due date!

Eddygourdo:
but he hasn't paid his rent, yet could afford the rent of someone else. Was told of that from a reliable source

Reliable sources aren't always reliable

leave trash 4 lawma....ur tenants life isn't your business .Give them a quit notice ,that's what you should do or u give them some time since you pity the wife .But your house rent is your business not your tenants sugar mummy. ..

I will advise you to call the man and ask him why he's delaying the payment,almost half a year,cheatn or no cheatn dats not ur consign,if he like he should destroy his home or he can do otherwise,

Oga landlord, dont mix emotion wit business. The best u can do is to gv dem a quit notice, u don try reach

Give them quit notice even though you don't intend kicking them out if they cant meet up with the deadline...

Its his life and his family, don't get involved in their personal life and don't let what he does make you sentimental...
Cheating men are liars, can you imagine adding sentiments and later he turns out to say you are the one cheating with his wife that's why you didn't do anything all these while

Mr op kindly mind your business, take what's yours and leave trash for LAWMA

This attitude of Nigerians and I don't care attitudee towards our neighbour is d reason things keep getting worse, dear landlord pls call ur tenant to order. He may listen to you as he owes u, he may respect u and listen to u.
I think the society is geetting it all wrong this days, gone are those days wen we are our brothers keeper, wen ur neighbour will be the one to train ur children for u in ur absence. Things where better those days, promiscuity was not this pronouced bcoz we where our brothers keeper. Parents can't be everyhere everytime so neighbours do their jobs for them attimes by spanking a wayward child. But this days ur neighbour sees ur child dressed trashy and just walk pass bcoz its not their biz. And thesame people see those children online half unclad and say wat is this orld turning into, sister it is turning to wat we have made it.
Dear landlord please call d man and hear his own part of d story and advice accordingly and ask for ur rent to be paid in installment.
#beurneighbourskeeper

Thanks all. The response has cleared the guilt I had. No point trying to speak to him about his behaviour and exactly how such is affecting his obligations to me rent wise. Will call him at most on Monday and issue him the quit notice. Though I pity him. He has always been a reasonable man. Where he learnt this disgraceful behaviour is surprising. I have lost all respect for him.

sunny442:
This attitude of Nigerians and I don't care attitudee towards our neighbour is d reason things keep getting worse, dear landlord pls call ur tenant to order. He may listen to you as he owes u, he may respect u and listen to u.
I think the society is geetting it all wrong this days, gone are those days wen we are our brothers keeper, wen ur neighbour will be the one to train ur children for u in ur absence. Things where better those days, promiscuity was not this pronouced bcoz we where our brothers keeper. Parents can't be everyhere everytime so neighbours do their jobs for them attimes by spanking a wayward child. But this days ur neighbour sees ur child dressed trashy and just walk pass bcoz its not their biz. And thesame people see those children online half unclad and say wat is this orld turning into, sister it is turning to wat we have made it.
Dear landlord please call d man and hear his own part of d story and advice accordingly and ask for ur rent to be paid in installment.
#beurneighbourskeeper

was thinking of doing that, but this man is likely in a juju spell by the woman. For four years he has lived with me. He has never ever been a bad tenant or exhibited this behaviour. I was told he is the fourth married man falling for the so called widow. If he is under a spell. How will advice work, or won't the woman attack my informant after he has reported me to her. The informant is am in law to the woman

Dont mix business with pleasure
If he owes you money and you want him out, then follow the correct process
Do not discuss his liaisons with other women with him
If he didnt owe you, would you be interested in his life style
If he wants to kill himself, let him do so, he is not a kid
Besides if juju was involved for real, the woman just didnt throw juju at him
He would have been a willing partner for the woman to be close enough to jazz him.

tearoses:
Dont mix business with pleasure
If he owes you money and you want him out, then follow the correct process
Do not discuss his liaisons with other women with him
If he didnt owe you, would you be interested in his life style
If he wants to kill himself, let him do so, he is not a kid
Besides if juju was involved for real, the woman just didnt throw juju at him
He would have been a willing partner for the woman to be close enough to jazz him.

Well said. Have made up my mind. Should mind my gaddem business. And collect my rent or evict him shikena

why are you always "catching" people?


here, you "caught" a masturbator:


https://www.nairaland.com/2983905/ever-been-caught-caught-someone


here you caught gays:

https://www.nairaland.com/2938409/hypocrisy-homophobic-people-like-me


here you caught a witch:

https://www.nairaland.com/2985351/really-thinking-involved-witch-confused

here you caught a gluttonous female:


https://www.nairaland.com/2913850/how-handle-gluttonous-female

tpiar:
why are you always "catching" people?


here, you "caught" a masturbator:


https://www.nairaland.com/2983905/ever-been-caught-caught-someone


here you caught gays:

https://www.nairaland.com/2938409/hypocrisy-homophobic-people-like-me


here you caught a witch:

https://www.nairaland.com/2985351/really-thinking-involved-witch-confused

here you caught a gluttonous female:


https://www.nairaland.com/2913850/how-handle-gluttonous-female

hopefully I will catch you too with the skeleton in ur cupboard and relay the story here.

Oga Landlord, I don't think you are helping the family by listening to stories from the 'grapevines' since your relationship with him cannot permit you to act on hearsay... At the same time, pitying his wife is not your business if you are a true Igbo man. Ask for your rent and let him know you wish to involve your lawyer. That's the only power you have to beat him back to his house. Maybe family members will get to know and then make him fall back to his senses...

Hmmm

I don't like what your tenant is doing...cheating. But if you ask me, sh!t ain't your business.. Don't be a home wrecker. Let her find out herself.

Op your tenant's private life has nothing to do with you so is better for you to mind your business. Haba naija people taking another man's panadol tire o. So leave that aspect if you are looking for your monthly payments

Eddygourdo:
[s]I just arrive lagos to hear some unpalatable news about my tenant. This yoruba family blessed with three children. The wife is a struggling woman. Doing her best to provide for the home and truthfully all the while I have known this man. He has been reasonable, a loving parent. He could do anything to provide for his family. Yet this year no rent payment, no nepa payment, yet we pump water free with either generator or nepa to ensure the taps in his home are running always as well as other amenities

I was told my another neighbour that this man now sleeps in the house of another woman old enough to be his mother, on inquiry to his wife as to the whereabouts of the husband. She told me he says he wanna hustle at night buying produce from far away towns. Unknowingly to her the stupid man has been sleeping out with another woman, a widow old enough to be his mother. I believe juju must be involved, because I never envisioned such character from him.

Anyway it isn't my business how he wants to ruin his family. But my concern is that news from the grapevine indicates he just paid the house rent of the so called woman. Yet he hasn't paid the one his family lives in. This is my bone of contention. I pity the family but I don't have time for empathy especially when my money is concerned (I am an igbo man). This is soon April and his rent expired since October last year.

I believe a quit notice could harm the wife and kids more than the hopeless man. But Wat can I do. I doubt advice to a man under a spell will work. Hence haven't called him to advise him. Am really stewing and confused on what to do.[/s]

You are just an empty chest beater writing useless tales on Nairaland. When you are tired of writing trash online, you will go get a job in the real world. Landlord online, one room tenant in real world.

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smh

Never seen an Igbo man renting house to a Yoruba man
It's always vice versa

seunmsg:

You are just an empty chest beater writing useless tales on Nairaland. When you are tired of writing trash online, you will go get a job in the real world. Landlord online, one room tenant in real world.

seunmsg:

You are just an empty chest beater writing useless tales on Nairaland. When you are tired of writing trash online, you will go get a job in the real world. Landlord online, one room tenant in real world.

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this is uncalled for trust me!
why abusing him na?
whats so chest beating abt his topic now?

Give him time to pay up if you can. But if you can't give him a quit notice.

And someone is somewhere praying for a kind and reasonable landlord like you.

Eddygourdo:
hopefully I will catch myself too with the skeleton in my cupboard and relay the story here.

go ahead.

for your mind, you are all that.

Reading

oh dear, I found another:

I Think, I Wanna Marry A Man.... ... Hmmmmmmm


https://www.nairaland.com/2780125/think-wanna-marry-man-hmmmmmmm

I wonder why you people always hide your gayness when posting on nairaland. Why do you want folks to think you are straight?

Oga