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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Kvistpublishing: 6:33am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by nonjebose(m): 6:36am On Apr 01, 2016 |
To all those saying that the guy should find out what the problem is, I ask why would the wife not communicate same to the husband. The guy makes advances which are rebuffed by the wife, he sulks, she ignores, they drift apart, and some folks feel the guy is to blame. It is no longer a traditioner thing that the guy MUST lead discussion on issues affecting both. That said, my guy package yourself well well. Put extra extra touch to your dressing, engage in some hobbies of interest to you, make new friends, and patiently wait for the result. Thank me later 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by TeetoEsq(m): 6:37am On Apr 01, 2016 |
kossyablaze:u get mind ooo |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Sheggy13(m): 6:37am On Apr 01, 2016 |
debola23:You know a mature lady from their comments. Kudos to you. Little wonder this kind of comment will not get even a single like but the one from a kid who's probably a jambite, who was suggesting a man who has spent a year in marriage with a woman, and even with a child may not be physically attractive to her got over 50 likes. Was wondering if she was blind in the first place to have gone ahead with the marriage if she knew the man was Shrek. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Nobody: 6:38am On Apr 01, 2016 |
She might b circumcised at birth. |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by TeetoEsq(m): 6:41am On Apr 01, 2016 |
pet4ril:visit a man of.... Mr. Man dont just go there... Those so called men of 'gods' of now adays will snatch your wife or be tapping current from your wife. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by kossyablaze(m): 6:42am On Apr 01, 2016 |
TeetoEsq:lol |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by FTBOY: 6:42am On Apr 01, 2016 |
edpunter:no woman would have the guts to come out in public and complain of sex starvation |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by nonjebose(m): 6:43am On Apr 01, 2016 |
timokoko:Bwahahahah! Your matter strong well well o. Had a good laugh. But seriously, I don't get why women harbour different excuses which the man has to live with 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by kojusoluwa7(m): 6:45am On Apr 01, 2016 |
halfricanadian:questions for the gods, when she knew he is not physically attractive,why marry him in the first place ? His money aaabi. Birds of d same feathers. |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by DeadWrong: 6:45am On Apr 01, 2016 |
kola1930:Don't mind all these Yeye ladies castigating you as if you're the culprit here. In as much as I don't have sufficient information to reach a conclusion, your wife might actually be the culprits here. She's too frigid, unromantic and insensitive to your needs. It takes two to tango. Why should the man be the only one to be romantic, to initiate sex, talk to her, pet her and all like she did the op a favour by marrying her. Truth is your wife is simply unromantic and rigid. I'm sure those times you've had sex with her, she had just lied there like a log of wood. Marriage is team work. Ig she's not fulfilling her own part, don't kill yourself. Dump her arse or flirt with other lady. Some wives prefer to learn the hard way. don't kill yourself man. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Exmay(m): 6:46am On Apr 01, 2016 |
@Kola1930, if your wife as been like this from the onset then it may be a case of female circumcision. This act generally reduce a woman's libido. If this is the case, u may need to read wide on what to do. |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by lastpage: 6:49am On Apr 01, 2016 |
kola1930: Two things may be responsible: 1.) She is having it elsewhere and therefore not "missing" it from you 2.) It is a Hormonal Problem (early onset of Menopause!). Short jab in the neck might let you know: Tell her you will have no choice than to seek "gratification" outside with another woman, if your own wife refuses to see it as her duty. (Watch her facial expressions very closely, it will tell you more than she will say with her mouth Tell her in plain, simple, in-your-face manner.... so that it can hit her and she can realize "WhatzUp". *If she is getting it outside, she will simply insult you, dare you to try it and turn it to a fight (at that point, your marriage is dead! and you need to start thinking about your "options" *If it is hormonal and she is just "not feeling it", she will "break-down" and plead with you to understand her "problem". (At that point, you need to stand solidly with her and seek medical help). BTW: how long was the birth..... before than one month of "fasting"? Could it be her body is not ready, if its still very close to child-birth? My sympathies. Lastpage! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by carinmom(f): 6:51am On Apr 01, 2016 |
postmann: You've said exactly what i have in mind, naturally after having a baby most women experience sharp decrease in their libido. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Leobanks(m): 6:51am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Report her to d umu ada. I mean ur village women. |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by DeadWrong: 6:51am On Apr 01, 2016 |
komododragons:I couldn't have said it any better. I put my best into any relationship, but when the other party is not reciprocating, I'll bounce you off. No time at al for nonsense. The same thing I'll do for my wife. If she wanna form rigid and insensitive, she should be my guest. I suffer fools gladly. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by dview001(m): 6:54am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Hire 5 men to bleep her ,after that her urge go increase she go dey want am every night ..... |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by DeadWrong: 6:55am On Apr 01, 2016 |
tosyne2much:I really do not have the energy to type, I'd have analyzed her post and expose her foolishness. She's such the arrogant type. These are kinds of biatch that will offend their husband and would still expect them to beg. These are kind of girls I like. Let them show me the stuff they're made of, and I'll make their life miserable as they wish. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by DeadWrong: 6:57am On Apr 01, 2016 |
AreaFada2:Best post I've seen. Thumbs up sir. I like your approach to this issue. This is maturity at play. The elders have spoken. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by DeadWrong: 7:01am On Apr 01, 2016 |
komododragons:Dope! My Nigga! Imagine doing all those bullshyte for Pussy! Lord have mercy! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by uzicuzy(m): 7:02am On Apr 01, 2016 |
It takes quite a while 4 her body 2 get back in the game..there's a medical term 4 it dat i've forgotten nw...for some women it even takes up 2 a year sef..hang in there..show more affection, try n help out too cos nursing aa child can be pretty stressful...rub her feet, try some massage n gentle kissing...she'll definitely get her groove back eventually.. |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by hopeforcharles(m): 7:03am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Onegai:the problem with your posts is just heaping all the problems on the man without even adressing the woman's issues as if she is a saint, you women are wonderful creatures with myraids of issues, men are no saint either so try to be less bias after all a man also have big issues he attends to out there. God knows i will try my best to be the best to my wife and children but if she start acting strange? Hmmm, i have many preocupations to endulge. Forex trading, games, music, dancing and others she will be the one to come back and seek solution, |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by skelewu404(m): 7:04am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Pidggin:r u trying to say that could be the reason? Then y did she marry him in the first place. Well i blame the guy, that is the essence of courtship 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by roltgold: 7:05am On Apr 01, 2016 |
maybe you need to ready a pick-up material online to learn how to pick her up and put her in the mood. she may be uncomfortable with you after one year of marriage because of little things like bad odor, being dirty, not helping in house chores, not being romantic - curdle her often at bed times, stop giving her the impression that you married her as intimacy gadget with no romantic touch. pay attention to details and see how she would change! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Calebosko(m): 7:09am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Ghad |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by yemmie(m): 7:16am On Apr 01, 2016 |
1. Your wife may be depressed, post birth depression. She may need help clinical psychologist. 2. She may be frigid and just lured you into marriage and had in her mind that just one child that is it ! 3. You may have done something to hurt her feelings. Sex start in the head for women while for men it start with the eyes and your third leg. 4. Don't pressurise her to have sex. My advice clean up yourself, tidy your game, flirt with alot of women, catch your fun to the Max but don't go down with any woman. She will come running to you. Surprise her with gift, shower her with praises, Cook of her, help with the baby. Friday night hit the town and Rock die. Come back and thank me. |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by mrmachine: 7:19am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Communication is key, some women can be selfish or insensitive, it may not be deliberate though. Just find time and discuss it with her in a relaxed way. Also check your hygiene, smell nice etc. God be with you. deen11: |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Walexsammy(m): 7:20am On Apr 01, 2016 |
Ahmed0336:lols, may she married under societal pressure, buh I think I no wha she meant . I guess shez talking about post-marriage posture |
Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Nobody: 7:22am On Apr 01, 2016 |
1. Maybe you are boring her in bed. Advice: Go and learn correct sexual styles from somewhere. 2. Maybe you have a problem that she is afraid to share with you. Your hygiene might be a problem, you might have mouth odour or something that puts her off. 3. She might have a problem from her past that you do not know about e.g. boyfriend outside, lesbian partner outside. 4. It could be hormonal problems, or the effect of raising her child - it affects women atimes. 5. You need to be more romantic, caring and do things like house-chores, take her out on dates (yes, i said it) 1 Like |
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