You suspect yourself dealing with a cheating husband when one day you call him and find out that his mobile is switched off. To be honest, you've been having this gut instinct all along that he may have somebody else on the side -- but you just don't want to believe it.

You want to pour your heart out and confront him tonight hoping that he will tell you the truth, but you know that would just put even more suspicion into your head. Plus, most likely you won't get the truth anyway, because a cheating husband will simply deny it all and more often than not you will feel worse than before the confrontation.

Although it is quite normal that most women cannot stand the thought of dealing with a cheating husband, but you gotta plan your moves right. That's right, you have to know your motivation and NEVER jump into 'revenge' tactic straight away. Why? because more than likely, you still love him and a temporary relief from doing revenge will not make you happy in the long run. So why don't we leave all the anger and revengeful thoughts aside and start looking for solution?

So what's the best solution to find? Of course, it is to turn a cheating husband around -- to stop him from cheating completely and want you -- ONLY you. So let's start by looking at these steps:

First of all, you have to stop what you've been doing so far and take time to have a look at it. Basically you need to reflect on yourself. More importantly, at this very moment you need to stop ALL assumptions you have about him no matter how much you think you know him. He may not -- probably doesn't -- think the same way like you do.

Don't start assuming he is going to be different if you nag or if you cry. Opening up and telling him how you feel won't just change everything. Also, don't assume he will leave his extramarital girlfriend if you learn extra skills in bed. For a cheating husband, that's not the most important thing.

Secondly, you have to know that doing the same action will get you exactly the same reaction from him. This is truth. Yes, you may not be able to control your emotion and you may feel like doing things that's familiar to you (like hitting him with a cooking saucepan), but don't.

Don't act on your emotion easily. You have to think before you do anything impulsively.

Third is not to be desperate or beg. If you do so, you will put more damage into the situation and make it way worse. In fact, begging or nagging are probably the LEAST effective way to get his attention and love back to you anyway. Really, it would simply make your husband take you for granted knowing that you cannot live without him no matter if he cheats on you all the time.

Those three main points above would steer you the right way on how to deal with a cheating husband. Men think differently from women, so don't rely on common sense alone. Just remember that you still have hope to reconcile no matter how much you are still unconvinced at this very moment.

4. gather the facts together so he cannot deny it, claim he is being framed by a friend/coworker