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Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by sabaestate(m): 4:05pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
come for deliverance. you need deliverance, i ve some anointing oil. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by ufot(m): 4:29pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
@sexybabes You say it is wrong with no explanation. How come it still goes on? Most of these chiefs have been to Europe and America and have seen what goes on , yet they go back home and still continue on the so called wrong path? |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by N101: 7:15pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
hilli666 I don't know where you got your version of the Bible from, but there are holes in your statement: (1) God never told Abraham to cheat on his wife with the househelp. (2) Although Solomon had lots of wives and concubines, what was the end result? They led him astray. "Man must spread his seed" my foot - I know of a man with 10 wives, he's HIV positive; I heard of another man with 2 wives who raped a friend's daughter. It isn't about "spreading seed" but exercising self-control, that's what distinguishes us from animals. ANYONE will cheat if given the opportunity, like everything else in life it is a choice and people decide to do it or not, hormones or testosterone don't make us do anything. If cheating is so acceptable, is it that when people cheat they always feel terrible when caught or when they've done it (and sorry, you can't blame religion for this)? Just because you know no faithful men or long term faithful marriages doesn't mean they don't exist, you need to broaden your horizons a bit. I had a friend who worked as a sexual health educator, he said to me that he could never understand why men are so willing to chase sex "when AIDS is killing us like chickens" (his words). If someone chooses to make cheating and having multiple partners a lifestyle choice they shouldn't complain when it bites them in the behind at a future date. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by N101: 7:25pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
abyte: A man is only as faithful as his options illusion2: Some of us have lots of options and opportunities, but our commitment means much more than a shag with someone else! |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by ibelab(m): 8:28pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
na wooooooooo! cheating?i thought it,z normal to change soup when someone ain't married? |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Chomy4: 9:00pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
It all depends on you the individual.To me its more of a habit formed i.e cheating on your partner.Personally i dont cheat on my gal and i dont double date.I took my time before entering into relationships,to avoid heart breaks.I'm not blaming you any way,it may be a mistake but you can decide not to cheat on her again. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Lolladey(f): 9:35pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
pls, do not let such happen again becos it does not pay. if u are sure u love ur girlfriend then nothing or no one should come between the both of u. there should be trust and a lot of self control in a relationship so that it will grow. people who say that men are not created to have one partner are shallow minded. if u know that ur girl friend is the forgiving type then u can explain to her but if not just caution yourself and dont let it repeat itself again. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Sonye(f): 11:01pm On Aug 04, 2009 |
@ poster How would you feel if you found out the one you love is busy shagging another man? always put yourself in a girl's shoes |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Hairat007(f): 12:06am On Aug 05, 2009 |
Feeling guilty, is very natural after d deed might have been done. but den it does'nt matter now does it? if ur girl wnts 2 live long n stay out of a heart attack, i think she shld just act as if nothing ever happened, wen she gets wind of it. dats wat i'll do if it were me cause no body is worth having a headache 4. Besides enjoy ur life while still breathing lol. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by eyonigger(m): 12:35am On Aug 05, 2009 |
Hairat007: Let me try to clear myself out here once more. I was a player for years until I met my current bf in who I found a different kind of love, so I decided to stay clean and never to cheat on her. If you read my second post on this thread, I speculated that I have only cheated on her twice, the first time there was no remorse, but this second cheating made me feel bad. Now you can see that Im going from bad to good, but on the verge of completing myself as being a good boy, to attaining self control was not that easy for me since its a procedural step, I made mistakes twice, of which one of the mistake brought about remorse. So I say its a stepping stone for me to go beyond what I crave for (cheat-less relationship). I am quite confident that I am not the only guy that has gone from bad to good regarding what the post is all about, and this is to the people crucifying me for the mistake I made. Yes MISTAKE I SAY, Every1 makes 1. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by TOPE20001(f): 12:43am On Aug 05, 2009 |
OK Maybe i am lil slow but i still dont understand why ppl will claim they are in love and still cheat? |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by daduke2k(m): 1:20am On Aug 05, 2009 |
D three letter word: SEX |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Jamesbona: 2:00am On Aug 05, 2009 |
topup:@topup, though I do not like addressing people with their nicknames, I don't have a choice because I don't have any other identity of yours. Please do not nail me. I was actually enthralled by one of your posts so out of curiosity, I read more of your most recent posts which were also very commendable. Believe you me, I am not trying to flatter you, I want to acknowledge the way you handle matters here: very considerate, understanding, enthusiastic and intelligently too. Permit me to say that you are the only one I have noticed since I registered on this forum to criticize constructively and with tact too. Congratulations because I can not deny I am really impressed by what I saw. Very long ago, I always desired somebody like you to help me with constructive admonition. Somebody that will stand up and advise me wisely especially on academics and morals. Although I don't regret much about my past, I believe that a life that is not examined is not what living (quote not mine). I need somebody to ginger me to take up challenges. That will make me strong and never to backout of challenging situations. I guess you posses these qualities. I am not asking for any romantic relationships but true friendship, devoid of immorality. I don't have friends I can trust so I resorted to this forum. Unfortunately, the many people here use foul language which I detest; but I could figure out a real gem here. I use my mobile phone for browsing and I don't know much about the internet. Please can you do me a favour by being my good friend and adviser. I would not like to share my private information here because of online dangers of sharing private information especially on this forum. If you are willing to help, then please tell me how we can talk more privately. Needless to say I will appreciate it if you can do it for me, you can rightly guess I will. Thanks for your patience in reading this. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Jamesbona: 2:17am On Aug 05, 2009 |
topup:@topup, though I do not like addressing people with their nicknames, I don't have a choice because I don't have any other identity of yours. Please do not nail me. I was actually enthralled by one of your posts so out of curiosity, I read more of your most recent posts which were also very commendable. Believe you me, I am not trying to flatter you, I want to acknowledge the way you handle matters here: very considerate, understanding, enthusiastic and intelligently too. Permit me to say that you are the only one I have noticed since I registered on this forum to criticize constructively and with tact too. Congratulations because I can not deny I am really impressed by what I saw. Very long ago, I always desired somebody like you to help me with constructive admonition and criticisms. Somebody that will stand up and advise me wisely especially on academics and morals. Although I don't regret much about my past, I believe that a life that is not examined is not worth living (quote not mine). I need somebody to ginger me to take up challenges. That will make me strong and never to backout of challenging situations. I guess you posses these qualities. I am not asking for any romantic relationships but true friendship, devoid of immorality. I don't have friends I can trust so I resorted to this forum. Unfortunately, many people here use foul language which I detest; but I could figure out a real gem here. I use my mobile phone for browsing and I don't know much about the internet. Please can you do me a favour by being my good friend and adviser because I am not living accurately the kind of life I wished to live. I would not like to share my private information here because of online dangers of sharing private information especially on this forum. If you are willing to help, then please tell me how we can talk more privately. Needless to say I will appreciate it if you can do it for me, you can rightly guess I will. Thanks for your patience in reading this. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by topup: 5:02am On Aug 05, 2009 |
Jamesbona: I don't know what to say, I don't want to derail this thread either, but I would be glad to advise you (or stick my nose into your life ). I don't want to share my private information openly either but I do have a blog, click here: http://twobeautifulminds..com check it out, you should find what you need there. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by sexybabes(f): 9:30am On Aug 05, 2009 |
ufot:U know as much as I do that it is wrong. The reason why it still goes on its only because people are greedy and never satisfied with what they have. N101:Thank you for clearing that one up. People turn to interpret Bible in a way to justify what their own deeds. eyonigger:Let me make something clear to you. The fact that you cheated only twice doesnt make you a less cheater. You cheated, you are a cheater just like the one who cheated hundred times more its still the same thing. There is no going from bad to good here, you still the same person you were six years ago when you were a player according to you. And YES everyone makes mistakes(im no saint myself), the difference is DO YOU LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES & NEVER REPEAT THEM. If you gonna keep on that statement you still gonna make mistakes and claim they are mistakes. If you say cheating is a mistake, you cheated on her 1st time that should have been a mistake and it shouldn't have happened again. And I am not crucifying you! |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by eyonigger(m): 11:44am On Aug 05, 2009 |
sexybabes: I knw u aint crucifying me bro. But you need to understand the fact that If were to be the hardened player I was years back, I would have cheated more than twice be it she being around or not. Though I still count myself as a player having cheated on her twice, but it still cannot be compared to those years. Thats why I said its a procedural step. Besides, one can cheat and never feel bad about it, I felt bad and I am ready never to cheat anymore after this last time. And I pray that God helps me, cos he nor easy mehn. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Thor(m): 11:56am On Aug 05, 2009 |
It is good for a man to walk on the dark side occasionally |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by eyonigger(m): 12:02pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
Thore, u and ur talks ehn!! |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by sexybabes(f): 12:06pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
eyonigger:Im not a bro, i am a babe. Lol!!!! |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by eyonigger(m): 12:29pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
sexybabes: Lol, ok babes |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by illusion2: 12:39pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
TOPE2000!:The same reason u eat noodles tho' u love ponded yam |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by eyonigger(m): 12:56pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
illusion2: Lol, but does that relate to relationship? |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by sexybabes(f): 1:43pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
illusion2:What is food got to do with this? eyonigger:Not at all. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by teababy: 3:18pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
My bro,shit happens but am glad a guy can actually feel bad about cheatng, since u lov ur gal dis much try nd aviod situatns dat will make u cheat . |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by eyonigger(m): 7:50pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
tea-baby: I have been implementing measures since the past 2 days now to make sure that whatever may cause temptation wont come my way. I was with some few of my girlfriends (no string attached) I intentionally brought up the issue of cheating in a relationship, so i came up with a statement that I will never cheat on my girl, they were really amazed and interested in getting to hear more. It was then that I knew that girls do really cherish guys that will not cheat on them or their Gf's. |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Virgo83(m): 8:33pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
@ Poster Oh Boy you ain't funny at all and you must not tell me you regret doing that cause you'll even do it a thousand time more. . . . . |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by Jamesbona: 9:35pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
@topup, I am not very happy bothering you, I actually followed the link, surprisingly, they were talking about hair and all that-which is not what I need. I actually want to work on how I speak (I want to be more decent). My earlier posts will explain better about how I react to situations. I do not live exactly how I will be self fulfiled. Why did you say you don't know what to say? What is a blog? Do I open an adhoc email? Why not reread my earlier plea? Why not remove fears and monitor developments? |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by illusion2: 9:36pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
sexybabes:its just an 'apere'. u love pounded yam (like ur babe),but u still eat noodles(ur skele or 'belewu' ),i.e both na for enjoyment ultimately. When it get to wife,confirmed then d analogy doesn't apply again. Hope this helps? |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by laudate: 10:08pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
ocelot: WORD!! Thank you jare, for this sane voice of reason! |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by sporchii: 10:52pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
cheating is bad stuff,i had been cheating on my gf who was so faithful and for sometime but id feel guilty about it but recently it got to a point i didnt even have a feeling for my gf of 5years, anymore cos the new loved me a lot but i knew i was all wrong cos i lied abt my gf.Now i had to stop cos i knew i am heading no where with all these,so i stopped the two relationships cos i had lied to the two of them and i have lost 2 loving girl cos of my playing.pls what is bad is bad stop it b4 it ruins u |
Re: "In Love" But Unfaithful by TOPE20001(f): 11:04pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
illusion2: right. . . . . |
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