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| Am I Shut Down? by Tofenof(f): 12:25pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
Can someone feel nothing; No love, no hate, not even pity?  Since my ex and i broke up last year, i've felt nothing for anybody. I had sex with a guy and felt nothing. they say kisses steers up emotions, but i've kissed a guy who said he liked me yet i feel nothing. I find myself pushing people away. Its more like i'm shut down. I think of nothing but myself. Dating piss me off now yet i want to date someone but i keep pushing everyone away. It's been 7months since my ex and i broke up and i've been like that pushing everyone out. I find faults where there's probably no fault. Pls can someone tell me what is wrong with me. Will this phase pass or it has come to stay. 1 Like |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by tboy1(m): 12:29pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
You havent met the right person yet . . .  when u do, you'll know  |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by eyonigger(m): 12:39pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
Poster, this is just the logic behind it. Do u still want ur ex back? If YES" then try to get him or her back, I mean if that should be ur case, then pushing away all the people u have dated is just because u still think and care about ur bf or gf. On the other way round, if u dnt feel anything for ur ex nemore, or u dnt want him/her back, I suggest u are to take ur time to be ready for dating. The way am seeing things with u now is like ur in a rush to fill in the blank space in ur hearth which has eventually been leading to pushing away all those u have been trying to date. Advise is take ur time, the right person that will lighten up ur emotions more than ur ex will come ur way. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by justwise(m): 12:40pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
Tof-enof: U still carrying alot of hang-over from the previous rela/ship, even if the right one comes u will still pick-fault on him. U need to start treating pple as individual, else all men will still be the same in ur head |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by tosyne007(m): 1:19pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
eyonigger: i support that. @poster, there's no need to be alarmed yet. I think u havent gotten over ur ex yet. That's exactly wat u need to work on. It happens in relationships u know. I mean when u love someone, especially if he or she is ur first bf/gf and u guys had somtin special going, u find it so hard to get over such break-ups and u resent it when someone else touches u. I blv that's the problem u are facing. Like someone earlier said, is there any possibility of a make-up btw u and ur ex? If ur answer is yes, i will suggest u initiate it so as to get ur emotional life back on track and if ur answer is No, i will suggest u break wateva hold he had over u and move on. Be open-minded abt ur next relationship, believe it can work, believe u can love and be loved again, believe u can enjoy sex with someone else (not ur ex alone). Lastly, try to forget him (i know it's hard) but u hav to try. U r not shut down my dear and i dont pray u get shut down anytime soon. Moreover, u aint a system but a DEARIE that is meant to be loved and cared for. U will get that person who will revive ur emotions in no time. Just hang on and believe in urself. best of luck. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by Ben13: 1:24pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
poster, this is really a serious case. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by smooooooth: 2:28pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
its common to feel that way, when you break up with someone you loved. there is nothing wrong with you, you are just going thru the effect of the break up with your EX. sometimes some people may be having this after feeling, cos they think that their ex will come back someday. but its only time that can heal the wound, so just take your time, relax, and dont be in a rush to go into something else, soon you will be your happy self again, and will definately fall in love with someone else, someone better. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by posakosa(m): 2:32pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
eyaa! I think that someone said this already but when you meet the right person, things will just fall into place and you won't have to think too hard, tboy1: |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by kokoA(m): 2:41pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
Is like you are possesed o. Sorry. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by izeek(m): 2:45pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
every spell has its phaseout time. just wait this one out. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by sparta(f): 2:55pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
It will pass, it must have been a very tough breakup for you i guess. Don't worry, you will be fine  |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by spikedcylinder: 2:58pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
Tof-enof: You are the new god. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by Tofenof(f): 3:32pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
spikedcylinder:Lol, lol, lol, lol [color=#990000][/color][b][/b]I Wish |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by Nobody: 3:33pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
Shut down ke? Sex without emotion?? Most guys wish and hope there are more girls like yourself. While you are still going on about your ex and how you have no feelings for the guys you've bleeped since your break up the guys are prolly plotting how to get in you in bed again. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by Kelvinj(m): 4:00pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
@poster only u & u alone knw ur probs & d solutions 2 dem. |
| Re: Am I Shut Down? by MoneyRule(m): 8:52pm On Aug 05, 2009 |
@ Poster you neva jam, when u jam, u go confirm! |
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