michelin89:

You sabi read so?

Mr Kelly:

@ poster,

Marriage is not always a bed of roses. Those who have a successful marriage today had gone through crises that could even be worse than yours. The early years are usually filled with trials and crises. The devil will always fight to destroy God's instituted union but remember you made a covenant before God on the day of your wedding. Please try not to break that covenant.

Real men dont run away from problems, they face it. Divorcing and remarrying will not solve the problem. You both need to go for counselling. Remember it takes two to tango, your wife cannot fight you without a course except if she is insane, so stop doing things that provokes your wife to anger. Pray to God to intervene in your marriage and back it up with positive attitude and your wife will be amazed with the transformation in you and will have no choice than to change. No responsible woman will like to destroy what took her years to build. There must be something you are doing wrong so you need a self examination too.

Wish you all the best and  may the Lord be with you

Nonnyl:

Divorce is not better but there are many ways to kill a rat either u tire rope on its neck or set a trap 4 it so,bros if she gives u headache why not send her to her parents or leave the house 4 her 4 at least 4mnths, lol

Connoisseur:

@poster
if u ve courted her long enough or paid close attention, u wld ve noticed d telltale signs.
My sincere opinion, try everything in ur power to change her, bt if she dosent call it off. The decision wld be difficult bt worth it in d long run cos no man(woman) deserves 2 lead an unhappy life in d name of 'for better for worse'. Meanwhile, examine urself closely, what really went wrong.

Mr Kelly :

@ poster,

Marriage is not always a bed of roses. Those who have a successful marriage today had gone through crises that could even be worse than yours. The early years are usually filled with trials and crises. The devil will always fight to destroy God's instituted union but remember you made a covenant before God on the day of your wedding. Please try not to break that covenant.

Real men dont run away from problems, they face it. Divorcing and remarrying will not solve the problem. You both need to go for counselling. Remember it takes two to tango, your wife cannot fight you without a course except if she is insane, so stop doing things that provokes your wife to anger. Pray to God to intervene in your marriage and back it up with positive attitude and your wife will be amazed with the transformation in you and will have no choice than to change. No responsible woman will like to destroy what took her years to build. There must be something you are doing wrong so you need a self examination too.

Wish you all the best and  may the Lord be with you.

Obotte:
@post
My dear am sure your story should be two sided but you are giving us one side of it. marriage is a union of two individuals with different background, even if you court for 7 years before marriage there are things you can not change in a person so you have to tolerate one another. You only talk of your wife what about you? Are you sure you are not the one fermenting trouble and when she reacts to your trouble, hers becomes over bearing for you?

My brothers and sisters in NL suggest you divorce her, am sure they don't know what marriage is all about  a sacred union. Let me give you illustration or example you should think over. Marriage is like a house with time it will develop problems (leakage in the case of a real house), what will you do if your house leaks, will you abandon it and build another? If you say yes than you will continue abandoning all the houses you will leave all your life because a house must always have leakage or some problems that requires fixing.

Conclusively, try to see areas you are not doing well and improve on them and areas she is not doing well and talk it out with her. Am sure she loves you and you love her that's why you got married at first. Think of it like a house you are the head of the marriage fix it, don't chicken out or abandon it.

FLGators:

Topup, those questions do not matter.

She's abusing and beating him. I don't know why people continue to differentiate female abuse from male abuse. They're both morally wrong.

He. . . .the poster. . . . needs to take her back to her village, because if he starts his own beating, her family go soon plan a funeral. Rem. female beating is not really taken as a crime, esp if he's herhusband.

ProfJabura: but I noticed that someone pray for her before the wedding and told her her husband might marry another person. she told me but I told her all is in her hand and her behaviour to me.
Now is had a delay now. But just because of the Church and God and Jesus involve it not so. I will urgently go for divorce.

blueteeth:

Divorce,simply divorce and move on.She's a witch!

fayahsoul:

Make her stop perming her hair.