pls help me, i hv a relationship of more than a year now, but evrybody hv ben telling me to forget the guy that he is a gigolo, and i hv found that its true, since we started, i feed him clothe him, but at the end wat do i get beating, insult, and cheating and wen i ask him to go he will come pleading, but the recent one now he started calling all sort of names and this morning he called again to say he is sorry am getting tired, pls advise me.

benheart.i must say that sometimes the right ones always end up with the wrong ones.i must say here that its so funny how some guys can be assholes.after reading Ur post and how u are the one bearing the responsibility of this guy and he still ends up beating u up,cheating on u and all stuffs like that.that guy is good for nothing.i must tell u that u dump that guy as its hot,but do it in a way he pays for all the hurt and trauma he has put u through.when he comes pleading accept him but then u stipulate the rules.make him want u.deny him of every thing,sex,money and food.u have to know within u that u're done with the looser but he wont know and at the same time seek solace a male friend and u'll see how furious he will be and if that guy touches u again.let Ur peeps know,Ur male friends if u haven't got any report him to the police.that guy is a gunner.hope i was able to say something.also lastly turn to God and seek his face cos he gives us wisdom to tackle situations.

I personally think u should dump is ass. Beating is way too far.
Cant turn urself into a punching bag when there are guys out there who dont mind kissing ur feet. And pls, hurt him real bad b4 or after dumping him. He is not worth anything, not even ur tears.

Try another man fast, but be careful of your choice this time around, I am damn too sure you will notice the difference. This is a clear case of incompatibility among the two of you. However though, if his behaviour has to do with joblessness, then perhaps, if you still love him, you can have hope that if he has job he might change. But above all, try another man, and find out that you have been enduring a real pain in the neck of a man. Goodluck!

what you found out,he is a gigolo.he beats you and insults you.then apologies and he does it again and again and again.for God sake wake up to reality,the guy does not care about you he just sees you as his pay ticket.

You know the answer to your question, HE DOESN'T CARE, hun he is using you. stop being his personal MUGU, if he cannot appreciate what you have done for him then he really really isn't worth it

benheart:

please help me, i hv a relationship of more than a year now, but evrybody hv ben telling me to forget the guy that he is a gigolo, and i hv found that its true, since we started, i feed him clothe him, but at the end what do i get beating, insult, and cheating and when i ask him to go he will come pleading, but the recent one now he started calling all sort of names and this morning he called again to say he is sorry am getting tired, please advise me.

DO NOT EVER LOVE A MAN MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF THEY WILL MILK IT FOR ALL IT IS worth.

there is no need keeping a relationship that you get beaten up, milked out dry of all your finance and then left emotionally abused. see, at this age and time, you need to have focus in a relationship. what and what do you need from a relationship? that you should ask yourself. if your guy does not respect you and treat you like the queen which you are now that you guys are having an affair how are you sure he will improve when you guys are married (that's if that happens).
i've learnt to think and make long-term plans in any relationship i find myself so i dont get carried away by the illusions of the present; cos we have a saying in our land that says: i no fit climb tree na for ground dem dey talk am no be when you don hook for one branch becos to come down fit be wahala.

in Jamaica we say "LEGGO DI BWOY!!!!" or RUN HIM!!!!

kick him to the curb, he's a weasel___he's gonna keep weaseling his way back into ur life as long as u keep taking him back. It's all ok for him to beat u and call u names cos all he gotta do is beg and u'll take him back. Such a RAT!

That’s the mistake you girls keep making all the time.


A relationship is ment to be 50% 50% and You mustn’t give more that . Also talking about what you've just said about being in a in a situation whereby you feed your man, cloth him and pay his bills. What do you expect him to give you in return?
It’s a very dangerous game to play. If he loves you, he must play his own part in the relationship

Finally, I think you should quit that relationship. for him calling you on phone might just be a pretence, he’s missing what you do for him. He knows that no girl can do for him what you’ve been doing for him

I’ll advise you to take heart. Don’t kill yourself guys are everywhere