what can you do as a man when your wife tells you that her Ex is much better than you in bed.

She says her ex who deflowered her was so good in bed?

What can be more frustrating than this for a husband?

HurtgenForest:
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Simple.... Improve





But comparing you with her ex shows that she misses him.

Truly, its annoying, but the only 2 options available for you are.......
1. You either ask her to go back to her ex.
OR
2. You try and improve in your bedroom games to the extent that she won't even remember she once had an ex or his existence.



My 1kobo.

Just improve.

It's very simple,she would vacate the house and go get married to the ex...

This is a quick slap in the face to everyone who doesn't know what respect is. A woman who compares you with her Ex not only belittles you, but also tears you down psychologically instead of building you up.

This is also a clear-cut indication that she will always cheat on you, and as such, dissolution of our marital union would be my utmost priority if I were in your shoes.

andromida:
Just improve.

If a woman had been in Op's shoes, with her hubby telling her his ex is better in bed, will you advise her to 'just improve' too?

ehn. tell her that her kpekus is not as tight as your ex's and it smells like catfish

This is very disrespectful. A woman who is sensitive to her husband's feelings wouldn't say something like this. I am all for honesty but this is not honest, this is crude and tactless. And if she was smart, she would have communicated how she wants it in a more effective way.

Why don't you ask her why she hasn't married her ex?

Mindfulness:
This is very disrespectful. A woman who is sensitive to her husband's feelings wouldn't say something like this. I am all for honesty but this is not honest, this is crude and tactless. and if she was smart she would have communicated how she wants it in a more effective way

Why don't you ask her why she hasn't married her ex?

Slap-bang!
Intelligence is not ascertained by the mass repository of knowledge one has managed to build but rather, is measured by the politic application of such knowledge.

•Being aware of the fact that the President's mouth stinks and telling him to his face is not intelligence - it's misusage of knowledge.

•Having prior knowledge that the President's mouth stinks and keeping mum about it when you eventually get to meet him is intelligence.


The woman's remarks were just a taco short of a combo platter!.

darkenedrebel:


Slap-bang!
Intelligence is not ascertained by the mass repository of knowledge one has managed to build but rather, is measured by the politic application of such knowledge.

•Being aware of the fact that the President's mouth stinks and telling him to his face is not intelligence - it's misusage of knowledge.

•Having prior knowledge that the President's mouth stinks and keeping mum about it when you eventually get to meet him is intelligence.


The woman's remarks were just a taco short of a combo platter!.

I love the way you express yourself. A master of rhetorics you are. Can this be learned or is it a divine gift? I admire your talent.

Mindfulness:


I love the way you express yourself. a master of rhetorics you are Can this be learned or is it a divine gift? I admire your talent.

Gratias. I dog the footsteps of Marcus Cicero - the illustrious virtuoso in oratory and rhetorics. Perhaps you can too.

And of course it can be learned. I hold no briefs for nativism.

Hardwork and an admixture of a workable model and an unwavering determination is grist to the mill of verbalizing your thoughts in a rhetoric-esque fashion.

darkenedrebel:


Gratias. I dog the footsteps of Marcus Cicero - the illustrious virtuoso in oratory and rhetorics.

This is the man that made me suffer back in the day when I was at school.
Latin was not my forte.

And of course it can be learned. I hold no briefs for Innatism nor nativism.

Hardwork and an admixture of a workable model and an unwavering determination is grist to the mill of it all.

I like your attitude even though I think that motivation and enthusiasm are more powerful than hard work.

Mindfulness:


This is the man that made me suffer back in the day when I was at school
Latin was not my forte.

lol. There are English transcriptions though.

We weekend warriors on Quora.com usually have Latin classes on an Adhoc basis. It's high-jinks! Once again, the site is Quora.com if you're interested.

Mindfulness:

I like your attitude even though I think that motivation and enthusiasm are more powerful than hard work.

Yeah, of course. But what is enthusiasm without hardwork?. I believe hardwork is the cornerstone. Enthusiasm is hors d'oeuvre.

How's your weekend going, honky-dory I hope?

darkenedrebel:


lol. There are English transcriptions though.

They were not available in the exams.

I eat and breathe the dead language which is Latin. . Thanks to my 6-year stint in a Catholic minor seminary.

We weekend warriors on Quora.com usually have Latin classes on an Adhoc basis. It's high-jinks! Once again, the site is Quora.com if you're interested.

I will check it out.

Yeah, of course. But what is enthusiasm without hardwork?. I believe hardwork is the cornerstone. Enthusiasm is hors d'oeuvre.

If I feel enthusiastic about doing a particular job, I have fun while doing it and so it doesn't feel like hard work whereas in the absence of enthusiasm a lighter task becomes rather cumbersome.

How's your weekend going, honky-dory I hope?

It has been peachy keen so far.
I hope yours too?

InformedLola:


If a woman had been in Op's shoes, with her hubby telling her his ex is better in bed, will you advise her to 'just improve' too?

Yes. I will tell her to focus on improving her skills rather than the annoying way the message was communicated. Its feedback annoying but there he has it. After the anger of being told the ex had better skills isn't it wise to learn the wonderful skills rather than focus on the poor delivery of the message. I guess being a man makes it hard to take with their ego and all that but it's still feedback.

andromida:


Yes. I will tell her to focus on improving her skills rather than the annoying way the message was communicated. Its feedback annoying but there he has it. After the anger of being told the ex had better skills isn't it wise to learn the wonderful skills rather than focus on the poor delivery of the message. I guess being a man makes it hard to take with their ego and all that but it's still feedback.

And what happened to effective communication skills? This is not even communication, it is out of tangent to what communication is because I see no reason where the talk of the ex applies.

Feedback that is worded poorly would never be acted on positively and this is not even feedback like you want us to believe this is more like an aggression cloaked with underhand insult. No one with an iota of self esteem whether male or female would accept this.

She would do well to go meet the ex. If he was so good and all nice, she won't be with him currently.

Omo na to used hand join oh. Even used ur big toe 4 ur leg self.

I rebuke such a wife

Get help

Send her back to her Ex. Case closed.

That is absolute disrespect. I beg she does not deserve you, she leave for someone that will respect you abeg.

greatgod2012:
Truly, its annoying, but the only 2 options available for you are.......
1. You either ask her to go back to her ex.
OR
2. You try and improve in your bedroom games to the extent that she won't even remember she once had an ex or his existence.



My 1kobo.

Improve with that size? it's like comparing broom with a toothpick. she berra pack n go jor.

Story...

Don't be an illetrate...

Idi la ma fi joko, ejo la ma to...

Lagging behind where in bed? Bed talk or romance or sex?

Some ladies prefer romance while others prefers the sex... Nigerian guys don't really like the romance part because we don't want her to change her mind in the process as we are aiming to hit the mountain top... As we know Naija girls na... Anything can happen self, fuel fit finish, NEPA fit take light, somebody fit come knock or worse she fit receive call... So its in the blood.

So now that he is married, I believe the issue is romance. What some does not know is that they have christalise their sexual life by taking out oral or anal sex, which bible does not specifically say anything about. Guy, in as much as she ain't complaining or causing pain, practice many things on bed with her as its within the confines of marriage.

greatgod2012:
Truly, its annoying, but the only 2 options available for you are.......
1. You either ask her to go back to her ex.
OR
2. You try and improve in your bedroom games to the extent that she won't even remember she once had an ex or his existence.



My 1kobo.

I'll go with number 1.