hi y'all. I was told to sign up in NL to meet great ppl online and I actually think its not a bad idea.
I've bn in a relationship for 2yrs and like last month, got to find out, the person i thot was mine was actually cheating on me. Now, i rili dnt hv friends due to the fact that my bf didnt like the idea of me talking to ppl except some of his friends. Now, im so lonely and want to make new friends. would rili want to make great friends ere.

Ur welcome, u just have to go ahead with ur life

yea, i knw i need to move on. but its just difficult getting to mix up now cos iv bn so used to not making friends and its killing badly now.

is he sorry for wat he did? dont worry we all are your friends

@Blessdee: he calls me all the tym wanting to make up with me but he's still seeing the gal and i dont think any man is worth fighting for cos he rili doesnt knw wat he had till its gone. i just want to have a new start in my life

if he is still seeing the oda lady thats not too good sit him down for a real heart to heart talk

Right now, he's not in Lagos but Seriously speaking, wen he was around we meet several tyms to talk and make things work cos i thinking of how far we've come and stuffs like that but had to just make up my mind some days back that he really isnt worth it. i guess its all because of the distance and everything. i think he just cant cope and there's nothing i can do bou it.

how much you love this guy and how much he loves you matters alot if you both sit down you can work it out

Well, iv tried my best and if he really wants it to work he shdnt still be telling me its hard to let go off the gal cos im not there with him even thou he claims he doesnt love her as much as he loves me. Does that make sense at all? for me thats total crap . this has bn going on for the last one month for hw long will i continue waiting for him to come back to his right senses??

A heartbroken woman is very difficult to engage in emotional talks. No matter just what you say, she ends up doing the exact opposite.

Well sorry about your plight, time is a healer of wounds. Wish you all the best as you journey on in life.

Keep your head up.

Its really not easy, thanks.

Feel ur pain ,can be kind of lonely being alone, ever feel like talking to me,
just hala on my mobile 07042046972.

ur friend in waiting,

No one said it is going to be easy. But what matters the most, is not making a foolish decision while you are in the process of recovery.

Make friends, but never start thinking of a relationship immediately.

@mz, thanks but prefer we chat.
@Pataki: sure. im not ready to go into any relationship as it is now. im jst opened to making friends for now.

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lacidrupie,pelle its one of those things
anyways maybe its time to draw closer to God

Thanks. i do pray but at the same tym its so annoying not even having someone to actually talk to if u knw wat i mean.

well you could talk tome on YIM if you want but am a bit far away all the way in north america,

no prob wats your yahoo id?

bayoofi@yahoo.com i just added u

alright.

are u on facebook, go there u see friends
i dont think u can get one here

Facebook? well, just want to sign up for it but its not just going. didnt rili had any interest in making friends thats y i didnt sign up for it earlier than now but will continue trying if i can sign up for it.
thanks.

My dear, my only advice to you is let go. . .
The message below by T.D jakes has really helped me a lot. . .you need to read it and put it not practice. . .I hope it helps.

Let it go,
By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into
staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to
see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us
that it might be made manifest that they were not for
us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have
continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.


And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just
means that their part in the story is over. And you've got
to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep
trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you
something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I
believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm
faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong
to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ,

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and
see your worth,

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better,

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take

you to a new level in Him,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try
to help themselves,

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ,

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself

and God is saying "take your hands off of it,"

then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing in your life,


LET IT GO!!!



Get Right or Get Left
. think about it, and then ,

LET IT GO!!!

"The Battle is the Lord's!"

you are welcome to nl.

Heart got colder now, my mother, my father, I love em, I hate em. . . Wish God i didnt have em, but i'm glad that he made em

@Poster, listen to good rap music, it'll take your mind away from the blues

You are welcome onboard Nairaland, please undo ur seatbelt for take-off cos u're gonna xperience the most fun as we approach 8million miles in da sky.Feel free to let it out!
Don't mind all dat gibberish, the point is; welcome to nland and as sum1 posted earlier, "people leave you because they are not joined to you" nland never leaves.

I understand that you are going thru a hard time right now, but remember all things work for the better of thoes who love GOD, Recite this to yourself or out loud onec a day, I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.
(Martha Washington), Good luck and God bless

lol

ThoniaSlim:

My dear, my only advice to you is let go. . .
The message below by T.D jakes has really helped me a lot. . .you need to read it and put it not practice. . .I hope it helps.

Let it go,
By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into
staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to
see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us
that it might be made manifest that they were not for
us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have
continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.


And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just
means that their part in the story is over. And you've got
to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep
trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you
something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I
believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm
faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong
to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains , 

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and
see your worth,

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction, 

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better, 

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take

you to a new level in Him,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try
to help themselves,

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ,

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself

and God is saying "take your hands off of it,"

then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing in your life,


LET IT GO!!!



Get Right or Get Left
. think about it, and then ,

LET IT GO!!!

"The Battle is the Lord's!"

Thanks alot. i have made up my mind to let things be and i've definitely let go off him.

LuvAfrican:

I understand that you are going thru a hard time right now, but remember all things work for the better of thoes who love GOD, Recite this to yourself or out loud onec a day, I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.
(Martha Washington), Good luck and God bless

Thanks for the great quotation. i hope i get to see the brighter side of things. thanks.


@whitelexi: thanks but i dont like rap music 

@ MoneyRule
@AIR MARSHA
thanks for the warm welcome. im sure going to hv fun in ere.

@lacidrupie.Don't worry, ok? everything thing's gonna be fine with u. I know how hard it will be for u to go thru this but take heart. Just take care of urself, u're welcome to NL. Nice to meet u. Even self, u already got friends here. (smiling.)