1.When you keep bad girls as friends they can go as far as sleeping with your husband on your matrimonial bed
2.The man is a womanizer right from Adam
3.madam let him know you are awear of all that is happening(do not be abusive in doing this) to avoid him beating you up
4.stay away totally from such friends
5.pls take it easy on your self ,cry if u want to but take it easy

Maxineng:
This is what happens when ladies rush intp marriage just 3months and he is sleeping around with ladies and her friends for that matter. But ladies you need to mind the friends you keep some of you have runs girls has friends at the end they end up sleeping with your father.

Truth is the man is a DOG and has no respect for the lady if you check he probably married her because she was pregnant.

There are very Good Men out there always go for God fearing men not guys who always sleep at bars and hotels.

Marriage is a Long time commitment don't jump in without having all the facts about your partner.

Just 3months if e enter 1year maybe him go don sleep with her sisters and cousins.

Shame on men without self control.

remove d speck in ur eyes judging goerge n watch closely wat u read....before u start spew d all on d man alone , n abusing..did u also take into notice d girl, frend of d lady presurizing him on not calling her...do u know wat they might have known in d past...do u know wat ever might of transpired earlier b4 then..do u study the chat...n wat observation are u getting about d whole debacle n hw far can ur mind go abt d whole drama....i aint taking any sides...

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So uncivilized and crude!!!Ewwwwwww!

Some girls are just not wise! They know their friends are actually not loyal but because of their deep thirst for some kind of close-knit friendship they will hang on. There are some things your friends will discuss in your presence that will alert you to the fact that they should not be allowed near your significant other. There are some friends that you should never introduce to your boyfriend/husband and who should not even attend your wedding or know your house address. Let them be useful for what they are useful for like latest gists and makeup tips. Chikena!

How come nobody is talking about the sweetness of the sidechic kitten.

I suspect that Adura knows what's right.

This is nt marriage letz call this the diary of a gigolo

Na today men dey cheat? It has tey

abimbawealth:

I get you, but you know there's this possibility that she was just meddling with the hubby's phone and not because she suspects...
Well, curiosity killed the cat and I agree with you, that marriage is over...


May God help them tho

amen. I pity her sha. Some men can be real jerks

Nairaland is not a right place to report marriage challenges.

Na wa o..

general111:
so are you saying he got married to her for monetary gains??

Is that what u comprehended from my comment? Pls read again!

judges:
madam, you have gave evident that your husband is cheating on you, don't you ask your husband about his past relationship during courtship? because from your write up it show that this two people have been together for long. don't let your husband know that went through his phone because it will not help you. [/b]I will advice you to always prepare his food better than before, you should also buy bra, the one that will show that you also have what is looking for out. also ask him if there is some thing with your dress[b]. don't fight your friend just give them space and don't let them visit you at home so that they not give you ( so le lasan lelayi) poison. lastly, fast and pray very well for God to deliver your husband from lust.

This is preposterous. This is my problem with most Nigerians - their suffering and smiling mentality. Why must the man cheat? Will he love to be cheated?

At bolded, wasn't she doing all that? Isn't she doing them now? What sort of mentality is this? A woman should stick with a cheating partner and fight for "what's hers" (as if the man has no stake in it). It sucks to be a Nigerian.

megawax8:


The act is very stupid, shameless and unforgivable. But sometimes, we have to live with somethings not cause we love them but perhaps for a greater cause.

At the end, it's always down to us to decide what we want so she should take time to think it through even if she has to do it while in her father's house.

Yes it's her choice.
But I wonder why serial cheats marry. Why not remain single and Bleep around as you wish. People talk like women are robots with no feelings, I can bet it most men can't cope with such betrayal, but she is expected to suck it up and deal with the pain. And there is no assurance the man will ever change. If she doesn't detach her self emotionally from him, she will keep living a miserable life forming 'Mrs'.

My dear sister forget married men of this age, Dey are useless and full of deceit. My niece is going through the same ordeal, men are cheats by nature. do what pleases you that's all baby. love.

freecocoa:
Who needs an enemy with friends like this?

As in

Now I'm tempted to say 'show me your friends and u will tell you who you are'.

Sad.

kenzysmith:
Na new tin friend u kw happy I dey even dey Bleep my girlfreind sista steady almost every day u re only a tool for given birth so woman keep quiet and start doing the needful u still ve a long way to go my advise for u face ur business the Lord is ur strenght

Really good for u, if Bleep ur girlfriend sister means nothing to u ,what about their mom? As a sharp guy, So that when u marry u will upgrade ur self from ur wife to ur daugther.

U are a curse person because is person like u will destroy a family i mean put enemity between sisters. I pity that lady that is going to marry u

As a married woman too, wil advise u show d pix nd chat to their spouses too nd dat ur husband, his Nt worth livin wif, he can kill u

"Lanre"? Not surprised at all

Huh

[quote author=wickedworld post=47277099]

Really good for u, if Bleep ur girlfriend sister means nothing to u ,what about their mom? As a sharp guy, So that when u marry u will upgrade ur self from ur wife to ur daugther.

U are a curse person because is person like u will destroy a family i mean put enemity between sisters. I pity that lady that is going to marry u[/quote. Smh imagine ur gf sis. Were nie oo

afroxyz:

That is my problem with people like you. Two ladies who obviously know that the man is married and were bridesmaids to his wife are staffing the man and yet you deem it fit to blame only the man despite the fact that one of the ladies is equally planning to get married and is being a drama queen for the married man not showing attention to her. I hail your IQ

And this is the problem i have with men like you, defending urselves of ur cheating nature, does a man who love his wife and respect his vows cheat of the wife?,whether forced or not, i also hail your level of IQ.

4 FACTS I DEDUCED FROM UR STORIES.

1. U got married to a 100% unbeliever.
2. U are not born again.
3. U can't say he's cheating on u cos, if u find out very well, he must have started dating one of those girls even b4 he married u.
4. U got married to a total stranger.

ADVICE

U must knw dat marriage is for beta for worse. They say 'if love is blind, marriage will open ur eyes', welcome to d reality of marriage. I think this is ur first task in marriage. If u quarrel and fight wit him, u might lose ur marriage. First thing u need to do is give ur life to christ and ask GOD for forgiveness cos, its like, u were sleeping with other pples husband b4 u got married.I hate it when i see girls use d Word ''CHEATING ON ME''. THey seems to 4get so soon how dey wrecked other women's husbands b4 dey settled down.

And lastly, seek spiritual advice.
Read dis book '' THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE''.

MizMyColi:
Are you a cheat as well?

I mean, do you do other women's men/husbands?

My reason for asking is that you are mostly what you attract to yourself.

Now, don't get me wrong, I understand that no matter how good a person is, there will always be bad eggs in their lives.
But for these bad eggs to be people from whom you share same meal, bed and body?
This is serious!

If you truly know that you have done absolutely nothing to deserve the kind of people who are in your life, please cut all ties.

I know it hurts. It's okay to grieve.
But while at it, please remember that where there is life, hope abounds.
Grieve, be sad, feel as you want to.
But try to be happy again. Truly happy.
You
If I were you, I will not allow that man touch me without going for HIV testing.

It's understandable if he shags just one of your close friends, but TWO simultaneously?

His case is Spiritual.

Real spiritual problem....u said t all

Bad Player Busted!!! He broke the rule by been caught despite the fact that he was warned to clear his chat...Well now he gets to face the music which happens when you get too cocky...Lol

Who knows what she has done in the past too




#with other people's men
God have mercy on us all



To other men commenting
Tell us you are clean too

wonders shall never cease in d world of nairaland... i rily feel ur pain o jst go for counselling and fight for ur marriage cos na for better for worse.. if u have put ursef in any dirty game before pray for forgiveness make God fight for u too

Take it to the Lord in prayers.

HaneefahRN:


Yes it's her choice.
But I wonder why serial cheats marry. Why not remain single and Bleep around as you wish. People talk like women are robots with no feelings, I can bet it most men can't cope with such betrayal, but she is expected to suck it up and deal with the pain. And there is no assurance the man will ever change. If she doesn't detach her self emotionally from him, she will keep living a miserable life forming 'Mrs'.

It's not because she's a lady, I would give the same advice to a man. Men don't have the monopoly to cheat, I've seen serial female cheats too.

If she wasn't also eager to get married, i believe she should have gotten a hint of the guys roaming abilities. If the guy was that good in hiding it then, she probably wouldn't have figured it just this soon.

We also put ourselves in this situation by rushing into marriages without properly vetting our partners due to perhaps family or peer pressure.

TheSCRYPT:
Every girl I had a thing for in the past that got married immediately has her number deleted from my phone. I don't want wahala. Some men can tempt God sha.

Sorry to say, OP you saw these signs. You still went ahead. Oh well, I will only suggest you confront your husband, but do it with sense. Not all men have sense.

But this is really sad. Your husband deserves a slap or two.

So when I get married you will delete my number

kajoula:
hmmmm what a mess, why are men doing these ?
Madam,



3How log did you court?[/b]

Take a.tokunbo pu$$1 to your matrimonial home and you will be cheated on.

Inspectahdeck:
There is a saying "show me your friend and..."

Also, I blame the ladies for chatting with her husband and even sending a picture.
[b]
[b]Please tell her to go back to her home before one of these ladies enter. Too early to walk out of her home.

We all need to accommodate our excesses, not only the fun and enjoyment.

Finally, the guy needs serious words, he should get a mentor. I learnt a lot from my mentor.

I believe in my heart that you meant to say tell her to leave that marriage now that it's still young and she is not encumbered with a child making it easier for her to move on...