darkenedrebel:


I am aware of no such norm, and that's because it's nonexistent.

Nobody gets married to someone they do not find sexually attractive—physical attraction and emotional attraction are like lightening and thunder: the former is bound to happen before the latter, but the former should not take precedence over the latter i.e her physical beauty should not override the emotional connection you have with her, or the other pertinent qualities like her character, intelligence etcetera.

Unless you are not looking for a long-term relationship, or what would you do when stress, pregnancy and the other things that tend put the years on women makes her lose her sexiness, would you then take to extramarital affairs?

Taking a woman to the altar based solely on how sexy she looks or how skilled she in on bed is shallow and foolhardy.

Oahray:
Marry a woman simply because she's sexually appealing? Seriously? What happens when familiarity creeps in? What happens when you start noticing irritating habits? You think sex would always compensate for that?

Sexual chemistry is important but it is unwise to base a lifetime commitment solely on that one factor.

When people say they prefer the inner person, it doesn't mean they want an ugly person. They just think some things are more important than mere looks; that they wouldn't stop at looks but dig deeper; and so would be more tolerant when it comes to looks than they would towards the presence or absence of certain inner traits.

Toks2008:


Well said...but get this straight...if you marry a lady with angelic character but does not appeal to you sexually then be ready to live in fantasy cos you will always wish you have what you want.

I'm not asking anyone to. choose sexual appeal over good character but marry a lady that is not your taste physically because she has wifly qualities and you will understand my stands.

Oahray:
who said one cannot have both? I believe there are ladies that have both traits. Most of the time, we start noticing personality traits after they have satisfied the looks requirements. It's unlikely one would get closer to a lady he doesn't find aesthetically appealing.

However if it ever happens that good looks and a good personality become mutually exclusive, I'd gladly pick the personality. I think one who marries an ugly angel would fare far better than the one attached to a stunning devil.

When you start seriously disliking someone, she starts looking less attractive physically.

misspicy:

TAH! there

Toks with his small mind as usual your activities is reduced here,hope you finally married
see those asslicking shediots for up there .





Quote me and die

Toks2008:


You are absolutely right but it is very twisted.

You want a fat lady then you see a slim one with "good character" then you marry her...no matter how hard you try, each time you see a fat lady you will always wish you had one.

When a man marries a lady that is sexually pleasing to him he will be happy with her and will likely tolerate some crazy stuffs from her but if you marry a lady you are not pleased with her looks, if she offends you a little you may over react.

This is a very complicated matter but I will never settle for a lady who is not pleasing to my eyes..in order words..guys should marry their specs to avoid living all their marital life in fantasy.

If I make love to my wife, I don't want to wish she has a better sexual feature...that is bondage.

Oahray:
I understand. I guess we all differ. As for me, I can't overlook a nasty attitude because of looks, and I think sex is overrated. I'd even lose interest in the body.

Toks2008:


No sane guy should accept repetitive crazy act even from the sexiest lady in the world but there is a high level of tolerance a man will have towards a lady that is sexually pleasing to his eyes.

It is complicated but holds true.

Oahray:
for some people perhaps. I'd dislike the sexy nagging lady every bit as much as I'd dislike the not-so-sexy nagging lady.

Anyway... It would interest you to know that the majority of sexual dissatisfaction in marriages do not stem from the partner's sexy looks or lack of it, but their attitude towards sex and subsequent actions. So what if your totally sexy partner is frigid?

Oahray:
for some people perhaps. I'd dislike the sexy nagging lady every bit as much as I'd dislike the not-so-sexy nagging lady.

Anyway... It would interest you to know that the majority of sexual dissatisfaction in marriages do not stem from the partner's sexy looks or lack of it, but their attitude towards sex and subsequent actions. So what if your totally sexy partner is frigid?

Toks2008:


This issue of sexual frigidity is a very big one.

Some ladies are hopelessly timid and by this I mean they have practically refused to change...they don't even believe they are timid but rather they will say you are the one asking for too much.

A friend of mine stumbled on his ex wife FB chat with her female friend telling her that she does not like sex for any reason except for procreation. According to my friend, he went through hell with this lady as he will starve himself of sex for days just to make an attempt and be rebuffed again and this has nothing to do with the lady having extra affairs but that is just the way she is.

The guy said she has always been like that but it got even worse..he recommended a libido enhancing drugs for her but she refused and she usually says "is sex food" yet this sexually active guy is so decent that even when advised to have a side chic he bluntly refused yet suffering in silence but he is no longer with the lady tho.

Omo I don't pray to find myself in such situation cos nah serious problem be that.

Oahray:
chai! I pity the guy. A total lack of consideration for the needs of her spouse is a bad trait for any wife (or husband) to have. The day he falls for temptation outside, the wife would start chanting that all men are dogs

Do you think there's anything he could have done to remedy the situation without having to part ways? In his shoes, what would you have done?

Toks2008:


When he told me I asked him several questions and when he told me there was a time he begged to just touch her without love making..my jaw dropped.

I was about telling him to use the touch technique to get her in the mood yet the touch sef nah war.

If I were in his shoes I will have no choice but to have another wife..fact..polygamy is not a sin but not advisable cos of its complication yet it can be the solution to some ugly situations such as this.

Oahray:
na wa. Worse than I thought. I think there's more to it that just an inability to enjoy sex. Couldn't have been remedied cos she kept resisting like someone harbouring a dark secret.

Lol. Another wife under the same roof? A woman who can do that to her husband can do much worse if provoked. Polygamy isn't an option for me.

Toks2008:


Lol! your Oshogbo weed is really doing its thing on you.

You are a confirmed pepper seller..chai! see post...must you comment and in case you don't know .its a low life atitude to pick on the personal life of another when discussing an issue of different subject.

I have quoted you.

Hian

Grandpa leave me o,don't bully me o

How is your new wife coping with your chauvinism?
husband kuku scarce,she no get choice

misspicy:

TAH! there

Toks with his small mind as usual your activities is reduced here,hope you finally married
see those asslicking shediots for up there .





Quote me and die

sexxydiva:
Woaw, am just seeing this.


I'd rather be an asslicker than a ""posh forming fugly coward "

Lol

dollyjoy in another skin

How are you birdee

if this makeup free picture of me is ugly,then there is a new definition of ugly

misspicy:

Lol

dollyjoy in another skin

How are you birdee

sexxydiva:
Lmao, which one you go upload your pictures again


I thought you said you don't care about what e-people say about you? Confused?

Lol,aburo

if I cared half as you do,I would have deactivated my account like you did na,this is your third or fourth account if I'm not mistaken,funny enough,na just small fire dem put under your masculine yansh o


Abeg just leave me this lovely weekend,I don't have time for your madness

misspicy:
Agarawu23/Agarawu33 na like this your babe hate me reach


How una dey

misspicy:

Lol

doll.yjoy in another skin

How are you birdee

if this makeup free picture of me is ugly,then there is a new definition of ugly

sexxydiva:
Why you dey call am here? Make he fit divorce me abi U wicked

Divorce ke

Agarawu likes masculine gehz o na him spec be that.

Atleast na him "toast" you,no be you "toast" man this time aa usual

misspicy:

Lol,aburo

if I cared half as you do,I would have deactivated my account like you did na,this is your third or fourth account if I'm not mistaken,funny enough,na just small fire dem put under your masculine yansh o


Abeg just leave me this lovely weekend,I don't have time for your madness

sexxydiva:
But egbon, Misspicy you get mind to dey torment another girl because of picture when she share, to think i use to see you as a very lovely fellow. Fear person when no fear nairalanders o

Dolly the moniker changer

which one you carry another person gala dey sell naw,your shildren never eat o

babes,like I said,I have no explainations for fools like you o
oya leave me make I enjoy my weekend biko

thank you as you comply,you will make a good housewife for Agarawu

misspicy:

Divorce ke

Agarawu likes masculine gehz o na him spec be that.

Atleast na him "toast" you,no be you "toast" man this time aa usual

sexxydiva:
That was then, now i know those behind those e torments are nothing to write home about, atleast the recent happenings proved so.

Lol

I didn't ask for story of your life naw,
just pointed the fact that I no send as you send incase you forgot

misspicy:

Dolly the moniker changer

which one you carry another person gala dey sell naw,your shildren never eat o

babes,like I said,I have no explainations for fools like you o
oya leave me make I enjoy my weekend biko

thank you as you comply,you will make a good housewife for Agarawu

sexxydiva:



Chaiiii, you must be mistaking me for yourself, no be u dey complain say guys dey dig you Who drunk

My dear go and eat
this response shows you are hungry
please what's the corrolation with this and what I typed?


pheww,all this masculine looking gehz sef