quivah:
33 to 17?? 16years Ok na..
even if you wait till she turns 21, it still doesn't negate the fact that you are way other than her.. 16years difference, An average child at that age is preparing for university o.

if you eventually wait for her, what assurance do you have that the 17year old girl you see now won't have changed when she turns 20??

abeg this girl is young o..whatever gold you see in her now is partly due to her age.
There are obviously older golden ladies around you na.

reserved111:





Thanks a lot.
Since disconnecting her will hurt her I think its better to play along but still hav in mind dat I hav to marry someone else as soon as possible. Wen I'm married we can just be frnds.

reserved111:





Thanks a lot.
Since disconnecting her will hurt her I think its better to play along but still hav in mind dat I hav to marry someone else as soon as possible. Wen I'm married we can just be frnds.

quivah:

I think its better you 'disconnect' her now, she can only hurt for awhile and then move on. but why would you date a 17 year old girl in the first place..common!!!
no need to play along, just let's go before you both do things you will regret..

33 to 17 is just all wrong, you shouldn't have started in the first place. and well, you might want to get married as soon as possible, but bare in mind that marriage isn't something to rush into, and keeping the 17year old girl as a friend while you are married is a dangerous thing to do in my opinion. like you said, ; #..but considering the fire burning within her at the moment... ..#
her emotions and her age might not make your situation any better esp when you are married.
best thing is to let's go now,totally!
and find your girl in your age bracket, your taste. good luck.

reserved111:
She is "GOLD" I believe Gold are not meant to be trashed

I'm 33 and doubtful of the possibility of waiting more 3-5 years.
...but considering the fire burning within her at the moment...
Could it be a hard risk

Or do I go ahead and marry "A SILVER or BRONZE instead.
I'm observing (ATM) abstinence till marriage.

reserved111:




Thanks dear.

Disconnecting her is not an option. I think she knows what she want so blaming me for starting it in the first place...
I didn't force her to like or luv me and I didn't persuade her into any relationship. She just developed d feelings naturally having known me frm a distance.

Since I'm not in haste to marry now, I may as well wait for her till she get at least a degree like myself.
But it won't be fair to end it unless she do dat herself.

tearoses:
You are almost double this girls age
You also want to rob this girl of her childhood
She is too young to go into a relationship with a man this old
She should be with her age mates

She only has a crush on you because you are older and maybe you have and can give her things that males in her age bracket cant offer her.

Cast your mind back to when you were 17......were you mature enough then to be in a serious relationship with someone that old?
I didn't think so

Let her go
She will get over it
You are doing you both a favour