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Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 3:57pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Princek12: Like what? Could you name them please? ![]() For the desperation thing, I think the Nigerian society need to take it easy on single ladies. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 3:59pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Rosabelle:Lucky you oh my sister. What cleared my eye was when someone i know was caught commiting fraud because her husband wanted a new car and she had collected so much loan from her office in thie1 yr courtship and 3 months marriage. i just saw myself because i was almost withdrawing my trustees money to give this guy oh |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rooneyboy(m): 4:05pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
I think the female folks are seen as SECOND CLASS CITIZENS. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 4:09pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
aisha2: I'm very wary of a man that borrows huge sums from his girlfriend. Yeah it's good to help someone you love, but most of the time they play on the love you have for them. One just has to use her head not heart when your life savings are involved. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by mrperfect(m): 4:11pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Not always the case. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rosabelle(f): 4:14pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
aisha2:You wont kill me true LOOOOLLLLLLL. Oh my goodness. Ive never heard this type. Her husband wanted to buy a car? He didnt know how to work with his hands? Some men are useless oh and once they see a woman who loves them, instead of being honest and saying they dont feel the same, they use you. Its sad. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rosabelle(f): 4:15pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
stillwater:Now I will be wary of a guy who asks me for money. But when youre with someone you love, youre like: well if I give my body to him, what is money? And its this attitude that gets us in trouble it seems. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rooneyboy(m): 4:26pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
stillwater:In as much as i concur with u on this , u ll also agree with me that our God has made it so and not just "the Nigerian society" ,bearing in mind that the male and female body are two different types. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 4:27pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Rosabelle: Rosabelle:My dear, they are business men oh, business that never materializes. I spoke to somenone who lives off his wife and he said he got use to the fact that his wife always provided for him and their daughter so he is reluctant to spend money on her and other family issues. Please chicks, dont help out because u will start what u cant finish oh. Believe me before you know u have loaned so much money you will never get back |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 4:30pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Rooneyboy: So God would be in support of the incessant insults single women get if they don't get married early? ![]() |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 4:32pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
PLS I DO S |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 4:40pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
aisha2: you do realize that it also works the other way, don't you? |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rosabelle(f): 4:41pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Rooneyboy:The Lord made what ![]() presidonsi:Sir. I dont understand what youre saying and what we're saying. Cos it seems like you mistakenly posted on the wrong thread. I stand to be corrected if wrong |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Nobody: 4:49pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
oyb:And i support and encourage women to earn their own money through legit means. The sad part is that a lot of men esp in Abuja are coorperate gigolos. I dont support men or women livin off someone but its more pathetic in the case of men because they should take the lead in the relationship. Cest toi |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Princek12(m): 4:58pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Rosabelle:A man is blamed when a women who is clearly a psycho in a relationship is not happy; other men are blamed when a woman willingly chooses a loser as a husband instead of that woman admitting self responsibility for making the wrong decision; men are blamed for all this shakara that Naija women do when you approach them, some women go as far as saying that their attitudes were cultivated in response to men who improperly approach them instead of saying that these womens' upbringing makes them grow up to be inherently shakara-ish; men are blamed for a woman's failure to perform her role in a relationship; men are blamed when a sexually promiscuous lady aka ashawo sleeps with a multitude of men; and it goes on and on. This blame game stuff goes both ways. I don't think you have reconciled the norms that existed in primitive Nigerian society to current societal norms. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rooneyboy(m): 6:08pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
stillwater:u made use of the word "desperation" and the Nigerian society , what i m trying to poin out is that girls (u inclusive) have every reason to be desperate knowing fully well that there's something at stake. So YOU SHOULDN'T BLAME THE NIGERIAN SOCIETY. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Pharoh: 6:11pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
In as much as i have to agree but not totally with you ladies and the points raised please try also not to portray yourself as saints or the sole victims in this blame issues. It goes both ways just that the ladies parts are more glaring. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Shinatu: 6:38pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
stillwater: Gbam! If the society did not regard being single as a disease and single people without children are treated with the same respect as other people, I bet many ladies would prefer to be single rather than being with men that add no value to their lives. But discrimination is everywhere even in the Church where the Bible states that it is better to remain single!!!!! I usually introduce myself stating my name without a 'Mrs', and get treated like trash until my wedding ring is sighted or someone walks by and ask after my son Please try to call any of these customer service help lines without calling yourself Mrs so so so and see what you'll get. Who enjoys living in a society as an outcast?-this is the reason irresponsible men still have ladies buzzing around them, the few responsible one may not go round. One of my goal in life is to teach my daughter how to detect an irresponsible man from one thousand miles and avoid him like a plague, so help me God! |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rosabelle(f): 7:00pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Rooneyboy:Im not sure I understand you sir? What exactly is at stake? Cos if I understood the lady correctly, this desperation she spoke of was the pressure single ladies recieve. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by MUZBO(m): 7:05pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Males are genetically inclined to blame and females are genetically disposed to be blamed. I can't blame an invertebrate so I'll pick the vulnerable female if it comes to that . Most females are clumsy and deserve blame anyway and the few that aint clumsy usually roll with loosers who'll blame anything. Its simple: get smart or don't get married! |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by posakosa(m): 7:55pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
MUZBO: Thats probably the only part I agree with. Well said. ![]() |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by slimes(m): 7:58pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
It clearly shows the disregard for the wife. I don't subscribe to dehumanize and make other people less important than yourself. It just shows the beginning of the end for that family union. This misbehaviour is common but it does not change the fact that it is bad and one party is suffering in silence. Life is not a bed of roses but should a nuclear family be interfered by a couple of idle and impossible to please in-laws?. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by kanyeWest1: 8:04pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Why shouldnt women be blamed for Men's Woes? They are Animals and Always diverting the minds of Men from Intelligent Money Making Things and Issues to stupid irrelevant things like Shopping. They are too dense and daft and thats why they will always be second class citizens and objects of sex in comparison to Men! Stupid creatures ![]() |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rosabelle(f): 8:11pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
kanye West:Oya, theyve come. In entourage. Nna doe, oh |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by koolchicco: 8:24pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
kanye West: Ol' Boi u really must HATEEEEEEE Women! ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by sandas: 8:29pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
but it is a woman that gave birth to u |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by modupsie(f): 8:32pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
kanye West: who is this one ? aisha2:exactly!! presidonsi: ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by kanyeWest1: 8:51pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
I knew its only a matter of time these brainless chicks will come out to start attacking me because i rightfully stated that women are stupid animals and should be blamed for all the woes of men. You have just exhibited all the traits of stupidity by pointing out my criticism of women to advance your cause. Thats why you will continue to remain as you are and continue to be the object of sex to men and men shall continue to throw crumbs at feet in exchaange for opening ur smelly legs! Pheww! ![]() |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rosabelle(f): 8:57pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
kanye West:Here we go. Another one on the loose! |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by sley4life(m): 9:10pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Cos dem chop am 2gether so they must die together. When the husband dey succeed the woman talk say na she make am succeed so when the husband fail na the woman go take the sole blame |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by Rooneyboy(m): 9:28pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
Rosabelle:what i was trying to correct is that the "desperation " is more of an inbuilt thing in ladies and not the pressure from the society as u said . (in a nut shell ),u ladies know when u are getting old and as such dont need the society to tell u , then DESPERATION from u girls comes into play. |
Re: Why Are Wives Often Blamed For Their Husbands' Failures? by choppepe: 9:37pm On Oct 09, 2009 |
its just unfortunate because the pattern keeps repeating on and on.i just believe marriage is 4 2 nt 4 the family.dnt bring them in.allow love to run thru u. |
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