OUCH! ... These sting a little.
It almost seems like most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. In my opinion, the ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. While some women say they want a nice guy, they usually end up dating bad boys. Here a few reasons (some legitimate and some just stereotypes that won't die) why girls like bad boys and dismiss the nice guys:
1. Nice guys' personalities don't seem genuine.
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Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real, and women instinctively don't trust that. Bad boys "keep it real." Nice guys don't want to upset the apple cart.
2. Nice guys don't have self-respect.
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No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don't set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn't let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.
3. They're SO predictable — w hich is just boring!
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Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.
4. Loving a bad boy is in our genes.
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Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.
5. Women like to feel needed.
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Nice guys don't usually need "to be fixed." Bad boys usually do, so they become a "project." Some women think if they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
6. Nice guys seem weak.
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Women are subconsciously attracted to potential mates with strong genes . Bad boys send out a subconscious message that they those powerful genes. They believe their genes are so strong that they aren't afraid of losing a woman because of bad behavior. Nice guys' fear of losing their woman sends the exact opposite message.
7. Nice guys are into commitment.
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If a woman is afraid of intimacy , she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that's scary.
8. Some women have low self-esteem.
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We don't feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don't think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you're not familiar with and that feels uncomfortable.
9. The sex just isn't as mind-blowing.
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Women assume a nice guy won't be good in bed. We sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won't be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.
10. Bad boys are totally sexy.
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Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn't hot? I'm sure there are a few, but they wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, "He's not hot."
11. Nice guys aren't as charming.
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Nice guys don't always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen hard and has a tough time letting go.
12. Nice guys aren't as strong physically.
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Historically, men have protected women — physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren't so sure.
Life is all about balance. Until men learn how to do that, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

Ctrl C & Ctrl V. You try.

I like good boiz... Ain't attracted to bad boiz...

Which girl with her complete senses will chose a bad guy over a good guy…mere assumptions.

firstking01:
Which girl with her complete senses will chose a bad guy over a good guy…mere assumptions.

Abi o

being nice isn't being stupid. if i have to be a jerk for girls to like me, then i prefer to be celibate.most girls would date the bad boys, but at the end of the day would want to settle down with the nice guy. so being nice is it's own reward

Nice one.. 70% of women prefers bad boy more than nice guys...

Jude44:
OUCH! ... These sting a little.
It almost seems like most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. In my opinion, the ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. While some women say they want a nice guy, they usually end up dating bad boys. Here a few reasons (some legitimate and some just stereotypes that won't die) why girls like bad boys and dismiss the nice guys:
1. Nice guys' personalities don't seem genuine.
advertisement
Giphy
Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real, and women instinctively don't trust that. Bad boys "keep it real." Nice guys don't want to upset the apple cart.
2. Nice guys don't have self-respect.
Giphy
advertisement
No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don't set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn't let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.
3. They're SO predictable — w hich is just boring!
Gif Sec
Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.
4. Loving a bad boy is in our genes.
Giphy
Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.
5. Women like to feel needed.
Giphy
Nice guys don't usually need "to be fixed." Bad boys usually do, so they become a "project." Some women think if they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
6. Nice guys seem weak.
Giphy
Women are subconsciously attracted to potential mates with strong genes . Bad boys send out a subconscious message that they those powerful genes. They believe their genes are so strong that they aren't afraid of losing a woman because of bad behavior. Nice guys' fear of losing their woman sends the exact opposite message.
7. Nice guys are into commitment.
Giphy
If a woman is afraid of intimacy , she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that's scary.
8. Some women have low self-esteem.
Giphy
We don't feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don't think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you're not familiar with and that feels uncomfortable.
9. The sex just isn't as mind-blowing.
Betches
Women assume a nice guy won't be good in bed. We sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won't be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.
10. Bad boys are totally sexy.
Giphy
Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn't hot? I'm sure there are a few, but they wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, "He's not hot."
11. Nice guys aren't as charming.
Giphy
Nice guys don't always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen hard and has a tough time letting go.
12. Nice guys aren't as strong physically.
Giphy
Historically, men have protected women — physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren't so sure.
Life is all about balance. Until men learn how to do that, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

because a man is nice to a lady doesnt mean dat he is a weaklin at @your no 12,i knw of a man who is extremely gentle and nice but if u try make fool of him or mess with his family,he will deal with you in less than a minute

Gals will always love a bad gal....they mite av a good bf/husband o....but a bad boy will always have Deir heart and pvssy!!!
Team bad boys!!!
Am a yorubadboy!!!

This exposes a fundamental flaw in the female folk. Terrible experiences of physical and emotional abuse, serial exploitations and raging emotions has left these ladies with chronic cases of low self-esteem.
Unable to accurately identify and differentiate between genuine kindness and it's opposite, they opt for the cowardly option of praying for a 'nice guy' but expecting a bad guy (they dream about transforming a bad guy to a good guy... Sic) . I guess it's easier to bear being treated with disdain than being treated with respect.
If you worry about a 'nice guy' kindness, time will tell about its genuineness. It's sad that girls would rather have a guy abuse them than treat them well.
So guys, if you're a 'nice guy' and you meet any girl that cringes at your niceness, please run in the opposite direction. She's got a lot of baggage she's carrying, unresolved emotional issues, low self esteem, trust issues, daddy issues... She'll drag you down to her level and pull you in the mud. It's not your duty to save or enlighten her.
I have dated girls who responded well to my, permit me to use this phrase; show of niceness. So the good news is that not all girls are walking wrecks.

KevMitnick:
This exposes a fundamental flaw in the female folk. Terrible experiences of physical and emotional abuse, serial exploitations and raging emotions has left these ladies with chronic cases of low self-esteem.
Unable to accurately identify and differentiate between genuine kindness and it's opposite, they opt for the cowardly option of praying for a 'nice guy' but expecting a bad guy (they dream about transforming a bad guy to a good guy... Sic) . I guess it's easier to bear being treated with disdain than being treated with respect.
If you worry about a 'nice guy' kindness, time will tell about its genuineness. It's sad that girls would rather have a guy abuse them than treat them well.
So guys, if you're a 'nice guy' and you meet any girl that cringes at your niceness, please run in the opposite direction. She's got a lot of baggage she's carrying, unresolved emotional issues, low self esteem, trust issues, daddy issues... She'll drag you down to her level and pull you in the mud. It's not your duty to save or enlighten her.
I have dated girls who responded well to my, permit me to use this phrase; show of niceness. So the good news is that not all girls are walking wrecks.

hmmmmmm. no comment. just lot of sense

jorion:

hmmmmmm. no comment. just lot of sense

he. made lot of sense actually.

Eeeeh...no wonder Bisi started coming around me after i was caught stealing church offering