QueenSuccubus:
Just do the right thing... Why be in a relationship and juz suffer alone?

If she's not helping to maintain the relationship healthy , then it's time for u to pack up and leave the scene... We cannot please everyone even those we really love the most...


God luck

Lastking147:
QueenSuccubus I saw ya viewing oh no run
come contribute haha

pennytrate:
"never u waste ya time to understand species that doesn't understand 'em selves" u ain't God mahn

chccho:

Thanks a lot dear, I think I would just let her be I don't like my emotions being hurt

QueenSuccubus:




I juz did...


I tot u sleeping oredi

QueenSuccubus:




I juz did...


I tot u sleeping oredi

chccho:

In fact ehn,it's as if u just said it all....Thanks

yea, move on. what's yours is yours, we don't rush it

Lastking147:


ehen dunno
sleep no come home tonight Bebe ;

QueenSuccubus:



Hahahaha...


Ur one of the "night crawlers" let's go ransacked the threads.. U lead sha, I dey follow ur yansh... Hahahahah

pennytrate:


yea, move on. what's yours is yours, we don't rush it

QueenSuccubus:
Just do the right thing... Why be in a relationship and juz suffer alone?

If she's not helping to maintain the relationship healthy , then it's time for u to pack up and leave the scene... We cannot please everyone even those we really love the most...


God luck

chccho:
Although we still spoke last nite when she buzzed me and we spoke for a while.. Things are not the same as before,she is still cold to me and all

It is well aha,seems I need to get me a plan B

Raine80:
Stop trying to be in a relationship.Relationship involves concerted effort from both parties it's not a solo quest. Give her space ...no contact ,no effort and see what happens.

VickyRotex:


My advice will be:

You should still talk to her about this. Explain to her how her actions hurts your feelings. Let her know you look forward to better days, and not just sweet memories.

Things like this happens in relationships, just like you rightly stated.
It could be the distance that's tearing her apart, it could be she's under a lot of pressure, it could be that she doesnt even know that she's acting that way.

Now we're gonna keep assuming, until you ask her exactly what's wrong. Let her be confortable to discuss her concerns with you.

If you both love yourselves and are willing to push on, it will work. It takes 2 to make it work.
But dont opt out without discussing this with her.

Long distance relationship isn't all that easy.

And you may also wanna consider giving her some space. She may need it. And watch what happens afterwards.

Now after talking about it and giving her space, and you still dont feel convinced or you feel you just wanna leave, then leave.

But do not get a plan B while You're still in a relationship with her.

All the best!

chccho:
I am very aware of the bolded but I have been supportive as much as I could and now instead everything has turned against me.

Honestly am just gonna let her be cos I can't keep up with the cold shoulders she is giving me. I can't be treated like a pest and it's not a do or die affair though it hurts but I think giving her space is a very good idea.
Time will tell eventually....

VickyRotex:


I understand it hurts! Alright, give her space and watch how it turns out.

All the best in making a decision.

chccho:

Thanks a lot I appreciate

dillinger:
Move on without ending it. In this case, move on like she did. Don't be the one to break it cos she's half past gone already

chccho:
Hi all,so I started dating this wonderful lady a few months back barely 3months though she is out of the country we talk every second like next door neighbours.

The relationship started fantastically we talk about everything and anything and never get tired of talking.This happens to be the kind of lady I have been praying to God for all my life and I started to say within myself I would like to marry this girl in fact my plan is to settle down with her next year if we can work things out and she is also down for settling down as we have discussed all this and much more.
As usual relationships face ups and downs and couples disagree. Little by little we would have some issues and get over it and Move on . in fact we started making plans to spend Xmas together and we were super excited about it.

All of a sudden a few wks ago about end of a October to be precise we had a lil misunderstanding and from then on things started getting worse. We started talking less,she started giving cold responses and snapping more at me.
I started to wonder what's going wrong with our relationship? I confronted the issues and tried to remedy it all but this girls behaviour just changed towards me.overnight she just became a totally different person to me. Right now we hardly even talk or chat and she is not even bothered about it. This has been affecting me for the past 2-3wks now and I have tried everything to salvage the situation but it seems things keep getting worse in fact she would even snap at me sometimes at any little attempt.

To me I am beginning to think she has found someone else cos her sudden change on attitude doesn't add up to me.. I am thinking calling off the relationship as I can't be hanging in a relationship.
My feelings r hurting so much right now and I don't know what to do.
Pls only matured and wise comments.
Thanks

chccho:
Hi all,so I started dating this wonderful lady a few months back barely 3months though she is out of the country we talk every second like next door neighbours.

The relationship started fantastically we talk about everything and anything and never get tired of talking.This happens to be the kind of lady I have been praying to God for all my life and I started to say within myself I would like to marry this girl in fact my plan is to settle down with her next year if we can work things out and she is also down for settling down as we have discussed all this and much more.
As usual relationships face ups and downs and couples disagree. Little by little we would have some issues and get over it and Move on . in fact we started making plans to spend Xmas together and we were super excited about it.

All of a sudden a few wks ago about end of a October to be precise we had a lil misunderstanding and from then on things started getting worse. We started talking less,she started giving cold responses and snapping more at me.
I started to wonder what's going wrong with our relationship? I confronted the issues and tried to remedy it all but this girls behaviour just changed towards me.overnight she just became a totally different person to me. Right now we hardly even talk or chat and she is not even bothered about it. This has been affecting me for the past 2-3wks now and I have tried everything to salvage the situation but it seems things keep getting worse in fact she would even snap at me sometimes at any little attempt.

To me I am beginning to think she has found someone else cos her sudden change on attitude doesn't add up to me.. I am thinking calling off the relationship as I can't be hanging in a relationship.
My feelings r hurting so much right now and I don't know what to do.
Pls only matured and wise comments.
Thanks

SmellingAnus:
Many of them are very complicated and they know they are complicated... Let me quote Peter 2015, sometimes you have to look beyond the bee to get the honey.... (that's my own quote)