koolchicco:

@Topic

Whenever He's responsible enough to know the meaning of Marriage.

You are very right
cos many dont even know what marriage means

George_D:

mind you we have a lot of married bachelors throwing their weight around _{food for thought}  

exactly, so what is the point being married if you still wanna be a bachelor.

Allta:

First of all Spyker, please define "ADULT" , here are some definitions I found:

1. a person who is fully grown or developed or of age , isn't a 30yr old fully grown or developed or of age?
2. a person who has attained the age of maturity as specified by law. isn't 30yr old enough to attain age of maturity as specified by law?


ACTUALLY, I don't even know why I'm engaged in this self, see, according to the law of the land , a man is OLD enough to marry at the age of 18! PERIOD!

Na wa oh, i thought i didnot specify any number for age, if 18 is ok, marry, an adult is an adult and my opinion is my opinion. No need to quarel me, please

Spyker:


Na wa oh, i thought i didnot specify any number for age, if 18 is ok, marry, an adult is an adult and my opinion is my opinion. No need to quarel me, please

he is not quarreling you, we all just sharing views

Fhemmmy:

he is not quarreling you, we all just sharing views

Thank you, i stand corrected. My apologies to Alta.

When a boy becomes a MAN!

aye, fhemmmy! exactly! most 'married bachelors' are already enjoying the fruits of marriage even when they're still strictly not qualified!

When he is emotionally ready, mature?? rubbish.
so even if he is 50 he should wait till he is emotionaly ready. ?

1. As from 20 Years old
2. When he knows how to command and place demand on life
3. When he knows how to control money and most things around him
4. When he finds a wife
5. When he has a Vision with corresponding missions and action plans
6. When he has a garden
7. When he is born of water and of the Spirit
8. When he learns how to forgive and love people
9. When he has a house (Rented or Owned)
10. When he knows how to hear, fear and obey God.

SUMMARILY

WHEN THE MAN IS READY and finds a READY WIFE.

George_D:

aye, fhemmmy! exactly! most 'married bachelors' are already enjoying the fruits of marriage even when they're still strictly not qualified!

he seems to be eating his cakes and having it at same time.

switch47:

When he is emotionally ready, mature?? rubbish.
so even if he is 50 he should wait till he is emotionaly ready. ?

So what do you suggest then?

ola_two:

When a boy becomes a MAN!

some boys never become a man.

monopolist:

1. As from 20 Years old
2. When he knows how to command and place demand on life
3. When he knows how to control money and most things around him
4. When he finds a wife
5. When he has a Vision with corresponding missions and action plans
6. When he has a garden
7. When he is born of water and of the Spirit
8. When he learns how to forgive and love people
9. When he has a house (Rented or Owned)
10. When he knows how to hear, fear and obey God.

SUMMARILY

WHEN THE MAN IS READY and finds a READY WIFE.

Thanks for this

FROM   ALL THE RELIGIOUS BOOK S AND THE BIBLE  PEOPLE , MEN MARRY WHEN THEY ARE CLOSE TO THEIR GRAVES  MOST  SOUNDING IS TWO SCORE AND ABOVE(40 years)

Really? Is this Fact or Assumption?

16 minimum

lalaboi:

16 minimum

na u talk oh, so when one negro come to your house to marry your daughter at age of 18, dont cast fire on his head oh.

@topic
when he knows the meaning of "RESPONSIBILITY"

~Bluetooth:

@topic
when he knows the meaning of "RESPONSIBILITY"

i love this response

When he has reached the age of 25. All that early twenties teenage wedding sh*t is nonsense.

When he knows what it means to be the head of his household

Princek12:

When he has reached the age of 25. All that early twenties teenage wedding sh*t is nonsense.

i totally disagree with that, there are so many early 20s that have their head screwed on tight and knows what they doing.

madambini:

A man is old enough to marry when he is tired of frolicking with women.
Do men ever get tired of that?

Lol

wwheelz:

When he knows what it means to be the head of his household

Kinda right, but being he head is not enuf, cos some thinks being the head is all about screaming and making all in that household stands at attention, while they call the orders

Marriage?
anytime after 75years is ok.

^^^ take am easy oh

Spyker:

Thank you, i stand corrected. My apologies to Alta.

Awwh if I were a woman, I for ready to marry you now now, that was so touching!

@ Fhemmy

My point exactly. . . . . . . . when he knows creating drama is not what it's about but knows what it takes to make a marriage work

wwheelz:

@ Fhemmy

My point exactly. . . . . . . . when he knows creating drama is not what it's about but knows what it takes to make a marriage work

I am on your side too

Allta:

Awwh if I were a woman, I for ready to marry you now now, that was so touching!

that is a mature mind.

WHEN YOU ARE READY IN ALL RAMNIFICATIONS-EMOTIONALLY,PSYCHOLOGICALLY,FINANCIALLY,SEXAULLY,, THE LIST IS ENDLESS.

BUT MARRIAGE WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE.

intom:

WHEN YOU ARE READY IN ALL RAMNIFICATIONS-EMOTIONALLY,PSYCHOLOGICALLY,FINANCIALLY,SEXAULLY,, THE LIST IS ENDLESS.

BUT MARRIAGE WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE.

Lol

a man shld get married when he his matured Emotionally, financially, spiritually and can take responsibilities for his actions

emotion and finance have nothing to do with marriage. emotion can change, so can finance. You can make $100,000 this year and make 5,000 next years.

God time. And when you have come of age. do not look at finance to get married, you would never get married.

Use faith. marriage is a leap of faith. Dont be scare if you do not have money. Dont get involve with the nigeria stupid big wedding party. people come to eat away your food and money.

Wedding is not about big party. I have this two couple white , i use to know. one couple did not do a wedding party and use to money to buy a house. the stupid couple went for the stupid big wedding. come and see thier life. Owabe party is not wedding. Look it take about N500,000 for a wedding. What if you buy a land.

It is all about planning. To be rich, you need a good and understanding wife. If you have a stupid mumu wife, looking for kare mi. You would have to be an arm robber.

I think am with Alta on this;
As we get older, the society assumes that we ought to be able to think or take responsibilities fitting for someone of our age bracket or higher.
Between the ages of 1 month to 10 years, we were taught to be solely dependent on our parents and in almost all cases, the latter bear responsibilities for our actions.
during our early to late teen years, we were taught the act of self reliance and independence, we take our first lessons in love and hate, trust and distrust, etc, and the society expects a level of reponsibility fitting for peeps of such age group. {e.g i dont expect a child of 13 year old to run for a political post}.
Once we approach our early twenties to late twenties, the society expects us to have a clear vision as to our approach to life, we are expected to take responsibilities for our actions, we are expected to forge a life that leads towards the act of independence, by this, the society expects that we ought to plan a life that is devoid of parental influence in the majority of the actions we take, and this must also include planning a sustainable stream of income towards future living.
Once in early 30's the society believe that we are OLD enough to choose and settle down with a partner of our choice, however the conditions of survival and stability of such marriage is highly dependent on emotional maturity, compatibility between both sexes and financial situation at the home front.
Situations that differ from these are seen as aberations in many societies and are largely attributed to problems from either of both sexes.
BTW, why would i want to be in single in my late 30s/early 40s?

becomrich,:

emotion and finance have nothing to do with marriage. emotion can change, so can finance. You can make $100,000 this year and make 5,000 next years.

God time. And when you have come of age. do not look at finance to get married, you would never get married.

Use faith. marriage is a leap of faith. Dont be scare if you do not have money. Dont get involve with the nigeria stupid big wedding party. people come to eat away your food and money.

Wedding is not about big party. I have this two couple white , i use to know. one couple did not do a wedding party and use to money to buy a house. the stupid couple went for the stupid big wedding. come and see thier life. Owabe party is not wedding. Look it take about N500,000 for a wedding. What if you buy a land.

It is all about planning. To be rich, you need a good and understanding wife. If you have a stupid mumu wife, looking for kare mi. You would have to be an arm robber.

Support you on this one, that's the major reasons some are not able to marry, because they want owambe party. Especially the women.

Whenever I engage some young ladies in discussion and ask why they are not married but are comfortable living with the guy. Their replies point to the Owambe party attitude. Imagine someone who has a kid with a carpenter (in a village setting) saying unless her guy has nothing less than 1m he shouldn't think of marriage. And funny enough she is still living with him and their child.

When he can wake up every morning and realize that is oyoko igodo is no longer troubling him ,