elhafeez:
Me kneel down to propose, God forbid. The ladies choke u with indirect proposal like. Do you want to marry me? Is this relationship for marriage?. Just because à white man does it make it the right thing. They have higher divorce raté.

Talk2Bella:


Your opinion

Talk2Bella:
Too much are expected of women, we must clean, cook, give birth, change our names, be faithful, submissive, meek, diligent, steadfast, and make our homes a success.


From the day a woman is born these instructions are like a program installed in her brain, she’s been programmed to do these things without questions and abide by them, women give up so much to be in the marital race, they give up more than the men and one single thing a man should do to make a woman feel special, one thing he should do to show sign of commitment, one thing he should do to show he’s going to be her burden bearer for life, he feels too big to do it because he says he’s not a white man.


Do you know what differentiates a man from a boy? If you don’t know this, you’re still a boy it doesn’t matter how old you are, real men know what to do, real men don’t feel ashamed to do things, real men don’t say “what will my friends think of me when I do these things for her” real men are doers, real men are pace setters, real men make boys envious and want to be like them, he thinks and weighs his actions, he foresees and makes plans for the future, he knows going down on one kneel to propose to the woman he loves is a sign of commitment and not a macho contest, he knows this is a must.


I accompanied a friend to go get an engagement ring, he wanted to plan a surprise engagement party for his soon to be fiancée, while we were getting the rings he said to me “Bella I don’t think I’d be able to go down on one knee to propose, I am a wolf, I lead a pack, I can’t go down on one kneel to propose”. I felt like a sledge hammer had hit me on the head, I must have turned bright red at the moment because I kept saying “You’re not serious, she’s the queen of the pack, even a wolf bows to his queen, he kept blabbing how he didn’t think he will be able to do it because the pack would be there.


Do you want to know the symbolism of going down on one knee to propose? That’s submission, that’s protection, that’s acceptance, that’s seeking, you go down on one knee, look up to her and she looks down on you, she sees all your flaws and accepts you for who you are and not what you are, in that moment you kneel you have given her the impression that she comes first before anyone, your back is there to bear her burdens, your shoulder is there for her to rest on, your knee is there to support her, when she looks down on you with love and sincerity her prayers for you are accepted in heaven. Going down on one knee represents, honor, respect, surrender, humility, etc.


Real men know what I mean, real men know what I’m talking about, it’s another Saturday and you’re screaming women are evil, women are deceitful, women are cunning, women are this, women are that but your mates are getting married because they know the right thing to do, keep saying you can’t go down on one knee to propose and your future partner will keep passing you by.



Isabella Ibeji


http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/12/why-every-man-must-bend-kneel-to-propose.html

hardbody:


Watching you again, very closely this time.

Elle277:
Kneeling or not..it doesn't add or change anything in a man,,Fake ones does it Berra sef..lolz

RighteousI:
A good, loving, gentle, romantic, caring and European woman will not wish to see a man kneel before her, any woman that wishes for a man to go on one knees for her is a dark hearted, jealous, envious, gossiping, deceitful, cunning, backbiting, adulterous, prostituted Nigerian woman.

Raine80:
There is no must in a proposal..he asks in any way he feels that makes the moment poignant. It might be watching tv, having breakfast or maybe you are far away in a distant land. He has thought about making you his wife there are no rules and regulations about this. Insisting on one way of proposing is for fairytales....it's the thought not the method that's matters here.

Elle277:
Kneeling or not..it doesn't add or change anything in a man,,Fake ones does it Berra sef..lolz

Talk2Bella:


Old generation boy

Weldone

FisifunKododada:

Spare me. Most of you middle class women have house-help that do the cleaning and cooking. As far as giving birth - blame nature (or God). Men are expected to be faithful, meek, diligent, steadfast and make the home successful too -so what are you saying/complaining about?
As far as being submissive - if a woman is willing to take on the role of the sole-provider there are many struggling Nigerian men that will gladly submit to her. Guys dey para economy hard if you no know.


You make it sound like marriage is a burden for Nigerian women. If this is the case, why do Nigerian unmarried women make marriage their number 1 prayer point? They will go to pastor, imam and babalawo just so they can be 'blessed' with a rich husband. So what are you complaining about? If marriage is a burden then why put so much effort to get a husband?


When a man gets married he is totally responsible for his wife. Her security. Her feeding. Her clothing. Every financial need. What exactly is a woman giving up again? If a man tells you he doesn't wanna copy another man's style its not because he 'feels too big' its because he sees himself as unique. We are Africans. We have our own culture that is beautiful and unique. What is hard for you to understand there?



You are so full of it. Such a patronizing tone. Have you ever walked a day in a man's shoes? So how can you know what a man is let alone a REAL man? Focus a being a real woman and let men be men. All this nonsense because you want a self respecting African man to 'monkey' a white man.


While your friend's hesitation is correct and in line with African culture. He is still not self aware enough to articulate the reasons behind it. If he knew better he should have just said 'look, getting than on my knees to propose to a woman is against my culture.' Na by force? And if a woman turns him down for that reason, they he is way better off with a woman who understands and respect his culture.


Instead of spending time learning about the symbolism of the rituals of white peoples' dating/marriage culture why don't you spend that time to study and understand the symbolism and significance of the rituals of African dating/marriage cultures? What is so special about white people that their symbolism becomes more important than your own? You make it sound like protection, acceptance, honor, respect, humility and all those qualities are absent in our own culture.It is because of people like you that white people refer to us a monkeys behind our backs - 'monkey see monkey do.'


Once again this woman (who has NEVER walked a day in the shoes of a man) is trying to teach us how to be real men. Also make up your mind. You suggested that marriage is a burden to women (because they have to give up 'so' much) and yet here you are saying marriage is the right thing to do. So the man is doing the right thing by marrying you so why are you complaining about giving up 'so' much? Finally, my fellow proud African men, if a woman says she will not marry you until you go down on one knee before her - thank your stars because she is not the one for you.

Capt. Fisifun.

Warhawk:
Meanwhile...

A cup of Garri is still #80 at Mama Nkechi's shop

FortuneTeller:


You haven't made a good argument. You have changed the course of the question and answer. Please go back and read, then give a proper response.

Ifakiland:
U made it sound like a gal is doing me a favour or helping me by marrying me....fork dat, I'm actually d one helping her ministry....I culd stay till 35 before getting married...can she? U talked abt her changing her name, been loyal, giving birth and all d oda BS....which job beats providing for her and d kids we both gonna produce (cos she even needs my sperm to birth d baby, she's later gonna start calling my child) so madam bone dat level....I WON'T kneel to propose to a gal....God forbid bad tin....I'll sit...look her in d face and ask....den we kiss and continue eating after Wc we go ohm and fork.

nwamehn:


Abeg, u sound too harsh, no be fight madam. U haven't got the point yet. In the western world, some women are independent while others are dependent, some women cook, clean and change their names while others don't. The guy said that he provides for the woman's needs and because of that he wouldn't kneel for the woman, and u called it Nigerian mentality. But op also said that a woman cooks, cleans and changes her name and because of that must be kneeled for, yet u don't also see it as Nigerian mentality. And I'm telling u that both views are Nigerian mentality so one shouldn't be condemned why the other is left behind, calm down and read the message so that u get the point, madam.

FortuneTeller:


Sir you have missed the point of my post.

LastProphet:


the women i grew up around never knelt to any suitor and never expected or made a point of a man kneeling to them, they were women of high aptitude who saw beyond the ephemeral symbolisms that matters so much to the empty headed kim kardashian followers we call girls today.

Bishops10:
kneels down with both legs.
MissyQween Will you Marry me ??

Fancyforlife:


Young man, what part of the bush are you from? Its obvious you have no regard for women. I pity the woman who will marry you.

safarigirl:
Not that I care much for the theatrics involved in relationships, but you talk like someone whose mother and sisters knelt for men and fed from them as well. Else, why the animosity and generalisations? Or is it the women you date who are Kim K followers?

I've learnt to stop taking Nigerian men seriously when issues like this come up. You say a lot of smack you don't really believe in, meanwhile in reality, the women you condemn are the same ones you date and marry most times.

There is no bite to your bark

LastProphet:


am already married and my wife has never felt the need to kneel to me because it will mean nothing to me except maybe embarrassment. you seem almost okay, life will teach u the rest

safarigirl:
lol.....like I said, in traditional marriages in the East, the woman kneels to her husband...I'm sure you're well aware of that process anyway. It's tradition, it's not meant to demean anyone or however you choose to see it. If your wife has never knelt, she's probably not from that part of the country.

Life has taught me enough, so much I don't think marriage interests me anymore, at least not to men who will lump me into a group of empty-headed, gold digging women before I even get the chance to make an impression

Have a nice day

lizzlix:
Then he's already kneeling (no stress). All that is left is to pop the question.