I am not in a marital relationship presently (I hope to be someday) neither am I a divorcé (I don’t pray to be). I am writing, from careful observations made from several conversations I have had with the divorced and those seeking a divorce.
During my careful observations and conversations, I can tell you divorce is a bitter experience. Enduring a bad marriage is not a pleasant one.


I witness people, who couldn’t hold back tears in their eyes from pouring. I could feel the bitterness whenever they pour out their heart on how they have been enduring a troublesome marriage, for the children’s sake and others reasons.

One interesting thing that catches my attention is the happy beginning of the relationship.
The divorced and those enduring a troublesome marriage were once living happily. None of them ever had the thought of having a failed marriage.
What then happen? What led to the dissolution of the marriage?
For those who are still single, about getting married and those experience troubles in their homes. Here are the 13 tips I have learned that will save your marriages from ending in a divorce:

AVOID THIRD PARTY INTERFERING IN YOUR MARRIAGE:
The marital relationship involves leaving to cleave. It involves leaving of father, mother and all other known relative. When third parties are allowed to have a say, regarding any situation in the marriage, the marriage is bound to fail. Marriage is meant for the matured and both couples should be willing to resolve any situation.

KEEP THE COMMUNICATION LINE OPEN:
Healthy relationships are built on communication. When there is no communication, there is no relationship. Be willing to communicate. And when you communicate, talk about everything and anything with a listening heart.

BE READY AND WILLING TO FORGIVE AT ALL TIME:
We are human, imperfect and bound to offend others. But at the same time, we can forgive without keeping in the heart records of the other partner. When you are offended, talk to your partner at an appropriate time. Never go to bed with a grievance heart.

NEVER HIDE THINGS FROM ONE ANOTHER:
Your partners ought to know everything you are into. Hiding a single thing from your spouse will definitely break the trust in the marriage. Remember, marriage joins couples together as one flesh. And whosoever hides anything thing from his or her spouse hides thing from his or herself. Even your body, you ought not to hide.

BE WILLING TO MEET EACH OTHER SEXUAL NEED:
Sex play a major role in a marital relationship (Not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship please). The day you are joined together as one, you have no power over your body anymore. Your bodies belong to each other. Therefore, be diligent in rendering due benevolence when duty calls for it that Satan tempts not any of you for your incontinency. Read your Bible.

ALWAYS SEE THE BEST IN YOUR SPOUSE:
Due to the different level of exposure, upbringings, backgrounds and knowledge, expect shortcoming from your partner. And for this, pay less attention to the shortcomings and always see the best in your spouse. This is why you are partners- to complement each other. Never try comparing your spouse to anybody.

CONTINUE THE COURTING:
NEVER EVER stop courting your spouse. Never discard any thought that comes to your my mind to please your spouse. Continue wooing your spouse in your appearance, in knowledge, in words, and in action.

MIND THE MANNER YOU MAKE USE OF THE TONGUE:
The sweetest and the bitterest part of the body is the tongue. As small as it is, it is capable of wrecking a happy marital relationship. But when used with caution, it could bring life into a relationship. Therefore be slow to speak!

ELIMINATE SELFISHNESS:
Whatever decision you’re making, always put into consideration the effect it will have on your spouse and the entire family. Don’t think about yourself alone.

SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER:
Couples who spend more time together are happier than those who don’t. Endeavor to create quality time just for you and your spouse alone. Never let the cares for material things deny you of the quality time you could enjoy with the spouse.

ALWAYS BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER:
There are no roads without dust and no rose without thorns. Marriage comes with a lot of challenges. So, therefore, be willing and committed to keeping to your marital vows. Be present for each other in both good and trying times.

RESPECT AND SUBMIT UNTO ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE:
The husband and wife in a marital relationship should learn to respect each other. The husband who demands respect should earn it by fulfilling his role which is to love the wife. And the wife who desires respect for her role in the home should submit to her husband.

ALWAYS STAY CLOSE TO GOD:
Husband and wife in a relationship will face plenty of life challenges that will try and knock them down making it hard to keep a good marriage. But when both couples decide to stay close to God, the marriage becomes a three strengthen cord that cannot be broken by challenges of life.

I am praying that God grant you a blissful marriage.
Don’t forget to leave behind your comment and share, you can save someone’s marriage.

Your points are valid.

jodreamer:
I am not in a marital relationship presently (I hope to be someday) neither am I a divorcé (I don’t pray to be). I am writing, from careful observations made from several conversations I have had with the divorced and those seeking a divorce.
During my careful observations and conversations, I can tell you divorce is a bitter experience. Enduring a bad marriage is not a pleasant one.


I witness people, who couldn’t hold back tears in their eyes from pouring. I could feel the bitterness whenever they pour out their heart on how they have been enduring a troublesome marriage, for the children’s sake and others reasons.

One interesting thing that catches my attention is the happy beginning of the relationship.
The divorced and those enduring a troublesome marriage were once living happily. None of them ever had the thought of having a failed marriage.
What then happen? What led to the dissolution of the marriage?
For those who are still single, about getting married and those experience troubles in their homes. Here are the 13 tips I have learned that will save your marriages from ending in a divorce:

AVOID THIRD PARTY INTERFERING IN YOUR MARRIAGE:
The marital relationship involves leaving to cleave. It involves leaving of father, mother and all other known relative. When third parties are allowed to have a say, regarding any situation in the marriage, the marriage is bound to fail. Marriage is meant for the matured and both couples should be willing to resolve any situation.

KEEP THE COMMUNICATION LINE OPEN:
Healthy relationships are built on communication. When there is no communication, there is no relationship. Be willing to communicate. And when you communicate, talk about everything and anything with a listening heart.

BE READY AND WILLING TO FORGIVE AT ALL TIME:
We are human, imperfect and bound to offend others. But at the same time, we can forgive without keeping in the heart records of the other partner. When you are offended, talk to your partner at an appropriate time. Never go to bed with a grievance heart.

NEVER HIDE THINGS FROM ONE ANOTHER:
Your partners ought to know everything you are into. Hiding a single thing from your spouse will definitely break the trust in the marriage. Remember, marriage joins couples together as one flesh. And whosoever hides anything thing from his or her spouse hides thing from his or herself. Even your body, you ought not to hide.

BE WILLING TO MEET EACH OTHER SEXUAL NEED:
Sex play a major role in a marital relationship (Not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship please). The day you are joined together as one, you have no power over your body anymore. Your bodies belong to each other. Therefore, be diligent in rendering due benevolence when duty calls for it that Satan tempts not any of you for your incontinency. Read your Bible.

ALWAYS SEE THE BEST IN YOUR SPOUSE:
Due to the different level of exposure, upbringings, backgrounds and knowledge, expect shortcoming from your partner. And for this, pay less attention to the shortcomings and always see the best in your spouse. This is why you are partners- to complement each other. Never try comparing your spouse to anybody.

CONTINUE THE COURTING:
NEVER EVER stop courting your spouse. Never discard any thought that comes to your my mind to please your spouse. Continue wooing your spouse in your appearance, in knowledge, in words, and in action.

MIND THE MANNER YOU MAKE USE OF THE TONGUE:
The sweetest and the bitterest part of the body is the tongue. As small as it is, it is capable of wrecking a happy marital relationship. But when used with caution, it could bring life into a relationship. Therefore be slow to speak!

ELIMINATE SELFISHNESS:
Whatever decision you’re making, always put into consideration the effect it will have on your spouse and the entire family. Don’t think about yourself alone.

SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER:
Couples who spend more time together are happier than those who don’t. Endeavor to create quality time just for you and your spouse alone. Never let the cares for material things deny you of the quality time you could enjoy with the spouse.

ALWAYS BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER:
There are no roads without dust and no rose without thorns. Marriage comes with a lot of challenges. So, therefore, be willing and committed to keeping to your marital vows. Be present for each other in both good and trying times.

RESPECT AND SUBMIT UNTO ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE:
The husband and wife in a marital relationship should learn to respect each other. The husband who demands respect should earn it by fulfilling his role which is to love the wife. And the wife who desires respect for her role in the home should submit to her husband.

ALWAYS STAY CLOSE TO GOD:
Husband and wife in a relationship will face plenty of life challenges that will try and knock them down making it hard to keep a good marriage. But when both couples decide to stay close to God, the marriage becomes a three strengthen cord that cannot be broken by challenges of life.

I am praying that God grant you a blissful marriage.
Don’t forget to leave behind your comment and share, you can save someone’s marriage.

Actually very nice points