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10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by tsamson(m): 12:27am On Jan 16, 2017 |
Relationships are a natural part of the human reproductive cycle. It's what, in the eyes of many, makes life worth living. But finding 'the one' is now harder than ever, and with dating apps on the rise, current generations are now spoilt for choice. Even older generations are finding it increasingly difficult. After all, work commitments in modern-day economies are increasing, while wages only seem to stagnate. But they're not the only reasons. In fact, in the grander scheme of things, you're likely to be single because of you. Yes, YOU! Here are ten possible explanations. 1. Your standards are too high This is a general problem with both sexes. For guys, perhaps you've been watching too many Victoria Secret Fashion shows. Or if you're a girl, maybe you have a crush on a member of a boyband that in your eyes is perfect and can't possibly be found among the 'regular' crowd. Well, that will only get you so far. It's okay to have celebrity crushes, or even just have an idea of who your perfect future partner is. But if you have a specific checklist, it's unlikely you'll ever find 'the one.' That doesn't mean you should date anyone, but you should be open-minded to dating people for an array of reasons, and not merely the ones you deem acceptable. 2. You can't get over your ex Relationship breakdowns are a hard lesson in life. They hurt like hell, but they also invaluable lessons in how to improve yourself as well as what to look for in others. But, if you haven't yet learned anything, and still wish deep-down you had them in your life, then it;s unlikely you'll embrace any possible new suitors- even if they happened to be your dream partner, Don't let that happen to you. It's a cliched saying but time really is a healer. For some, however, it can take longer than others. Don't prolong your heartbreak. Learn from it and learn to love again. 3. You enjoy you own company too much Ah, we all know one of those! Time is a precious commodity, and for some, theirs must be regimented into a daily routine. Take this is an example. X is in a relationship with Y. If you want to see X at 1, then Y will have to wait an hour as X adheres to a particular weight training session at that time. Or if you want to see X after work, then even that might have to wait as X wishes to get on with their outside projects. Still with us? If you are, then there's a high chance you can relate to X and Y. That, in a nutshell, is why the right kind of love- the mutually exclusive kind- is so rare. You have to want to see each other equally. If you feel you're like X and likes doing their own thing, then that's perfectly fine. But if you're looking for a relationship as well, chances are you'll have to show a bit more commitment. 4. You don't take pride in your appearance Don't take this the wrong way. Taking pride in your appearance doesn't mean becoming a gym going, hair gel enthusiast. But a little pride can go a long way. It shows you're proud of yourself and that you carry yourself in a respectable manner. If you go up to someone looking like a shaggy dog who hasn't bathed in weeks, chances are they're not going to be too pleased. 5. You have little to no confidence For some, being single offers the liberating prospect of seeing who you like, when you like. But for others, being single isn't something they embrace. It can be awful, and knowing they're is someone you like, but not having the social capabilities to talk to them can be a huge cause of sadness and depression. This is often the case with guys, who- as social norms dictate- are often required to make the first move. But there is a solution. You! Yes, you are the answer. And whether you're a man or women, brushing up on a few social skills can significantly improve your chances. Try asking your friend to play the part of a potential suitor. It may seem silly, but if you practice potential questions and responses, then you're more likely to feel prepared. 6.You're scared of commitment Now, onto the other side of singlehood. As alluded to briefly above, for some men and women, singledom is nothing to cry over. If anything, it's a time where you can be in a relationship with yourself, and be in control of every aspect of your life. But there comes a time when the novelty will fade, and the Sunday spent in bed will feel empty and cold. So, when that day does come, prepare to sacrifice parts of your life for that future partner. All love requires sacrifice, and cutting your gym sessions down from 5 a week to 3 will hardly ruin your life. In fact, it will make it better. 7. You let your job define you Increasingly, working hours are on the rise, and if you live in a big city, the chances are that's always going to be the case until retirement. But that doesn't mean you can't enjoy yourself. Or take full advantage of your holiday allowance. It's important, not just because it allows you time to date more, but also because your life, in the general scheme of time, is significantly short. If you spend 80% of your adult life behind the desk, no matter how much money you earn, your youth will pass you by. Work and play hard by all means, but don't be that person who loves their blackberry more than their partner. 8. You're too clingy Unless you've both decided to to start a little farming community in Sudan, chances are you'll want to keep up with outside social engagements. You might even want to see your parents every now and then. And that's fine! Remember, they were there from the beginning. You weren't. So If you're of the clingy disposition then take a step back and assess what your grievances are? Are you genuinely concerned at not seeing them enough? Or are you with each other so much, that any time apart feels wrong? If the answer is the latter, then you're certainly a hanger-on. But don't be. It's great you're passionately in love with someone, but it's also unhealthy. Develop your own life, and carry on with what you had before. You had a life before them, and you can still focus on yourself, and over time, the relationship will be better for it. If that wasn't persuasive, then let these wise words of wordsmith William Shakespeare sink in. 'Go wisely and slowly. Those who rush stumble and fall.' The guy had a point... 9. You're worried what other people think This type of mentality can be destructive. If that's the case then perhaps you should assess why you care about the opinions of others? This could range from whether you think the partner will be deemed attractive enough to others, or even worried that others will disapprove of their social class. If that's the case, then you'll likely always be single as it's rare that all your friends and family will approve. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you see beauty where others don't, then that's their loss and your gain. 10. You don't listen enough All relationship counselors and marriage therapists will tell you the number one skill to a happy partnership is listening. If you feign interest and don't have a care for their opinions, then you shouldn't be with them in the first place. But if you do really like them and just happen to be a terrible listener, then develop listening skills. It's crucial, not just for a happy relationship, but also for learning. If you speak all the time, you're not learning. And if you're not learning, it's unlikely you'll ever become a good partner. Harsh, but true. Cc; 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by Nobody: 12:31am On Jan 16, 2017 |
Guilty of number 7 I think I'm married to my job |
Re: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by Mykbillz(m): 1:02am On Jan 16, 2017 |
7..... |
Re: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by Franchise21(m): 9:56am On Jan 16, 2017 |
Re: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by Nobody: 6:55pm On Jan 16, 2017 |
3 and 6 |
Re: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jan 16, 2017 |
But it's not a crime to be single |
Re: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by virtual3xpert: 9:10pm On Jan 16, 2017 |
1, 3, 6, 7 |
Re: 10 Reasons Why You're Still Single by Cholls(m): 9:40pm On Jan 16, 2017 |
my brother I am finding naija women personality wise very uninteresting and am not pursuing them at the moment, they all talk about the same stuff and since they are women its not stuff we have in common or relatable. Pursing my own goals and dreams is the mission and will be for the next 5 years, and probably my whole life |
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