I often notice my husband checking out on other women. When I confront him about it, he says that there’s nothing wrong with looking, and he has no intention to do anything more. Am I right to be concerned, or am I overreacting? Advice pls we are still Early in our marriage,with 2kids.

On the surface there is nothing wrong but wat is going on in his mind? Of course u can't know dat u can't see it so u shouldn't be too disturbed but if he does it way too much then advise him dat it could be a distraction to him if he doesn't curb it. Na from clapping of hand na ehin we dey enter dance.

It is normal for a man to check out the other sex, would u feel better, if he is checking out men ? take note of the kinda women he is checking out, maybe there is something about how they dressed, then, try and turn his head with such dress, have an open line of comms with him and find out what about other women he likes and u could do for him too.
Good luck.
I am sure you check out men with 6 packs too.

Chaircover, i know u like better thing . . . . . kai

chaircover:

Stick giant posters of similar men in the picture on your side of the wall in your bedroom & kiss them every time your husband walks into the room

. . . . . Just joking.

On a serious note though, most men look at and appreciate beautiful women; they are not blind or have chewing gum stuck on their eyes have they?

Of course if a man is staring so much that he goes into a trance and is lost to the world just watching the sway of another woman’s hips or his gaze is fixed on their bosoms, then you need to say something or poke him in the eye.

u are rite chaircover

If it's too obvious, then do the same thing for him too, sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander!!

Basildon1:

If it's too obvious, then do the same thing for him too, sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander!!

That is a terrible advice.

I guess you have to explain what you mean by checking out. Is he ogling them or is it just the passing glance

Thanks peeps for all your contributions

i got this pics on the internet,he behave like this sometimes.

emmm. That is ridiculous. It is plain rude if he is breaking his neck to check out a woman especially when his wife is there. People (men and women) notice attractive people and that is normal but ogling is just ridiculous for a grown man

The next time he stares at other women
Slap him and move his head forward.

Do you not check out on other men? It is only natural, it does not have to mean anything more than a look.

this is,nt natural have been dealing with this now for the past 5 years .i dont know what to do .

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Don't let it bother u . .  .he's still innocent until proven guilty.

Don't let it bother u . .  .he's still innocent until proven guilty.

boy1:

Don't let it bother u . .  .he's still innocent until proven guilty.

haaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Till he take the meat, he is just snuffing

If he's been "checking out" other women for 5 years then you might just have to make sure he hasn't 'checked/checking in' somewhere with them.

I think he's shameless checking out other women right in front of you?

It is human nature for the man to check out the women and the ladies to check out the man, as long as he has nothing else in his mind.

The problem is when he checks out ugly women as well.

michelin89:

The problem is when he checks out ugly women as well.

why shd that be a problem, he cld be checking everyone to just evaluate or to differentiate.
BTW, beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Fhemmmy:

why shd that be a problem, he cld be checking everyone to just evaluate or to differentiate.
BTW, beauty is in the eye of the beholder

it is one thing to give a passing glance to a pretty girl when out with his buddies but oggaling is inappropriate regardless of who he is with and he should be adult enough to control his eyes when out with his wife. if other women are able to break his atention from his wife they is an issue (whether it be maturatiy or fidelity)

agathamarie I agree with you 100%. He is disrespecting his wife by ogling. If he will do that when she is around then he will do worse when she is not there. If my brother was with me and embarrasses himself like that I will even call him out. I think she should just have the talk with him. Maybe he does not even see it as him making a fool of himself and his wife

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Damnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!!

chaircover:

Some people just have very bad habits. Years ago in one of my previous jobs, there used to be a guy on one of our customer sites who everyone in the office knew that he used to stare at womens bo.obs when talking to them but as I was new to the company no one had told me about this.

On my first visit to the site the despicable toad stared so much, I had to go to the ladies & look in the mirror to check that all was well 

When he continued to stare so much, I summoned up courage and told him that he was embarassing me by not looking me in the face when talking to me. He apologiesed and shuffled off.

Needless to say I refused to go back to that site again.

ummmmmmmmmmmm.
You could tell such man to get his eyes off

I don't think he respects your feelings.

Everyone check out the other sex and that has nothing to do with the feelings, it is just normal.
Like i said, as long as the dude dont go further