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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by betatalk: 2:07am On Feb 13, 2017 |
esthertk:Do u want to marry him. When u help he might marry u or marry another. So u don't get heart broken u can help if u don't expect anything in return but if u expect he will marry u u fit don enter long thing |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by betatalk: 2:11am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Orikinla1:Ingrates r everywhere not just Nigeria. So ur friends r bingo and who . Distinguish between friendship and acquaintance or colleague or neighbor and don't come here And classify humans with dogs because u picked wrong frienda 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Eke40seven(m): 2:30am On Feb 13, 2017 |
esthertk:It happens too often, veery often. I think his quick talk about marriage is influenced by the fact that you are in Germany already. Why always Germany. I have at least three stories of regret from the female folks in Germany helping out guys already. Are you going to be one of the many victims, well.... It depends. So many things i can't say on this forum. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by hibroym(m): 2:31am On Feb 13, 2017 |
If you believe you have the ability to help him,ensure you do that.Either is your boyfriend or not,it's always good to help.You need to know that somebody has also helped you in one way or another.If he thereafter turns ingrates then God will make the right judgment. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by AyencoH2O(m): 2:44am On Feb 13, 2017 |
It's all about mutual understanding: if you both get it right about core values and buiding blocks of ur relationship: there is not bad in helping ur partner if it won't be abused and misinterpreted. It all depends on both of u trust. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 2:46am On Feb 13, 2017 |
No,when he came to me he was marriage minded and wanted us to settle down as soon as possible but unfortunately he lost his job Eke40seven: |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nofuckgiven: 2:48am On Feb 13, 2017 |
OP,do what won't kill you at the end of the day,I no wan come here tomorrow hear say he Don dump you oh. God created men to take care of women. It has always been so whether they like it or not. Just as a man can easily cheat without thinking twice,women are more emotional than men generally. I Don talk my own oh ![]() |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 2:53am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Oliviaxx:On which nairaland did you read these stories? @op, all's I can say is better make sure that German Visa is residency, otherwise the shoe go dey the other leg when dem catapult you back to naija. Already downgrading the guyman. Abeg carry your money dey go, no need. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by esthertk: 3:01am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Desperate for what? Its obvious you do not know the meaning of love ,if I would follow the naija girl's style, after I traveled I could have easily dumped him, secondly why wanna chill with a broke guy or even consider helping him? Your latter point is my fear,I do not want it to look as if I am trying to lure him with money or make him feel indebted to marry me, its a huge turn off for guys once they feel indebted to a ladyit even makes them misbehave cos it has a toll on their ego,and would want to go be with a lady that wasn't in their success story so they have a say thinking the one that helped out might always use it against them. Like one person said , Yes I am poor and just struggling, If i use my hard earned money to help a guy and I lose my relationship or someone I love It will be quite painful. I wish to help him from the bottom of my heart but I want to be careful and not pass the wrong message and like another said we dont even know each other well enough before I traveled and once I dish out the money and I say something or do something have never done before he might think am being proud cos I helped out, I have learnt something if I decide to help out it definitely wont be done directly by me I have to connect a 3rd person. Oblackq: 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by TinaAnita(f): 3:39am On Feb 13, 2017 |
searchng4love: I couldn't agree more.. Extremely on point! |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Lexusgs430: 4:16am On Feb 13, 2017 |
esthertk: If you want to assist financially, ensure some find of formal arrangements are in place to financially repay the loan. If in the future you get married and decide to forfeit and reimburse funds into family funds, your call.... .. Imagine setting him up (free), afterwards getting dumped? |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Brugo(m): 4:49am On Feb 13, 2017 |
yomi007k: You've said it all. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by fiponmile(m): 4:49am On Feb 13, 2017 |
I will advise you to firstly release half of what you intended to give him, let him use that to invest , if he returned it after the transaction you can then double click, but he failed you won't be disappointed.... |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:03am On Feb 13, 2017 |
U help nt my becos of him. U do not help becos u want smtn in return. Help becos u wanna help as it's ya nature to help. Forget Wat he'll say. Pls...let him ask. Sm guys and pride. If he can bring down himself and ask... Pls help. Mind you... Humans r bound to disappoint. Buh nt to worry. Can i leave a good woman if I find her? Dats guys for u. We want good gals. Except u ain't good.
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:19am On Feb 13, 2017 |
McFabian07: Is this really coming from a guy? Well we guys r learning. A lady wanted to help her potential man carry am come online. Wen Odas dey buy cars and houses gv thr bobo. Oga, so now na to loan ya partner money? Don't u kw loan brks relationship? Gv if u have. Life's all abt risk meehn. Either ways. Na just ur last point make small sense.
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:22am On Feb 13, 2017 |
lodphil: Dats a real nigga.
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:26am On Feb 13, 2017 |
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:37am On Feb 13, 2017 |
esthertk: U kw why? Wen it keeps getting to ur head. Wen thr is priding in u ![]() Smtimes women tend to disrespect, nag and misbehave all in the name of..."I supported or I do support him". The guy after much endurance will have no choice dan to ditch you. Help and stl be the normal you. Dats wat we call dope. 1 Share
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by KevinDein: 5:42am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Wow. girls are mean. Help a lover and you open a thread. You guys are genuinely mean. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Roseey0(f): 5:43am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Don't give him huge money, even if he suggests you help. Pray for him. You will be surprised how all the interviews will start turning out positive. Encourage him Stand with him now. That is love. Every other thing will sort itself out with time. If he is a real man. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by KevinDein: 5:46am On Feb 13, 2017 |
kalindaminda:the line use by the truly broke assss girls It's getting stale, sweetie |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:46am On Feb 13, 2017 |
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by henryhemon(m): 5:48am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Believe me this is not the best place to seek for an advise, You 're going to be more confused. Follow your heart. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Josephamstrong1(m): 5:50am On Feb 13, 2017 |
mrjojo: That's a home run.
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Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 5:54am On Feb 13, 2017 |
esthertk: If you really want to help your boyfriend, help him. There's no big deal in helping someone you love, afterall men assist ladies financially all the time and we dont make a big deal out of it, even if the ladies end up not appreciating it. If the guy in question is resonsible and u can vouch fof his character, then by all means go ahead. It's not everything you bring on social media. Das ist mein Vorschlag. . . |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Brushless: 5:55am On Feb 13, 2017 |
ifex370:Dont cry when he eventually turncoat. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Brushless: 5:57am On Feb 13, 2017 |
searchng4love:All said. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Nobody: 5:59am On Feb 13, 2017 |
KevinDein: As in... I'm shocked myself. The way ladies are selfish and mean sometimes makes me realize that one shouldn't be too generous to them. Most of the things that men do to help ladies, they will never do for a guy even if u read all the Psalms in the bible. But then again, who knows if the guy is not very responsible? For my life, I no go ever ask woman for 1kobo cos I can't bear any insult. . . I'd rather remain an Alpha Male. . . |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by laiza(m): 6:00am On Feb 13, 2017 |
I've been in your shoes before, or rather your boyfriends' shoes. All I can advice is invest in him. If you get the dividends, it was a good investment. If you don't, it was a bad investment. But please, do something. In the real sense of it he might never ask you, probably you guys aren't that close. Forget the fact you fucking him, if he ain't cool taking your money if you give him a billion dollars he still won't bulge. You sure know him better than us, so pls take a chance with him. How much, I do not know. Use your discretion. If you lose, you learn. If you gain, well you just built a business. |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by ceejay4real(m): 6:02am On Feb 13, 2017 |
yomi007k:Women are so wicked and selfish, I swear! See JAMB question! 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by bapullow: 6:05am On Feb 13, 2017 |
Help him why not, is ur boyfriend |
Re: I Want To Help My Boyfriend But Scared It Might Be Termed As Being Desperate by Boss13: 6:08am On Feb 13, 2017 |
esthertk: First, he is your friend (remove the boy attached to it) and he needs some assistance. Why not give it to him, if you can, rather than just listen to him. There must not be any strings attached. I'd expect you would want the same assistance if the table switched |
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