pls advice me.i met this girl in october this year,ask her out and things went on, last month she told me she has a 4yrs old baby girl for a guy before when she was in secondary school, i have not overcome the shock for her now to bring a pregnancy test result thats its positive, am confused, she said she cant abort thats wy she gave birth to the baby,she insist on not aborting it, pls what can i do am confused and its makin me lose weight

I am shocked that you "chop" without protection.
What were you thinking?

its your kid right?  you crawled between her legs without a condom and had your fun right?  so whats the question?  you want to have fun but dont want the consequences of that fun?  if you didnt want a kid you should have kept your pants on.  sorry no sympathy at all for you.  if you must put it up for adoption but no reason to kill the baby because you your own stupidity

i dont think i have any problem taking the kid,the problem is the mother.i have all wat ut takes to be a dad.

Did she told you that she had a baby for some one before?

@ KX
 is it everytime u play with condom,

she told me very late,now she pregnant

Wow so you can roll in the hay with her without a rubber but if one of the sideeffects(pregnancy) of the rolling arises you want her to kill it? My friend take responsibility for your actions and be a man about it. Next time have atleast 10 rubbers in you wallet.

I don't know why she has to do this.
Is like she has that is plan already. If you think you are due for marriage marry her.
But this is really challenging.

bros u dey inside serious wahala oh, i no think say make you tell her to throw-way d belle
una fit come up with solution now, even say she born d pickin, and u no wan marry am una still fit care for d pickin, abi?

Rukkayat:

bros u dey inside serious wahala oh, i no think say make you tell her to throw-way d belle
una fit come up with solution now, even say she born d pickin, and u no wan marry am una still fit care for d pickin, abi?

Sis ye! U dey vex o!!!!!!! In fact your pix says it all!

Rukkayat, you are beautiful.

thats the mess i put myself.i dont know what to tell my people

naija_guy:

HYMM, Na waooo,

U don enjoy your sef

ABEG tak de moda and d Pikin,

Most he?!. . . the first guy that impregnated her didn't take her. . . why should he?!

emans:

thats the mess i put myself.i dont know what to tell my people

Guy, don't think too much. . . no body can force you to marry anyone. just be there for the BABY.

emans:

thats the mess i put myself.i[b] dont know what to tell my people[/b]

Tell ur pple that u will soon be a dady

lwkmd, daddy samson , i'll advice you to take the girl. she must be very fertile,

and if you still want to abort it the n you may have to intimidate her a lil bit. scare her. tell her you won't won't take responsibility for the baby. trust me, it works 70percent of the time

Since U've got al it takes to be a dad den, take d child n leave d mother.

@ poster

Even if she told you she had a kid while you guys were having sex it wouldn't have mattered because you have gotten her preganat. Dont be confused because just because a woman gets pregnant for you doesn't mean you must marry her. The child should be your first responsibility then the mother. Though you were sleeping with her but this whole thing seems suspect to me. Seems like she planned this whole scenerio but who knows   anyway take care of the child.

Kx:


I am shocked that you "chop" without protection.
What were you thinking?

u don chop finish and now ure loosin weight

beta start buying baby pampers

welcome our newest nairaland FATHER on board~

even body applause~
encore~

Is there any story we haven't heard on the romance section?

You don dey lose weight??
You sure sey no be HIV/AIDS??
You and people like you should be stuffed into a building and the building burnt to the ground!
You never dey shocked yet!
I wonder who dey create una type because God no dey do this kain work.

Eku ewu omo o

emans:

@ KX
[size=14pt] is it everytime u play with condom, [/size]

FYI,each time you dont "play" (as u put it) with condom, you are romancing:
-unwanted pregnancy,
-STI's and STD's
-the father of them all,HIV AIDS

what a man sow,that he shall reap.

thanks everybody i beleve God will see me through, but i still need more views on this.thanks

Man up and take responsibility for your actions cus you gonna be a dada!

@ ThoniaSlim
thanks may God be with u,any body in this kind of mess before

Hmmm, me no come knw wetin 2 talk o, good luck sha

Dude. . .all your pain/fear/anguish will melt away when you hold your child in your hands. . .as per the mum. . .you don't have to marry her IF you dont want to.

on a second thot, how ur condition be? if u sit well well, that means d babe know wetin she do, but i'll take that back 2 some xtent if not completely because it takes two to tango. unfortunately, advice elude me 4 this matter. once again gud luck. Me no dey 4 blaming game. wot's done is done. Find a way 4ward.

Gold help us all

@ Y.M.E
she has even plan to move in with me