kennygee:
She just got born again and has decided she's not about that fornicating life anymore.

She can't force you to be in the same spiritual level as she is and it won't be fair for her to remain in the relationship denying you sex if you are not ready to come on board the Christian relationship.

Move on with your life to another female who is about the fornicating life.

It sure pays to know Jesus.

kennygee:
She just got born again and has decided she's not about that fornicating life anymore.

She can't force you to be in the same spiritual level as she is and it won't be fair for her to remain in the relationship denying you sex if you are not ready to come on board the Christian relationship.

Move on with your life to another female who is about the fornicating life.

It sure pays to know Jesus.

Mophasa:
Please guys I need your advice and suggestions please.
There is this girl I have been dating for over a year now, I love her so much and intend to marry her soon. I think she loves me too.
She's currently doing her Nysc in cross river while I am in the north. We haven't seen each other since last November though we always chatting and talking on phone like everyday. We have been so cool over the past few weeks and we arranged for her to come see me this week, Thursday to be precise. I even sent her 10k for transportation.

Now after we talked last night and she agreed to come on Thursday, she called me early this morning around 6am only to tell me there was a problem, when I asked her what it was, she told me despite the fact she loves me so much and wants to be with me, she's breaking up with me because she doesn't want to be having sex anymore, that she's not okay with her spiritual life.

I was devastated and all my efforts to try talk sense into her has been in futility! Now the problem am having is that this girl happens to be the only woman in my life, for over a year we, ve been together I have not cheated on her despite the distance. I love her so much and I have always wanted to end up with her. I always did everything possible to make her happy and I, ve never hurt her before.

Please guys I don't want to lose her, what do I do.

Cc:Lalasticlala, mynd44

From a heartbroken Nairalander

kennygee:
She just got born again and has decided she's not about that fornicating life anymore.

She can't force you to be in the same spiritual level as she is and it won't be fair for her to remain in the relationship denying you sex if you are not ready to come on board the Christian relationship.

Move on with your life to another female who is about the fornicating life.

It sure pays to know Jesus.

Mophasa:


It's not like she got born again or something, fornication is not the only sin in life and all sins are equal before God.
She still does other stuff too and it's not like I met her a virgin.

Destined2win:
Please let her be if she's for real. There is really no biggie in pre-marital sex.

If you truly love her, let her understand that you are not after sex

greatnaija01:
If sex is what is so important to you in a relationship then YOU NEED JESUS because you are cheating on HIM.

Since when did sex become LOVE...ehn... biko tell me... who sex epp? rather it weakens you. it is good only when it is right and thats MARRIAGE...

this generation has its values warped... It seems you do not know that LIFE IS SPIRITUAL... will sex protect you from witches n wizards??

this is sad but bros you are not even thanking God that she is becoming a wife material by taking her spiritual life seriously... she will meet more responsible guys WHO CAN WAIT till marriage... then your eyes will clear!!!

bros you gatta know that LIFE IS MORE THAN SEX. if she is the only woman for you then MARRY.... else you are not responsible enough for her.

anyone who thinks dating or relationship is an excuse for sex is not ok at all. LOVE is sacrifice not feelings.... 10 year later the feelings or horniness will die... but its the sacrifices you have both been thru that will keep you.

THE ONLY WAY TO KEEP SUCH A GIRL IS TO MARRY HER.... and i advice you that if you are not ready to change your values and upgrade spiritually do not bother.

Mophasa:


I truly love her and wouldn't mind staying with her without sex, I even told her but she wouldn't have none of it.
Claiming there is no Way we could be together without having sex.
Am actually ready to do anything just to be with her,

sweettease:
and this is why you lost her, she obviously can't convince you on the no premarital sex

Mophasa:


It's not like she got born again or something, fornication is not the only sin in life and all sins are equal before God.
She still does other stuff too and it's not like I met her a virgin.

Mophasa:


Am sure you are one of those people that don't read before commenting.
Am 30 and I didn't come here to be insulted and called names. I only needed a genuine advice and suggestions.
From the post I didn't state where she said she got born again and my concern is not because of the sex but because I intended to marry her and I have sacrificed so much for the relationship.
I know you are a kid so you won't understand.
I wonder why people like you will just come into someone's thread and instead of making meaningful contributions will start forming judges and saints.

If you quote me or try to judge or insult me again you will never find any solutions to any of your life's troubles!

Feranchek:


bro you're...........( make I no use harsh word). So cos you didn't meet her a virgin means she hasn't got any right do live a chaste life All those shit you said bout wanting to mary her are ALL LIES!! All you've ever cared for was her punna. I just pray and hope she doesn't change her mind cos your case worse!

Mophasa:


It's not all about the sex, we barely even see each other. It's not like am a sex freak,
I can actually stay with her without sex.
You sound so judgemental and hypocritical.

Mophasa:


I truly love her and wouldn't mind staying with her without sex, I even told her but she wouldn't have none of it.
Claiming there is no Way we could be together without having sex.
Am actually ready to do anything just to be with her,

2sa2:
She has another boyfriend, this is just her way of breaking up with you. Girls never value faithful guys.

Mophasa:


I can actually stay without sex, from my post I said I don't sleep around so am not all about the sex.
Am not after her body, I actually see her as a future wifey.

ZarZar:


Sounds like she's just making an excuse to break up with you imo. Perhaps she met a new lover. Either way, have some pride, stop trying to convince her of your worth & let it go. One day you'll look back & realize that things happen for a reason.

Michellla:
does she know that?
you should tell her

Mophasa:


Thanks Bro
I appreciate your concern

greatnaija01:
If am the types that sleeps around, then why are you bothered? YOU ARE SIMPLY CONFUSED. and if the girl has truly found Jesus.... you are single again. you came here looking for help... i gave you bitter truth and you turn around to attack me as a hypocrite... STOVE Calling Kettle Black
#wehdone sir

Mophasa:


I know you are one of those hypocrites out there so I won't join words with you.
You don't even know me.
Please if you have nothing to say just stfu besides I didn't post this for kids but for matured minds to advise me.
Any thanks for your concern and God bless you.

Mophasa:


She knows, l have told her severally.
Am just feeling bad cuz I never saw this coming

Feranchek:


Yes i'm a hypocrite. buh that doesn't despute my facts that you're a dcikhead. I won't be surprised if you're just 26 or thereabout

greatnaija01:
bros na you get your mouth o... i talked about moral virtues and about JESUS. so if it pains you so much simply DIE and go n make your case over there. Hypocrite or not.... we all answer to God. OUR PARENTS WHO TAUGHT US MORAL VALUES THEMSELVES WEREN'T PERFECT. so stop attacking the messenger and look carefully at my first comment... it will help you.