Have learnt a whole lot from people's opinion here!

There is this guy that has been following me up for about a year now
but have been giving him cold attitude. It got to a point that his family members
including his Dad became involved in getting me to give him a chance.

Just when I tuned in and found out that he is just my kind of guy, he suddenly became cold
and showing a carefree attitude.

I complained to his people and they said I should keep encouraging him.

The truth is that I like him alot, but dont know how to go about it.
I will really appreciate constructive advise  from the house.

This guy has been on you trail for a year, you never gave him a chance and suddenly now you are heads over heels in love with him. What informs your sudden change of attitude? Maybe we need a more complete story before we start saying any thing.

kokoA:

This guy has been on you trail for a year, you never gave him a chance and suddenly now you are heads over heels in love with him. What informs your sudden change of attitude? Maybe we need a more complete story before we start saying any thing.

That's a good start so lets hear from you and what was your reason for the one year cold feet.?

Sometimes you ladies take men for granted and have nothing meaningful to do with their time other than to chase you all their life.

i think the guy is just not serious or his ego is bruised

don't be cos he mist be shock at ur sudden change of mind,but if 4 like two months he don't show up then quit 4 good.

@KokoA;
Hav always been against match making, his Sister inlaw introduced us, was told he needs to setle down
very soon and I didnt like the Idea of his brother toasting me for him. This gave me a wrong impression
about him, but when I went close to him for a while, my perception changed and I realised I had wrong notions
about him. The Truth is that I felt he wasnt man enough.
I would have love a situation where he saw me and made the move.

Now my head is aching because the guy is too much

@KokoA

Over to you.

use the same route he used to get to you. go thru his father and other family members for a year, and see what happens.

@ Smooooooth
Are you kidding?
Do you know what that means?

Well, thanks ok!

Gurl ur confused. . .

Isn't it obvious?

sorry for interrupting this wonderful family meeting, did anybody see my wife?

drop him ASAP

tpia.:

drop him ASAP

Drop him? guess you don't understand what is going on here?

Maybe your come-befriend-me-quick signals are too strong for this fellow and that is what is turning him off. Some guys cannot deal with it when a girl comes on too strong. Some guys just switch off. Sounds like that is what has happened with your prospective fellow. You may need to back off a bit.

Enoyoh:

Just when I tuned in and found out that he is just my kind of guy, he suddenly became cold
and showing a carefree attitude.

Pls explain further.

Pweety4me:

Gurl your confused. . .

I couldn't agree more.

@Kinkinatus.
Yeah, you truly made a lot of sense here.
It seams that's exactly what is going on
with him.

Thanks man, I appreciate.

well atimes , when a lady gives a guy too much stress before accepting him, the guy after being there and done that, and see what she has to offer might feel, like what the heck, there is no big deal in the girl`s swagger/sex life and decided to be cold and look for a way out.
@poster , 1yr is way too long to finger the guys brain.

Good that another lady is obviously pointing the poster sin which she doesn't want to factor into this discussion.

@ Poster, i don't think he really knows what he want.It will always be off and on relationship then eventually he will leave you.You have to let him go because it's not just worth it, find a man that loves you for everything you are and respect you too.

He obviously liked the year long chase.

@Lara4luv

Sincerely speaking nothing of such happened before he started being cold.
That's the main reason why am confused.

All the same, thanks

Poster, He's mind is no more wiv you before you strolled in , ! 1yr is long nah , tailing a gurl for 1 yr? he even try self  

pureminded:

Poster, He's mind is no more wiv you before you strolled in , ! 1yr is long nah , tailing a gurl for 1 yr? he even try self

Lol

@chocomilo

Thanks for your honest advice.
He even called me yesterday
and claimed he called to find out how am faring in the office.

Moral of the story-never take people for granted.

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lara4luv:

well atimes , when a lady gives a guy too much stress before accepting him, the guy after being there and done that, and see what she has to offer might feel, like what the heck, there is no big deal in the girl`s swagger/sex life and decided to be cold and look for a way out.
@poster , 1yr is way too long to finger the guys brain.

damn!1 yr chasing u.u carry gold for puuusy.he probably wanted to stay 15 months with u.u played hard to get for 12 months and u guys have been together for few months.that means dat ur time is up.u wasted the time u guys could have used together playing hard to get.girl,learn.if u must play hard to get,make sure dat u possess what no other girl doesnt possess.[/size]

@BIG ROD.


word.

@poster, he is playing the game you were playing
earlier, just stick around, he will come back to you.

People always want what they can't get. Or is it people always say no when they mean yes.

1 year, not long enough, i know of a girl that didn't accept until after 2 years' passed.