blacktallest:


Yeah yeah....busy busy busy.
Maybe I do have a "comprehension problem

lol. Take it easy ma'am

lohresloco:
As if, you all ain't worse

When a lady is done with you, she wouldn't have d patience to string u along.

opibycar1:
it happens babe. I'm a typical example. It's not a matter of been busy, it's a character. I see nothing wrong in it, i can go for days without communicating with my gf and if she calls i won't pick. I do think am the only guy that is like that before till i saw this post by op. If you ask me why? No genuine answer

It's usually. "I don't know how to call".

Should I say some guys are confused too?.

Op m sorry to break this to you, preliminary investigations revealed that you are the side chick while your so called boyfriend is flexing with his main chick

let the God damn guy breathe dear. Trust me when he misses you, he would call you. Never force yourself on any man, there are negative consequences. ire o

hehehehehe... no comment

Jacksparr0w127:
lol. Take it easy ma'am

I have.....

kimbra:
Why?, the truth is... If you love someone you would make out time to call. The rubbish "I just don't know how to call" blah! Blah!! Blah!!! Doesn't make sense.

Communication should be open and not left at one partner. But if you notice you're the one calling always and he wouldn't change then end the relationship so you don't make yourself a nuisance by nagging.

Did you miss this part of the story "He calls once in a day and some days he could call you six times or more" ?

SUPOL:
yea, she shouldn't waste her time, women are meant to be chased not d other way round.

Thank You

blacktallest:


I have.....

Good! Now we can converse.

So what's your point?

nikkyharry:
I am really tired of this kind of attitude I get from my bf . I know I have got some ego ,am the type that reciprocate the same way a guy treats me . He calls once in a day and some days he could call you six times or more and you re gonna feel lyk maybe he has changed. So I call him nd text if am very pleased about how our communication level increase sometimes .

I barely call him till I feel he has done enough calling himself . He actually did a day without calling or texting , so I decided to call unfortunately, he didn't pick up nd I messaged him on WhatsApp nd he ignored everything but I believed he was busy . I was damn angry and I poured out how I felt , asking him what he took me as nd why he treats me that way . He was like 'you are my girlfriend but you don't act like it , which hurts me '. Begged him to tell me how buh he never did ! I told a friend about it and she told me dedicate more attention to him ,call him nd text him . I did that yesterday and it worked perfectly for me , we laughed , he called back nd we missed each other .

The call dropped during d call and I tried calling back that night but he didn't pick up again , tried his number this morning and messaged him , still the same ! What do I do? Should I call tonight agn or forget him or he doesn't love me . please sincere advise pls ...no bashing

the guy don enter your London? seriously.......

Jacksparr0w127:
Good! Now we can converse.

So what's your point?

Lol...my point still remains my point. Nobody is ever that busy

This selfish and constant complain was the reason why i dumped my girl in 1945 just after the second world war.

Get it into your head that we all can never be the same.The way Mr A behaves to his woman will not be same with Mr B. Swallow your pride and call him often if that is what will make your relationship work out,else you are subject to the 1945 treatment.

Lunagirl:
Silence kills a relationship faster than most things. No matter how busy you are, you'd always find time to reach out to someone you supposedly love.

I dated a banker once and they were prohibited from using cell phones during work hours which is a lot of hours. But, he still found time to talk to me, during his lunch time, when he uses the toilet, he shoots me a text or something.

What would have made more sense is if someone says that they are not in the right frame of mind to communicate, that, I understand.

Give it a little more time and try to relax okay?

what do ladies actually want? I have a friend, a lady who complains that her bf calls her every now and then.

blacktallest:


Lol...my point still remains my point. Nobody is ever that busy

I'll break it down to you

She said the guy calls atleast one everyday and some days, he calls like 6 or more times a day

From this, it shows the guy no matter how busy he gets, he still thinks about her and tries as much as he can to atleast say 'Hello, you're on my mind' daily. And on free or less stressful days, he spends more time with her on phone which is really cool and understandable

Do you expect him to play Romeo and Juliet everyday with her over the phone?

nikkyharry:
I am really tired of this kind of attitude I get from my bf . I know I have got some ego ,am the type that reciprocate the same way a guy treats me . He calls once in a day and some days he could call you six times or more and you re gonna feel lyk maybe he has changed. So I call him nd text if am very pleased about how our communication level increase sometimes .

I barely call him till I feel he has done enough calling himself . He actually did a day without calling or texting , so I decided to call unfortunately, he didn't pick up nd I messaged him on WhatsApp nd he ignored everything but I believed he was busy . I was damn angry and I poured out how I felt , asking him what he took me as nd why he treats me that way . He was like 'you are my girlfriend but you don't act like it , which hurts me '. Begged him to tell me how buh he never did ! I told a friend about it and she told me dedicate more attention to him ,call him nd text him . I did that yesterday and it worked perfectly for me , we laughed , he called back nd we missed each other .

The call dropped during d call and I tried calling back that night but he didn't pick up again , tried his number this morning and messaged him , still the same ! What do I do? Should I call tonight agn or forget him or he doesn't love me . please sincere advise pls ...no bashing

Your boo has or is searching for another boo. He's not into u.
like he remembers u at his convenience, wen he needs company. ....when d real boo is not around.

I ve been there n I advised myself real good.....and wen I moved on It was too late for him.
5yrs after he claims he still crushing on me.....I don't have no fukc to giv him either.

So pick ur self u. Ur real boo is out there waiting to b with u

nikkyharry:
I am really tired of this kind of attitude I get from my bf . I know I have got some ego ,am the type that reciprocate the same way a guy treats me . He calls once in a day and some days he could call you six times or more and you re gonna feel lyk maybe he has changed. So I call him nd text if am very pleased about how our communication level increase sometimes .

I barely call him till I feel he has done enough calling himself . He actually did a day without calling or texting , so I decided to call unfortunately, he didn't pick up nd I messaged him on WhatsApp nd he ignored everything but I believed he was busy . I was damn angry and I poured out how I felt , asking him what he took me as nd why he treats me that way . He was like 'you are my girlfriend but you don't act like it , which hurts me '. Begged him to tell me how buh he never did ! I told a friend about it and she told me dedicate more attention to him ,call him nd text him . I did that yesterday and it worked perfectly for me , we laughed , he called back nd we missed each other .

The call dropped during d call and I tried calling back that night but he didn't pick up again , tried his number this morning and messaged him , still the same ! What do I do? Should I call tonight agn or forget him or he doesn't love me . please sincere advise pls ...no bashing

You need a good job that will keep you busy.

Jacksparr0w127:
I'll break it down to you

She said the guy calls atleast one everyday and some days, he calls like 6 or more times a day

From this, it shows the guy no matter how busy he gets, he still thinks about her and tries as much as he can to atleast say 'Hello, you're on my mind' daily. And on free or less stressful days, he spends more time with her on phone which is really cool and understandable

Do you expect him to play Romeo and Juliet everyday with her over the phone?

Nope I do not. I only responded to your first comment sir

Adek15:
what do ladies actually want? I have a friend, a lady who complains that her bf calls her every now and then.

Everybody has what works for them. Find out what works and stick by it.

I will take visits and spending more time together than phonecalls. But when we are away from each other, a text or call would do.

blacktallest:


Nope I do not. I only responded to your first comment sir

I'm sure it's been explained ma

Jacksparr0w127:


Did you miss this part of the story "He calls once in a day and some days he could call you six times or more" ?

My comment wasn't directed at the op. But yours and the guy you mentioned.

kimbra:
My comment wasn't directed at the op. But yours and the guy you mentioned.

my comment was drawn from the op's story

speaking of Irony.

my girl friend does this same thing.
the days we will plan for an outing or the day she is suppose visit her phone will be switched off, or no one will pick her calls.

this communication issue has made us break up 3 times.

sometimes I will send her a msg on WhatsApp she won't reply, but some mins later she will change her Dp, then she will reply my msg some hrs later.

I have talked about it, call it rant if you will, she will say she is sorry. Sometimes I wonder if one can ignore the msgs or calls of the one they claim to love.

Now...

I have kept calm,

am mirroring her every move.

am going to threat her the same way she treats me....

daewoorazer:
Let me tell you the blatant truth


Your ego is what will finish you up.

So u have a call'o'meter to measure his calls before u reciprocate.

Your bf is just like me.... I'd never call u once I realise ur childish mentality... Him still try pass me sef...


Yeye


#zanga

You just spoke my mind.

You allowed it get to this yet you asking for suggestions
I wouldn't think twice before I take a hike . You gimme attitude I give you back
You better off alone than being with someone yet lonely. Wubbish. I just dey vex

blacktallest:


First of all, I am a lady not a sir. Secondly why dont you call your girlfriend? Even if you are "busy" during the day a simple text will suffice. See ehn I tell most guys, what you know you can't keep up with, don't do it. Don't go calling her like 5, 6, 7 times a day during the wooing and early stages and then the calls drop to non existent when you finally get her. We are ladies and are prone to think rubbish when such happens even when there is nothing to it. Personally, I don't like bombardment of calls. If you call me more than twice or thrice a day, you irritate me.
In a nutshell return her calls whenever you are chanced. No be completion. Show her you are the man and the mature one. God bless you

thanks for the advice babe. I appreciate

Jacksparr0w127:
my comment was drawn from the op's story

Jack, I didn't quote you base on op's story but a false submission you made.

Is obvious op allowed her ego take the best of her. And from what she said: she happens to be a fan of calls. It's not that she doesn't reciprocate but the guy doesn't understand her love language.

This statement is 100% true "If you love someone you would make out time to call". My ex would only call when he feels like but whenever I do he takes my calls...I used to wonder how much effort it takes to call somebody, if I complain he goes " You of all people should know how busy my schedule is". It was depressing and annoying till I found out he was a serial cheat. Would I say he ever loved me? Hell No!. The best she could do is to move on, the dude doesn't understand what she desires most.

if dat guy really loves u, then somting is bodering him

just give him time[color=#990000][/color]

Babe ditch d guy he is doesn't give a damn about you. I am talking from experience.


If he is really into you I don't think he will be behaving as such. No one is so busy not to return a call when 99 percent of us check our phones every five minutes.

nikkyharry:
I don't rily know what to do ryt now , he is active nd ignored d message I sent since morning ! Should I just watch or keep asking for reasons

How old are you please. No offense.

Jacksparr0w127:
I'm sure it's been explained ma

No no. Nobody stops you from being "over busy and thinking outside love". Infact go ahead. The least you could do is tell her that a man is "over busy and is thinking outside love" so make love park well.

Intact to solve the whole matter, don't have a companion. Shikena