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Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Realhommie(m): 7:36am On Mar 21, 2017 |
Dyt:How exactly do you mean? |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Dyt(f): 7:39am On Mar 21, 2017 |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Nobody: 7:43am On Mar 21, 2017 |
Omg! Please lord may I never be treated like a child in my marriage Women! Let's get our self respect back! |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Realhommie(m): 7:47am On Mar 21, 2017 |
ashjay001:Leave am make him dey rake, by the time reality hit him eyes go clear. 5 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Realhommie(m): 7:48am On Mar 21, 2017 |
Dyt:Lol.. Issorai |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by richyblink1(m): 9:16am On Mar 21, 2017 |
Dyt: If you like shake your teeth join. How do you justify intentionally adding up to 100% to the original cost of an item? I bet you would be foaming if you find out your child has been inflating the cost of expense you have been handling personally. Look at how eloquent you have been all over the thread justifying the margin of the addition. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Dyt(f): 9:21am On Mar 21, 2017 |
richyblink1: Why you mad Oga? Be following your woman to every place if she demands money from you All cos you don't want her add money I do it And I will say it over and over Is it not you men? We will ask for 100, you give 50 when we need 100 So it's better we ask of 300 So if you give 200 We will have extra 4 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Antina(f): 9:27am On Mar 21, 2017 |
skypeme: Good answer!! All these happen when you bring your marital problem on social media for singles to be giving you advice on what they know little or nothing about. |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by nnamdibig(m): 9:38am On Mar 21, 2017 |
Dyt: I just pity your husband. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Antina(f): 9:51am On Mar 21, 2017 |
zaynie: You are on point 3 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Dyt(f): 9:51am On Mar 21, 2017 |
nnamdibig: I just pity your wife 1 Like |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by richyblink1(m): 11:27am On Mar 21, 2017 |
Dyt: Personally I have never given my better half less than she has ever asked for. Reason being that I can stake my life that she has never and would never add a kobo to what she actually needed because she know I will gladly go extra mile to see her have the best. Often, when I add extra to her request, she will call my attention that I gave her over the amount she needed. I will simply ask her to hold it incase she sees something nice to add to her list. I really do not have issues withwife's that doubles their request just because their hubby is stingy. My concern is my betterhalf being a role model to my kids, not couching them to be money doublers in the future. 22 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Dyt(f): 3:13pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
richyblink1: Awwwww So sweet |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Cordis92(f): 5:04pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
Mr Op though I am not married but I can help in my little capacity. 1) I have not seen any woman who does not Inflate prices to patch out little money though it's sinful. There are many ways of doing that. Even many students do that too . You both should laugh over it when you catch her and subtly correct her that you don't like it. 2) Sieve the advice you get here o, divorce is the order of the day maka akuko. 3) Does your wife know your salary and what you do with it? Does she know your short and long term financial goals? I think you should be a little bit free with her. She is your friend not your daughter. I have been living on stipulated monthly allowance from my dad since secondary school and I know how it feels coz my dad is strict. My boyfriend is that humble that he opened up to me about his financial status and because I know, I don't demand from him but he supports me, and I am content and happy. Maybe you should let her know about your salary and what you want to achieve. Plan it with her. She may even start reducing the way she spends coz she maybe seeing you as one very rich man. Please do not punish her by denying her the tight-fisted allowance. If she is not content with the 30k monthly, what then do you want her to do when you remove it for 2 months and she is a student? That's mean big bro and it's unfair. She is your wife, your body, your friend and all, so how can you deny yourself allowance for 2 months? But I no go lie, 30k is very okay o coz you pay the whole bills and buy foodstuffs. So she is entitled to 1k daily? That's cool. it's like this because you have not opened up. Please let it be a bedroom chat not chair chat. 7 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ireneblush(f): 6:36pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
skypeme:amen bro,amen! so many kids on Nl, |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ireneblush(f): 6:47pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
sasko:it's a lie, it's so disrespectful of you to insinuate that his wife is a call girl. for the fact that she's in school doesn't mean she engages in bad things. for her being married and still continues to go to school shows that she has a sense of responsibility and that she isn't lazy. it's not easy being financially dependent. op kindly ask her why she added the money. talk it out, no confrontations please. |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ireneblush(f): 6:54pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
zaynie:God bless you. and she may be scared of asking him of money, how he I'd calculating the money sef in % 1 Like |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Gold45(f): 7:13pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
Realhommie: I am nt wishing u breakup bro,just telling u that failure to resolve this her insatiable thirst will definitely lead to the marriage crashing,i knw what i am saying.U aren't earning that much and yet ur wife cannot be satisfied with the little u have,mehn,u need serious prayerv and counselling.u may think am spewing threats or trash,bt i am a man speaking with experience. Above is the response he rejected. Like I said, most responses on social media are very blunt and logical and many times, we miss it because we don't know all the details. One very little thing we omitted may make a lot of difference in our judgement if only we knew. But still, once we read the initial post, we've already had a certain mindset about the whole issue. e.g, someone has a chronic cheat as a wife, what do you expect nairaland to say to the guy about d mother of four? Divorce her etc, meanwhile the woman was under a spell by her employee. The guy was lucky enough to jam a real pastor that told him the source of the problem, the man got his wife to see the pastor, the pastor prayed and the woman was back to factory settings. If he had done the smart and obvious thing, he will have ruined his marriage of 13yrs. Im not saying this is always true but, it happens. 3 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Objectives: 7:57pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
kimbra: 1 Like |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by Nobody: 9:17pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
skypeme: Not just cuz she is a student you practically married a greedy woman Greedy people are selfish, self centered and inconsiderate Since you pay all the bills including her school fees and other miscellaneous expenses what are the things you presume she does with extra allowance you are obligated to pay her these are among the things you need to know if you are really the head of your home . marriage goes beyond lovi lovy ....you need to be a principled man in order to bring sanity to your home . 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by papaput2(m): 9:53pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
Nigeria men and slavery in the name of marriage look at what you got yourself into At first you married a student , greedy self center girl lady or woman because I don't really know her age I wonder how much you pay your folks who fought so hard to make sure you became who you are today ? I guess nothing Instead of paying that 17% to her open up acount for your kid with it I know the truth is always bitter this your so call marriage is base on mutual benefit not love You will thank me later when she graduate, how many of your siblings are you actually sponsorin in school non I guess Lol 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by bukatyne(f): 10:54pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
'Nigerian' marriages na wa. @OP: you both need to court yourselves financially since it was obviously not done in courtship. What is her views towards finances? What's yours? And then both meet at a midpoint. I have never 'inflated' the price of anything right from when I was a kid.... I was taught it was stealing. Again, we run 100% joint accounts so I might never understand the science behind inflating items. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ststyreal(f): 10:57pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
skypeme:Oga! Oga! Abeg leave that aspect of inflation, na recession cause am, and me self I dey guilty of that inflation thing especially when am broke and hubby wouldn't understand that we have siblings, parents to assists too, it isn't all the time we will run to oga for money to assist our relatives, even though, I am not saying it is right or neither am I encouraging women to do same but I tell you, most women ate guilty of this sin andcwe can only but ask God for his forgiveness and mercy; so, unbehalf of inflation wives, I say forgive madam but, being rude is a no no no for me. Marriage is really a compound project. Oga just let her know how you feel about her attitude and every other things will fall into place. Just tease her and love go start again. |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ststyreal(f): 11:05pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
skypeme:Oga no worry, na so we dey add. Forget about the money aspect, just talk talk and talk real words into her and everything will be fine. I dey Like this kain of quarrel sha for marriage because the reconciliation no be here. Sometimes sef, the reconciliation go come produce one beautiful baby like that. My hubby always say, a quarrel between lovers is a renewal of their love. Na wetin I dey see for this una quarrel be this. |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ststyreal(f): 11:13pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
skypeme:But paying her salary no make sense to me at all oooo. You guys are partners in this business and should jointly plan the financial stability of the family. Why paying her salary when you guys are one, your money is her money and so also is her money your money. Well, whatever works for you guys and make your marriage a happy one, is welcome. 1 Like |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by zaynie(f): 11:28pm On Mar 21, 2017 |
Dyt: |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by mctowel01: 4:12am On Mar 22, 2017 |
papaput2:Guy, I love you for this. Do you know that I spent some days wondering what exactly this man gains or has gained from the nonsense he got into. Marriage favors women much more than men. In many cases, men rushing into marriage are often deceived by the initial feminine fantasies which always fades, and then when his eyes clear, and sees no value for what he pumps money into, trouble starts. I still wonder how someone in right mind pays all the bills of a full grown adult who doesn't even know the value of work. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by mctowel01: 4:17am On Mar 22, 2017 |
papaput2:And then one opportunistic person comes in and swoops a good portion of it in the name kf "love" which when it fades, it will turn another story. 2 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by kaziblake(f): 6:42am On Mar 22, 2017 |
skypeme:You are allowing this stupid nairalanders put stupid thought in your head,i pity you. 2 Likes |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by ireneblush(f): 10:09am On Mar 22, 2017 |
kaziblake:i wonder for the man. I just pity the woman. 1 Like |
Re: 17.2% Of My Monthly Salary Goes To My Wife & Yet... by bukatyne(f): 12:32pm On Mar 22, 2017 |
LeView1: Do you think this lady is treated like a child, if yes... why? 3 Likes |
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