25 - 32 for the average Nigerian male or female is ok

Vuitton:

25 - 32 for the average Nigerian male or female is ok

goo punish anyman whey he no marry him babe by 32 chei! 30 gini na old nana be that lol

28 years and 5 months and 3 days for men
25 years 8 months and 14 days for women

Must be exact. No exceptions.

Redsky1, Princek12, spikedcylinder, kech and others, I applaud you for injecting a degree of maturity and experience into the discussion.  As pak stated:

Sometimes (no offence intended) but I think there are a lot of kids up on this thread who really understand little bout life.

Marriage is not some disembodied thing floating around waiting for someone to catch it, like a cold.  A lot of people who haven't married at 25 or whatever is the presumed acceptable age is that way because they rejected someone or were too picky.  I can only presume that most posters who think like this are (a) unmarried and (b) no where near 25 or (c) think this will never apply to them.  If you're in college or school then you may know a little about relationships, but marriage isn't in the same league as boyfriend/girlfriend. 

A lot of men and women's experiences are similar to that posted by  Nwaka77, in fact, it's much worse.  I know a lot of people who stay away from Nigeria after a certain age because of the undue pressure of supposed "well meaning" family and friends.  For every one who has been picky, there are others who have trudged along without catching anyone's eye.  Still others have caught the eye of someone who sees them only for what they can get and nothing more. 

If you've never been committed to anything, don't bother to get married. Having children is not like visiting a relative, they are yours for life, you can't return them.  Having children changes relationships, if you're marrying to have children, think carefully about how much it will cost you, physically and emotionally.

Marriage is not for wishful thinkers. It's not a straight line, it has its ups and downs, it's highs and lows.  It isn't something to be acquired like brand named goods (if you're into that kind of thing).  If you ain't prepared for the imperfections, the bumps and the difficulties that will come, abandon before you start.

It's not about maturity or age, it's about meeting the person who compliments you; not every man or woman who approaches you will compliment you nor make a good husband/wife for you.  There is no perfect age for it, but those who married the right person will tell you - whether they married at 18 or 48 - that it was the right time for them.

N101:

Redsky1, Princek12, spikedcylinder, kech and others, I applaud you for injecting a degree of maturity and experience into the discussion.  As pak stated:
Marriage is not some disembodied thing floating around waiting for someone to catch it, like a cold.  A lot of people who haven't married at 25 or whatever is the presumed acceptable age is that way because they rejected someone or were too picky.  I can only presume that most posters who think like this are (a) unmarried and (b) no where near 25 or (c) think this will never apply to them.  If you're in college or school then you may know a little about relationships, but marriage isn't in the same league as boyfriend/girlfriend. 
A lot of men and women's experiences are similar to that posted by  Nwaka77, in fact, it's much worse.  I know a lot of people who stay away from Nigeria after a certain age because of the undue pressure of supposed "well meaning" family and friends.  For every one who has been picky, there are others who have trudged along without catching anyone's eye.  Still others have caught the eye of someone who sees them only for what they can get and nothing more. 

If you've never been committed to anything, don't bother to get married. Having children is not like visiting a relative, they are yours for life, you can't return them.  Having children changes relationships, if you're marrying to have children, think carefully about how much it will cost you, physically and emotionally.
Marriage is not for wishful thinkers. It's not a straight line, it has its ups and downs, it's highs and lows.  It isn't something to be acquired like brand named goods (if you're into that kind of thing).  If you ain't prepared for the imperfections, the bumps and the difficulties that will come, abandon before you start.

It's not about maturity or age, it's about meeting the person who compliments you; not every man or woman who approaches you will compliment you nor make a good husband/wife for you.  There is no perfect age for it, but those who married the right person will tell you - whether they married at 18 or 48 - that it was the right time for them.

I APPLUAD THE ABOVE WRITER FOR HIS INSIGHT AND ARTICULATED COMMENT. BUT FEW ISSUES WERE RAISED AND NEED TO BE ADDRESSED. your PREAMBLE  NOT ONLY APPEARED AS A CONDESCENSION (BY TAGGING OTHERS AS KIDS), IT TARNISHED THE MERIT IN your ARGUMENT. GOING BY your DICTION, ONE WONDERS IF U HAD DONE A SCIENTIFIC SURVEY TO ASCERTAIN THE AVERAGE AGE OF THOSE POSTERS U CRITICIZED. tHE FUNDAMENTAL FACTOR THAT FRAMES OPINION IS SOCIOCULTURAL BACKGROUD AND PHILOSOPHY, NOT MERE AGE. SOME PPL IN THEIR FORTIES MIGHT HAVE SIMILAR VIEWS DEPENDING ON THEIR LEVEL OF INFLUENCE BY WESTERN VALUES.

In as much as I agreed that getting married at an early age is good, but I also don't think anyone should feel less of a person simply because he/she did not get married at the society's early age. No one should be pressured to get married. Do it when you think you can handle it.

oriauwa:

In as much as I agreed that getting married at an early age is good, but I also don't think anyone should feel less of a person simply because he/she did not get married at the society's early age. No one should be pressured to get married. Do it when you think you can handle it.

GBAM

28,

genetics courses advises early marriages, cause age of first pregnancy matters. this age is between 21 - 30

[s]If you are 30 and a female and not married, forget it, it's already too late. Except if your dad is Babangida![/s]

SAYS WHO?, OH PLEASE SOME PPL DON'T CARE SO STICK IT TO YOURSELF B/C I GUESS IT APPLIES TO YOU-I MEAN FEMALES IN YOUR FAM IF YOU'RE A MAN.





[sub][/sub]l need to talk some sense into these people

Marry when you are ready to be married. Someone might be ready at 25 and another at 21. It is different for everyone. Marriage everywhere . . . Na Beans??

24-28 for ladies
28-32 for guy
Just my opinion

N101 where do you come from?

Infact your worded comment was straight to the point I couldn't but just say well said and more wisdom to you.

There is no perfect age or time for anyone,

nwaka77, your post made sense up to a point but you made several generalizations about nigeria that made me shake my head.

When I was living in Naija as a child, I noticed that alot of Nigerians don't even even have the slightest clue of what marraige should be all about.  Even if a woman marries at 20 years old, by the time she is in her 40's, the so called husband is already out there carrying younger girls. You can't win as a woman in Nigeria. 

well, looks like nigeria is the only place where this happens. maybe tiger woods is a nigerian too, hey?

Alot of Nigerians like to pressure people into marraige and then when things spiral outta control, they will be the first to tell you stick in it and make it work. As for me, I luckily do not live in such society. As a spinster, I stayed away from Nigerians because I did not want them coming and trying to pressure me into marraige when I knew that it was not God's time. When God's time came however, I met the right person and we got married. The marraige is blesssed with a set of healthy twins (1 boy, 1 girl). And I married in my early 30's. Those saying that once you are above 30 you cannot find anyone, must be joking. That might be the case for those living in Naija but for those of us abroad and who are not into Naija men, the sky is our limit with God on one's side.

regardless whether you're into naija men or not, when your 30+ your chances of marriage begins to diminish unless of course you're a celebrity. and as for the sky being the limit because you're not in nigeria, i beg to differ because being abroad in no way brightens your chances of a happy marriage.
we know what happens over there where marriages can last less than a day! people move in and out of marriges like they are wearing or discarding old clothes! please find some more reasonable claims to make, not this one about marriage abroad.

Mekana:

I APPLUAD THE ABOVE WRITER FOR HIS INSIGHT AND ARTICULATED COMMENT. BUT FEW ISSUES WERE RAISED AND NEED TO BE ADDRESSED. your PREAMBLE  NOT ONLY APPEARED AS A CONDESCENSION (BY TAGGING OTHERS AS KIDS), IT TARNISHED THE MERIT IN your ARGUMENT. GOING BY your DICTION, ONE WONDERS  IF U HAD DONE A SCIENTIFIC SURVEY TO ASCERTAIN THE AVERAGE AGE OF THOSE POSTERS U CRITICIZED. tHE FUNDAMENTAL FACTOR THAT FRAMES OPINION IS SOCIOCULTURAL BACKGROUD AND PHILOSOPHY, NOT MERE AGE. SOME PPL IN THEIR FORTIES MIGHT HAVE SIMILAR VIEWS DEPENDING ON THEIR LEVEL OF INFLUENCE BY WESTERN VALUES.

We are all entitled to our opinions.  The OP asked a question, but consider some of the comments she received in return.  

While society and culture play a subconscious part in shaping our perspectives, it doesn't mean we lack sensitivity and insight in to what is happening around us.  If "sociocultural background and philosophy" means we make glib comments like "women are too picky", does that mean we should subscribe to it?  Is every woman's situation the same?  There's a difference between a 19 year-old asking this question and a mid to late 20-something asking the same, my response would hardly be different.  Or is empathy only a "Western" thing?

The important thing is that many women in their 20s and 30s find themselves single, not because they are too picky or to busy with education but often simply because of circumstances.  People should look a little closer at each situation, but not tar everyone with the same brush or look down on them because of so-called "cultural" dictates.

Be well.

My earnest opinion is that more often than not people don't marry at the expected age due to the fact that they have to take their time for the right person. They find love and then suddenly discover that this was not the person they felt something for.

Now should they continue?, most people do,

or should they quit?, those who understand what marriage is all about quit and they may have to wait a little longer to get Mr/Miss right

After all a broken relationship/courtship is better than a broken marriage

its better to look 9 times and hit once than to look once and hit 9 times; depends on the age u start looking and hitting.

lysaa:

its better to look 9 times and hit once than to look once and hit 9 times; depends on the age u start looking and hitting.

It is better to WATCH and PRAY, GOD's still in the business of MATCHMAKING

While I appreciate many of the posts made on this thread, there are some responses I wouldn't even dignify with a comment  especially from some female posters who surprisingly are married and expected to know better.

However I must single out N101, Mekana, GeorgeD, YME for special commendation for what you've added to the thread.
Redmanns post blew the roof, I think your take was ABS fantastic.

I don't think anybody here is reccomending rushing into marriage, that in itself is foolish even if you were pregnant out of wedlock.
but pushing off marriage until later in life also does not gaurantee marrying MR/Mrs Right. Why ?

We have been taught to always be on the lookout for the right person without any thought to BEING THE RIGHT PERSON.
We want to be JUDAS and yet marry JESUS.

Life is all about opportunity and preparation, time and chance, miss it and sometimes you seek it with tears and not find it.

Some have been going on and on about those who married early and are now regretting it but I also know couples who married late and are also finding it tough while I know a few who tied the knot early enough and are coping quite fine. It cuts both ways.

I think the message is, if you have the opportunity, it is generally advisable to get married as soon as you come of age. and for those who have not been able to achieve that then just watch out for the opportunities that come your way, no need to be non-challant or unneccessarily fastidious and critical. This is the advice I will give my daughters and young ladies out there

pak, good talk there. and i must add that jokes aside, all i have posted here is based on personal experience. no need gloating over it but that's the truth. the greener grass/career syndrome is a huge problem ladies these days must strive to overcome. all in the name of civilization or 'i don't want my future husband to maltreat me because i'm not educated' ladies throw marriage to the back burner and choose rather to pursue career until their biological clock starts telling on them. i think our women are in dire need of re-orientation here.

George_D:

pak, good talk there. and i must add that jokes aside, all i have posted here is based on personal experience. no need gloating over it but that's the truth. the greener grass/career syndrome is a huge problem ladies these days must strive to overcome. all in the name of civilization or 'i don't want my future husband to maltreat me because i'm not educated' ladies throw marriage to the back burner and choose rather to pursue career until their biological clock starts telling on them. i think our women are in dire need of re-orientation here.

if marriage doesn't come at 21 a woman should sit at home abi - no body is saying ur putting career ahead of marriage but if it doesn't come in ur early 20s you have to make yourself a useful citizen of wherever you are. all i know is the lack of financial security a lot of women have ensures they tolerate what they wouldn't otherwise - we are no talking divorce or running from ur marriage but if a man starts acting up cos he takes u for granted - u think he will change by cooking him pounded yam everyday.


anyway this topic should just rest - everyone has their set views and no one including nairaland is going to change it

Pak, many thanks for your commendations. Women, just pray for God's wisdom and guidance and try 2 be realistic as we guys will also do by God's grace.

If your priorities are set right and your purpose discovered, you will always win.

Excuses can only yield failure and regret.

God help us

Well I dont plan to get married except I find someone I love. So nothing to contibute

Babes late twenties or early thirties is'nt late for a girl oh rather a lady. Now not a girl but lady meaning maturity. However as I always say life is not exactly a text book. Like when we get into a new job we undergo OTJT{on the job training ) you know just like when u are offered a job, they make sure u have enough skills to cope then they train you. So using that as a comparism ( although married life is deeper than marriage) but in some sense ensure you have some level of maturity (financial, academic moral, emotional, spiritual etc) call it skills knowledge or otherwise but have some level before u get into married life. you see the reason people express concern for ladies as they get older is the biological clock thing which is a valid concern.
u see am a biomedical scientist hoping to train in medicine and i know the chance of a woman giving birth to Down syndrome like kids and other complications in child birth increases with age especially around 30. So its better not to keep it too late. Plus you have no control over the entirety of ur life. finally in all ur ways acknowledge him and he will direct ur paths.

If I wasn't married I will have looked for u. ERR AM A HANDSOME GHANAIAN INTELLECTUAL WOULD IT HAVE BEEN A PROBLEM? NOT 4 ME XX.

Am 28 nd ma wife is 26

Nothing is wrong at 30?laughs.may be you girls should wait till 41.that's the age girls turn to ladies.like lady k,lady b,lady g.enjoy life till you get tired of fun.then husband becomes a do or die affair.At that age you can manage a widower or second wife.yea tochito is back.FROM MAINLAND CHINA WITH LOVE.

There's nothing like'its too late' ,whenver you get a partner & you're ready you go ahead.

Its not too late, but I think

American/Western women are a lil crazy and unmarryable once they have been single for too long.

I advise women to marry young if possble (between ages 20-26).

early marriage is good but d thought of that should not make ppl rush into it without adequate preparation coz it isn't bed of roses. [b]N101's [/b]contribution is very instructive.

Early marriage is crap!
Statistics has it that the earlier you get married the higher your chances of getting a divorce.
Get married when you r ready for a life imprisonment.

Some of these ppl talking about a woman having baby at 30 is risky well it may be true for you but not true for everybody, my mom had me in her late 30s even though she married young b/c she has the body of a 10 year old even until today she looks very young and many of her mates are walking with a stick, so remember preachers who are dictating to ppl when they should get married, everybody is different and by no means would SOME women want to wait till 40 to get married but to slam at least early 30s, some of y'all must be out of your minds-and like l said before-SOME PPL DON'T CARE AFTERALL EVERYBODY HAS THE FREEDOM TO TALK SO SET YOUR OWN RULES WHILE L SET MINE, and by the way-GOOD MARRIAGE IS BETTER THAN EARLY MARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

These fellows have said it all, N101, Jaylone, George D, Mekana, YME, Redmanns, Pak & Kabna, KUDOS.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ok, N101 . . . Who are you and where did u come from