I no like am at all, but that no mean say make you turn Mike Tyson na

Hmmmm... See that girl up there she don join badgang, she get tattoo for 100l. Chaiii.

Now to the issue,
comparison bad gan, i no too like am, although my parent doesn't really compare me to anyone sha,
but they do so to my younger ones, and me no like am, it makes them envy me and makes dem not flexible too... They wanna do what i do, and that ain't nice.

So i do talk to them sha, say make dem no mind my parent say everybody get different head

Nigga,you very stupid

mekstaniac:
U broke ur elder brother's nose and had the guts to post it here? Ur matter weak me bros

The thing taya you too! I'm trying to figure out the relationship between the father's comparison and the fight with his Bro.

it very bad to create enimity with your brother why fight your brother in the first place to the extent of broken his nose if you were from my family the remaining 5boys will beat you until you pass out.. that is very bad so tell me how do you want him to look at you now after breaking his nose, he will never forgive you even if he forgive you he will never forget and he will always feel a little hatred for you whenever he remembers

If I were to be your elder brother, you would not be alive to write this rubbish.

Your father was an extreme covetous person. Only little mind's/people compares themselves or their wards with others. Noble people don't compete with others instead they test their own boundaries.

Guy! Create your own life path and encrypt it. Don't allow anyone to cajole you into running another person's race. Be ambitious but never be greedy.

Acode:
Recently I got into a fight with my elder brother..nd I broke his nose..it was a very bad thing for me ..but its jst d end product of wat my dad has been planting inside of me

It all started THUS

My dad is a master comparer ..wen we wer younger ...
he wuld compare us (me nd my brothers) to anyone he deems fit even if dat someone is worst Dan us..

.comparisons like

*--.why are we not leading d youth choir in our church like d pastor's son
*--why can't i take d first position in my class like Camoru Omo Iya alata
*-- why cant I win d scholarship like lagbaja even if my school is not offering any

I could remember last two years..a relative came visiting..dis guy recently came back from Obodo oyibo..nd he was forming all single nd holy..

here comes my dad again..comparing us to him..saying d guy has gone to a foreign land nd he was successful all because he was holy nd he abstained from women..

nd all we do here is think and gist about women(we are 6 boys)..we didn't take it lightly wit him..but we let it slide.

.only to get invited to a party by dis holy obodo oyibo guy..nd we met him rocking d biggest ukwu we've ever seen..Chai!!..God punish devil

Back to my main reason for writing dis..
My dad ridiculed me so much with my brothers success.. he wuld use every opportunity to compare me nd him

my brother is a graduate nd works for a big tech company.. while i'm still a 300level student

The comparison got so bad I started hating my brother..not because he's already successful Dan me...but my dad rubs it on my face always..like I should jst graduate sharp sharp nd start working

long story short.... we fought nd I broke his nose
NOW MY QUESTION IS
I know my dad wants to motivate us with d comparisons
But is it ideal to motivate someone( brother.. friend..anyone) by comparing him to another person..

nd if ur a victim like me..talk ur story

Oga go and sit down. U dey form victim.
Go apologize to your brother kiliwi

Thank your sorry a** that you don't have an elder brother of my nature. I would deal with you.

Go and beg him for forgiveness you bully

Op pele, e go beta....but mk u ma do am small comparison, dangote no b him mate. Make him feel ur pain small.

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Acode:
Recently I got into a fight with my elder brother..nd I broke his nose..it was a very bad thing for me ..but its jst d end product of wat my dad has been planting inside of me

It all started THUS

My dad is a master comparer ..wen we wer younger ...
he wuld compare us (me nd my brothers) to anyone he deems fit even if dat someone is worst Dan us..

.comparisons like

*--.why are we not leading d youth choir in our church like d pastor's son
*--why can't i take d first position in my class like Camoru Omo Iya alata
*-- why cant I win d scholarship like lagbaja even if my school is not offering any

I could remember last two years..a relative came visiting..dis guy recently came back from Obodo oyibo..nd he was forming all single nd holy..

here comes my dad again..comparing us to him..saying d guy has gone to a foreign land nd he was successful all because he was holy nd he abstained from women..

nd all we do here is think and gist about women(we are 6 boys)..we didn't take it lightly wit him..but we let it slide.

.only to get invited to a party by dis holy obodo oyibo guy..nd we met him rocking d biggest ukwu we've ever seen..Chai!!..God punish devil

Back to my main reason for writing dis..
My dad ridiculed me so much with my brothers success.. he wuld use every opportunity to compare me nd him

my brother is a graduate nd works for a big tech company.. while i'm still a 300level student

The comparison got so bad I started hating my brother..not because he's already successful Dan me...but my dad rubs it on my face always..like I should jst graduate sharp sharp nd start working

long story short.... we fought nd I broke his nose
NOW MY QUESTION IS
I know my dad wants to motivate us with d comparisons
But is it ideal to motivate someone( brother.. friend..anyone) by comparing him to another person..

nd if ur a victim like me..talk ur story

You be real mumu- You dey break your brother nose and you still dey tell the world! You go soon jam small boy wey go beat you well well too. Anuofia

You should brake your dad's nose as well.

End Time

u are just saying nonsense Ase

Hmm.. I saw a similar case although it was the younger brother that head head injury. My advice is whatever the differences between you two must be settled. Reason been that'tomorrow' your dad wont be there and you will just be left together so... I don't even know.. Enough of the fight sha. E don do for here.
On comparison, I think is just to 'ginger' you up, our parents wants the best for us but they shouldn't take it too far. Thankyou

we do not make comparisms in our family (internal) but we sure like to set the pace for others to follow.........i cant even think of talking back to my elder brother......we were trained that way

Must you tell us you broke his nose?? besides why fight with your elder brother??

God will deliver us from parent that believe the best way to motivate you is to compare you to siblings.

I would have so much love to narrate mine, but nairaland is not such place (because before you know it, they go begin they insult you with the thing)

One thing I have decided to do is irrespective of the comparisim, I will never hate my sibling, rather I will use them as prayer point for own success.

Hmm

Ur Brother deserves some unreserved apology cos it was ur fada's fault n not his.
Secondly, u're only a coward to have allowed ur fada's sentiment becloud ur sense of rationality.
Did u ask urself if ur fada faired better than all his contemporaries....

Acode:
Recently I got into a fight with my elder brother..nd I broke his nose..it was a very bad thing for me ..but its jst d end product of wat my dad has been planting inside of me

It all started THUS

My dad is a master comparer ..wen we wer younger ...
he wuld compare us (me nd my brothers) to anyone he deems fit even if dat someone is worst Dan us..

.comparisons like

*--.why are we not leading d youth choir in our church like d pastor's son
*--why can't i take d first position in my class like Camoru Omo Iya alata
*-- why cant I win d scholarship like lagbaja even if my school is not offering any

I could remember last two years..a relative came visiting..dis guy recently came back from Obodo oyibo..nd he was forming all single nd holy..

here comes my dad again..comparing us to him..saying d guy has gone to a foreign land nd he was successful all because he was holy nd he abstained from women..

nd all we do here is think and gist about women(we are 6 boys)..we didn't take it lightly wit him..but we let it slide.

.only to get invited to a party by dis holy obodo oyibo guy..nd we met him rocking d biggest ukwu we've ever seen..Chai!!..God punish devil

Back to my main reason for writing dis..
My dad ridiculed me so much with my brothers success.. he wuld use every opportunity to compare me nd him

my brother is a graduate nd works for a big tech company.. while i'm still a 300level student

The comparison got so bad I started hating my brother..not because he's already successful Dan me...but my dad rubs it on my face always..like I should jst graduate sharp sharp nd start working

long story short.... we fought nd I broke his nose
NOW MY QUESTION IS
I know my dad wants to motivate us with d comparisons
But is it ideal to motivate someone( brother.. friend..anyone) by comparing him to another person..

nd if ur a victim like me..talk ur story

You fought your elder brother and broke his nose and you are proud of it. If I were to be your elder brother l will kill you. Nobody can even dare fight me not to talk of injuring me.

Iwe kuwa nwanne gi nwoke imi, and u want us to clap for u? Wehdone sir

This is where Nigerian parent get it wrong... What works well for A might not work at all for b, they should learn to discover theirs indidviduals child strength and help work on it... U suffered this from my parent too since childhood ... And we young parent or parents to be should learn

i hate that word comparizm, because it way people down, mainly when it is all about the first child

I know my parents will not live it down with my younger sibling

about how I was a high flier when I was in secondary school

about how he needs to measure up to me


the truth is

I'm miserable
I'm gonna cry myself to sleep
I'm so down

Clap for ursef

poshestmina:
We love our siblings doesn't mean we don't have blood running through our veins .my elder sister had always been my standard ,someone i 'must' be like .she's the quiet,intelligent ,Godly and decent kind of girl while i got my first tattoo immediately i got admission . I was reminded everyday how my sister graduated with a 2.1 and i needed to be better than her ,finish school,serve,get a job,get a 2nd degree and get married .The HARDEST THING IS HAVING TO WALK IN SOMEONE ELSE'S SHOES .At the end of the day ,everybody with their fate abeg .I 'envied' my sister a lil but not to the point of fighting,hating or not wishing her well . Creating an atmosphere for healthy competitions among siblings is fine but unnecessary comparison is a NO NO!

Same shoes here like my big sis is a set standard for me, she's this she's that and I know she's not most of what she's painted to be I've stayed with her in an apartment dad rented for us I had to move out to squat in the hostel till I could buy space for myself... And she's not even helping sef always acting all innocent and fragile .. I had no chioce but to develop a tough skin on such flimsy comparisons its not easy but I'll get through. .. Mehnn if only parents know the heartache comparison causes

Comparing children to other neighbor's children, relatives children and those of in-laws can breed ill feeling and hatred in the minds of the children at the receiving end.
I had a neighbor once, who whenever he passes by me will give me a murderous look and I often asked myself why he does that because I usually do my best to be nice to him.
I found out why, later on, the guy always looked at me with such hate, by chance, as I heard his Dad scolding him about his academic performance, the guy was struggling back then with his education, and was telling him to be like me who was already in a higher Institution at that time.
From the above incident I made up my mind that when I have kids, I will not compare them to anyone else, but allow them to develop naturally in their own way.
The above neighbor finally got admitted into a university and today works in London and is doing very well for himself.

Olateef:
I'm weak

Dude laugh wan kii me, which one be dis again

Acode:
Recently I got into a fight with my elder brother..nd I broke his nose..it was a very bad thing for me ..but its jst d end product of wat my dad has been planting inside of me

It all started THUS

My dad is a master comparer ..wen we wer younger ...
he wuld compare us (me nd my brothers) to anyone he deems fit even if dat someone is worst Dan us..

.comparisons like

*--.why are we not leading d youth choir in our church like d pastor's son
*--why can't i take d first position in my class like Camoru Omo Iya alata
*-- why cant I win d scholarship like lagbaja even if my school is not offering any

I could remember last two years..a relative came visiting..dis guy recently came back from Obodo oyibo..nd he was forming all single nd holy..

here comes my dad again..comparing us to him..saying d guy has gone to a foreign land nd he was successful all because he was holy nd he abstained from women..

nd all we do here is think and gist about women(we are 6 boys)..we didn't take it lightly wit him..but we let it slide.

.only to get invited to a party by dis holy obodo oyibo guy..nd we met him rocking d biggest ukwu we've ever seen..Chai!!..God punish devil

Back to my main reason for writing dis..
My dad ridiculed me so much with my brothers success.. he wuld use every opportunity to compare me nd him

my brother is a graduate nd works for a big tech company.. while i'm still a 300level student

The comparison got so bad I started hating my brother..not because he's already successful Dan me...but my dad rubs it on my face always..like I should jst graduate sharp sharp nd start working

long story short.... we fought nd I broke his nose
NOW MY QUESTION IS
I know my dad wants to motivate us with d comparisons
But is it ideal to motivate someone( brother.. friend..anyone) by comparing him to another person..

nd if ur a victim like me..talk ur story

Well, you shouldn't transfer your aggression on your bro. After all, he also may have been compared to others in the past by your dad.