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Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by LaExpert: 10:57pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
He could break your head if he decides to get back at you, he's your elder brother. The fact that you fought him alone can make him have funny thoughts and plans towards you. You seem very naive and stubborn and probably deserve that treatment from your Dad. Even though it may not be the best, your brother has mastered how to take the positives and be a better person...and you're being envious. Apologise sincerely to your Dad and siblings, then focus on how to successfully graduate from school and be a better person. 6 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by peacesamuel94(m): 10:59pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
And you see that as an achievement? smh. 6 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by mecussey(m): 11:03pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Acode: U dey dull na, why u no compare the old man with his mates wey be ministers and presidents. 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Nobody: 11:22pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Benekruku:I hope your child suffocates you when you too get old |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by bejite: 11:22pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Compare your dad with Dangote and watch how he feels. If he feels bad, tell that that's exactly how you guys feel when he does to you. 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by MrLekan95(m): 11:27pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Uhhmmm... |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by micflo28(m): 11:28pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Go mend fences with your brother, mend your brothers nose and come back. We are not savages here ![]() ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Chicent(m): 11:29pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
The truth is this our parents had different ways of bringing us up...... but none was the best. trust me......none!!! its just left for you to go out in the world and get better and adjust then adapt when due. and for you to also chose how you want to train your own children. make peace with your elder brother and stop or don't allow what your dad says or always say get to you. 2 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by onyii255(m): 11:37pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
MoltenMagma: I think the guy u quoted was just being sarcastic.. 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by HENRY940: 11:47pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Your Dad needs serious prayers and fasting |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by idu1(m): 11:47pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Acode bro, you know try at all. Look for a way to settle with your brother please. 2 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by vinelli(m): 11:58pm On Apr 14, 2017 |
Ur dad shld go nd learn mind games 4rm Mourinho. Its totally wrong on ur father part cos he thinks he is motivating u guys buh he is secretly creating discord nd enmity btw u guys |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Nobody: 12:04am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Acode: Alex your bro just reported you, men watch your back, they are coming. 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by YelloweWest: 12:29am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Brag to ur dad that u broke your elder brother's nose the next time he compares the two of u. At least u achieved that. ![]() Foolish fool. No wonder your papa dey abuse u. Black sheep 4 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by YelloweWest: 12:31am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Dreamwaker:U seem to know the op. Is he really as foolish as he sounds? 4 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by jaxxy(m): 12:38am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Acode: U have to never let negative words move by whomever be it compraisim or outright degradation. Believe in urself 101% and work towards it. I hv actually been compared b4 and on an occasion it got so bad a neighbor frnd heard d words and told me wat my mum said can bring enemity between me and my broda. I told him yh i know dat very well bt I can't let that happen cos i know beta than that. She didn't say it out of bad intent bt maybe out of anger cos im kinda sturborn bt wiser than all that so keep calm and face wats b4 u. They compare cos dey don't know the best way to go about their advice i think. |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by oluwakayd: 1:47am On Apr 15, 2017 |
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Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by sisisioge: 1:50am On Apr 15, 2017 |
They dare not bring that on in my family otherwise na envy go kill me. I'm older, my lil sis is more successful...in fact, she's taller and bigger than me sef. So doing the comparison thing would have killed my simple me a gazillion years ago ![]() I think its indeed unhealthy. The only time its OK is where it's a simple armless comparison like: -Pls eat like your sister is doing right now...for children where one doesn't eat until several drama goes down. Etc. 2 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Berbierklaus(f): 1:57am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Cajetanspeaks:So you will kill your blood brother because he broke your nose? ![]() Oshey killer the beast,stonecold the killer. I carry Beyonce hand for you |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Berbierklaus(f): 1:58am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Cajetanspeaks:This one will kill his brother ![]() I'm sure you have killed a lot of people to be able to openly say this Some people are to be avoided at all means before devil use them 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Nobody: 2:41am On Apr 15, 2017 |
There's a simple Chinese proverbs that says it's not how you stir the water that determines the ripples it causes.. It's the water quantity.... See guy you fall my hand Give respect to your elders Firstly I suggest you go make amends with your elder brother Fast fast Secondly... Guy lemme tell you something... E no get person way comparison day gud for... My mama grew me up with comparing me to every cow and hen in my school.. Is it not ur mate that is Is it not your mate that is... For me i got angry and for some time I started hating this people.... But then guy.... Listen the day you understand the fact that you can never be another person.... It's the way you will start turning this negative hatred to something positive.. You can never be as successful as davido You can never be intelligent as Albert Einstein You can never be as popular as Obama But you can always be better than them.. Your dad tells you that is just a way for you to realise you can simply do better than that.. He is setting a mark for you.. Comparison is bad... But human being have only been successful thanks to comparison.... Guy my advice is prove daddy wrong by doing your best at what you can do best Nor go break persi eye oh.... You are destined to be better.. Your dad isn't seeing that yet.. So guy shine well well oh and pls go beg brother and his broken nose.. Na immaturity you display so 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Nobody: 2:49am On Apr 15, 2017 |
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Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Nobody: 2:51am On Apr 15, 2017 |
I grew up never taking first in class, a deacon/principal for a papa and a school teacher / deacon for a mom..... You think you have heard of the worst kind of comparison brother trust me you haven't reached anywhere TO ALL YOU I SIMPLY HAVE THIS TO SAY ..... COMPARISON ONLY BECOMES A WEAPON OF JEALOUSY, HATRED AND ANGER WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR SELF ESTEEM/CONFIDENCE Once you assure your self you will always be you i bet cold water will feel numb on you skin self.. 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by deflover(m): 4:13am On Apr 15, 2017 |
poshestmina: So did you finally make the 2:1 or 1st class or u turned an ashawo Cos that's all I can read from your write up A rebel 2 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by olori98(f): 4:20am On Apr 15, 2017 |
U broke ur brothers nose and u are still saying it *standingovation* the Lord is ur muscle 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Acode: 5:23am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Goahead:lolz..I saw a lot of people talking about how foolish I am..nd how stupid of a young man I am..nd how proud I am for breaking my brothers nose... i stated it clearly.. I felt bad..I couldn't sleep..we are good padis ...or rather we were I posted dis cos we've Neva fought since our primary school days.nd fighting now was a big embarrassment on my mum who we respect so much.. she cried a lot..nd we both ad to apologized to her he accused me wrongly.. nd I didn't like it..he den proceeded in hitting me first.. God forgive me..but I already knew how he was hot temper..nd u don't talk back to him wen he's angry.. I was ready to make him pay for all d caparisons.. nd I made him hit me so I could fight back...stupid me Neva proud of my action.. abi who fight EPP we are guys nd we've got each others back why would anyone reasonable brothers wana trade dat for a fight?.. We just got stupid in d heat of d moment NOTE: I got injured too..nd I broke my arm..I didn't add dat cos am more concern about wat I did to my innocent brother.(moreover his name is also innocent) am still getting treatment.. nd we avoid each other for now 2 Likes |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Acode: 5:28am On Apr 15, 2017 |
deflover: I was ready for all dis comments before I posted d writeup..nd no am not yet a graduate.. but would soon be one am not a rebel..nd neva been a violent person... it was a huge mistake from my part...I could av jst walked away from him..but I stayed back nd let d devil used me.. |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Acode: 5:37am On Apr 15, 2017 |
LaExpert: naive and Sturborn?.. mr man..am a fine young man..who knows wat he's doin..nd who makes mistakes.. my brother won't have dat kinda tut if harming me later...we've known each other for 20+ years..nd we both set goals together ..it's was a regrettable miss understanding been envious?.. am working hard in my field to make my family proud...am so happy my brother got d job he's doin....its more money to d family.. But am still a students.. hoping to be like him wen I grow up..but wen someone expects u to be making money like ur brother..nd u don't av d qualifications to even get a job yet.. he makes u feel useless to d family.. like ur jst a liability not an assets . 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Acode: 5:50am On Apr 15, 2017 |
Desdola: I grew in dis ..nd we(my elder brother and I) often tell him to stop...but sometimes he'll jst unnecessarily bring it up... my brother got admission immediately he finished from school I got mine 4years after I finished but before I did..he wuld compare d living daylight out to of me.. how my brother got admission cos he's brilliant..how I should be like him how I should walk like him..nd talk like him i wasn't a dull student..nd d olodos in my class got admission b4 me..am I to fight wat life gives me? Before d fight ..me nd my brother do virtually everything together.. we are even planning on investing in a business.. I took up home tutorship during my spare time jst to avoid asking my dad for money Nigerian parents should stop dis 1 Like |
Re: Comparison In A Family. How Healthy Is It? by Acode: 5:56am On Apr 15, 2017 |
olori98: I for d umpteenth time...I only mentioned wat I did to my brother..cos its my nightmare..nd I regret it. .am currently nursing a broken arm...are u happy now? |
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