Sorry please what didu drink?

Stupidity..................crazynx
Chewww
Y am i wasting my data self

So a lady should marry anyone who shows commitment? Hmmmmmmm. See my sister, do not wait for men to choose you; put your fingers out there and choose your man. The wrong man can still commit! ( I pray God help you all).

unclezuma:


Are you the person? If you are the person ngwa come and sue me...Why are you drinking panadol over another person's label go and print your own on your shirt abeg.

Which person? I am talking about you men always calling women different names after the women have slept with them and you're saying "are you the person"?

Quinn22:
The op make sense because I've seen some women who will be committed to just 1 guy for 4-7 years and at the end of it all, he would just dump her like a hot potato. Then she will now have to start from scratch again when her time is running out. So it make sense.

Faithful to one guy for 7 years? Is she the mother of Faith?

MarieSucre:


Which person? I am talking about you men always calling women different names after the women have been with you and you're saying "are you the person"? what

That particular "woman" deserves that particular name, I don't label women ma'am but a dash of decency is required if one must get respect. Welcome to Africa where the men are dogs and the women are "female dogs".

Capisce?

This is veryy true!!!!! I've seen ladies who commit to one man and at the end, the man gets bored and chooses sum1 else leaving the lady in the dark, feeling confused and abandoned.... ladies keep ur options open until he puts a ring on it.... if u like not hear word, na u Sabi!!!!! Some guys will not like this buh it's the plain truth, when a lady shows that she loves u too much, some of u tend to abuse it and take advantage of it but if she has multiple partners, she won't even send the things u do (less nagging) leaving u to be more attracted to her the more

unclezuma:


That particular "woman" deserves that particular name, I don't label women ma'am but a dash of decency is required if one must get respect. Welcome to Africa where the men are dogs and the women are "female dogs".

Capisce?

Well, if we are all getting labeled with names. How can I complain?

majekdom2:
The end goal is getting married and not staying married. Yes, they got married after 6 months. What's their marriage like? All these get married principles is trash, key points should be staying married.

Perfect analysis You've made there!!!

Finestbae1:


Wow. Your mother actually told you that?

My mother believes in no sex before marriage first of all and secondly this method is for someone who is actively trying to settle down. This isn't some long term measure instead it's speed dating in real life. Let's say within 6 months you want to be married. You actively searching, the rule is you don't become exclusive with anyone until you both have the same understanding and chemistry. You could be picking and dropping guys in a month ( 3 dates) it works if you have the correct approach. It only works if you are not sleeping with anyone. You are getting to know them say 3 months expiry date if it isn't headed to marriage.

ogologoamu:



There's abuse of every privilege and this privilege will be abused by children of this generation. I can't imagine a Nigerian man taken a lady out for 5 times without demanding for sex.

Then the woman should know that this man isn't for her and she drops him and picks another.

kimbra:
Lol, I am sorry if my tone was harsh. You NL guys are fond of bashing women over trivial things. You needn't mention collecting money 'cause some ladies don't go into relationships with the sole purpose of milking their boyfriends.

99% of Nigerian girls are always demanding for one financial help or another, if it is not about their rent, it will be their school fees or money for for their youth services. If you are different then you are an exceptional case. Some even demand this things just for knowing them, not dating.

Quinn22:
The op make sense because I've seen some women who will be committed to just 1 guy for 4-7 years and at the end of it all, he would just dump her like a hot potato. Then she will now have to start from scratch again when her time is running out. So it make sense.

You see what i mean madness,bbe! I can't even deal with bf beyond a year let alone 4 especially if all along I wanted marriage and kids. It's a different ball game though if I date many, I might lose the intimacy and closeness and ultimately end up with one. That one proposes commitment and check mate

I don't know oh! It's just somehow abeg!

nijaomegacode:

Faithful to one guy for 7 years? Is she the mother of Faith?

Spot on!

Halfpenny:


You see what i mean madness,bbe! I can't even deal with bf beyond a year let alone 4 especially if all along I wanted marriage and kids. It's a different ball game though if I date many, I might lose the intimacy and closeness and ultimately end up with one. That one proposes commitment and check mate

Halfpenny:


My mother believes in no sex before marriage first of all and secondly this method is for someone who is actively trying to settle down. This isn't some long term measure instead it's speed dating in real life. Let's say within 6 months you want to be married. You actively searching, the rule is you don't become exclusive with anyone until you both have the same understanding and chemistry. You could be picking and dropping guys in a month ( 3 dates) it works if you have the correct approach. It only works if you are not sleeping with anyone. You are getting to know them say 3 months expiry date if it isn't headed to marriage.

ops did ur mother also tell u not to collect money from your bf b4 marriage?

Halfpenny:
This makes perfect sense. No body said that you should sleep with them at all but you should go out on dates until one proposes commitment. This is nothing to do with sex to those shouting slut! It's about meeting other men and having a pool of men to choose from instead of waiting for 1 man to decide if he really wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Biggest pro of this kinda set up is that you won't be too attached to one man. I will definitely be considering it.

But the first paragraph said "having sex with multiple men" . I think the article is confusing so don't blame people for saying what they said.

datin multiple men,kkkk

kimbra:
I couldn't have agreed more with her. Provided the lady's biological clock is ticking and your man isn't showing signs of seriousness.

Key word.

Keep it casual. You mustn't sleep with all of them. it's all about being open to other suitors instead of sticking with one time waster.

Yeah, but you can sleep with some.For example, if they are 10, just be sleeping with 6 .Madam, you can clap for yourself now

emmaitive:
datin multiple men,kkkk

opportunity abi

Mypeople2:
Yeah, but you can sleep with some.For example, if they are 10, just be sleeping with 6 .Madam, you can clap for yourself now

kimbra doesn't mind sleeping with all as long as thee bills are coming n handy

babyfaceafrica:
you must not sleep with all of them,but you can collect money from them all..nice narrative

If you see a the way I dey look the mumu girl. She think we are stupid like them.

Its wrong to date several men at a time, am not sure this was written by an Expert, if yes he wasn't properly schooled

engrMikemd:

pls read the article b4 u conclude sire

u sef no undastn wetin dem write. its all stupidity maybe na wetin u dey do sef

Azumoney44:
kimbra doesn't mind sleeping with all as long as thee bills are coming n handy

Hmmm..Kimbra is it true ?

Halfpenny:


Then the woman should know that this man isn't for her and she drops him and picks another.

You make me laugh in Swahili. You guys say crap online to make you feel good but in real life are something else.

itsmeurLady:
This is veryy true!!!!! I've seen ladies who commit to one man and at the end, the man gets bored and chooses sum1 else leaving the lady in the dark, feeling confused and abandoned.... ladies keep ur options open until he puts a ring on it.... if u like not hear word, na u Sabi!!!!! Some guys will not like this buh it's the plain truth, when a lady shows that she loves u too much, some of u tend to abuse it and take advantage of it but if she has multiple partners, she won't even send the things u do (less nagging) leaving u to be more attracted to her the more

Why do you think you 're the one who is smart when you 're playing yourself. Men are smart once they realize you 're non committal then won't commit to you,agreed there are men who waste your time but I leave this with you......no real man will see a very responsible lady who has the qualities he wants and wouldn't wife her expect he has no money yet. So if you 're responsible and adds value to any man you will get marriage proposal but.if you 're the 'usual' Nigerian girl I'm sorry no one will take you serious even if it's 20 men you 've in your life.

Halfpenny:


You see what i mean madness,bbe! I can't even deal with bf beyond a year let alone 4 especially if all along I wanted marriage and kids. It's a different ball game though if I date many, I might lose the intimacy and closeness and ultimately end up with one. That one proposes commitment and check mate

From all indications all you care about is just to marry by hook or crook,so you 're saying that you will marry just any man who proposes to you just cuz you want to get married

I'm sure real women knows what kind of advise to heed to and one not to heed to. The truth is if you have a great personality men will fall over you to get your attention,you will be receiving marriage proposals left n right. But if you 're the normal girl you can have as many men in your life yet no marriage proposal.

kimbra:
Where did you see money there on what I said?. Must you broke NL guys always bring money into everything?.

stop referring to nairaland guys as being "broke" the fact that u chat with them without seeing them does not warrant such insult...show some respect #

henryhemon:
I'm sure real women knows what kind of advise to heed to and one not to heed to. The truth is if you have a great personality men will fall over you to get your attention,you will be receiving marriage proposals left n right. But if you 're the normal girl you can have as many men in your life yet no marriage proposal.

my guy are you trying to tell mua that marriage proposal is now a gift you get from left and right? Though I don't date multiple, am a one man mopol so I have no experience about multiple and I don't think its my thing