Chubhie:
A woman you called wife told you to your face that she went out to Bleep a bigger dick? Looking you in the eyes?

Such disrespect. Is this how you want to live out your life on God's beautiful earth?

Lol.

Women....

I don't even know why and how a able bodied man of a family will bring his marriage not even bf/gf issues to nairaland,where different type of frustrated and deranged people both male and female roam(that's common knowledge).
Hope you are happy and satisfied that people who don't know you or your wife are insulting and calling her prostitutes and all sort of names.

Congratulations.

Too long.. I no even border to read am..

davien:
Rogovo20 , do you know the most shocking thing you can do to her to make her open up everything to you? Never argue with her, pet her and genuinely love her, tell her you trust her and whenever issues of trust arises tell her that you two are the only constant thing in the union and it'd be a shame if she threw up such genuine love...
Never argue means treat her bickering like that of a child and sideline it..
Be wise in how you approach anything with her.
Eventually she'll start getting closer and try to know what prompted your behavior of her.

most sense making comment so far...
nice one nigga

rogovo20:
Hi Nlanders,

Happy Childrens day to all the daddies and mummies. Quick one, my wife and I are 6 years into our marriage with 2 kids, from the inception of our marital union we have always had issues that stems on trust, we both have that issue, and when I say trust, it has
to strictly do with her bickering into my phone and finding somethings not worth shouting or condemning me for, rather for communication, but she does otherwise. In her own case, it had to do with her ex she always talked about when we courted for a short period before marrying. She told me she called him to seek advise and confide in him, told her to stop and threatened fire n brimstone, but later found out that she saved the guys number with another name, gave me excuse as to the reason she did it.

One faithful day, a year after marriage, 5 years ago to be precise, she had gone to the school she worked as a teacher, there also she takes my dauther who resumes at the day care there. 2 hrs later, she called me crying over the phone that there was an accident, I asked what happened, she said my daughter of 9 months old then had a severe deep cut on her lips that I should rush down. Immediately, I left and branched at the clinic where she was being stitched, I felt for the poor baby, because at that age with such injury was not nice. Immediately, I told her that we'll leave for home for the day. The clinic was not far from the school where she parked her car, so I asked for the key so I could go ahead and pick the car so we can all be going home. On reaching the car, I saw her wedding ring kept in the glove compartment. Was surprised because she always wear it, and wore it out to work. At that moment, was more worried about my daughter.

We got home, and I asked her why her ring was in the car instead of her finger,she said the reason why she removed it was because last Sunday I was staring at a girls ass and she was mad about it. In which I did, but didnt do it deliberately or seemed too obvious, I use style look, and it was more of a reflex, I am human. I apologized that very day, but to think after then, she decided to remove her ring because of that? RED FLAG. I kept my mute. Once in a while throughout the years, when we still have arguments, I ask her that I still wonder why she removed her ring, that it cant be the issue of ass staring that would make it that bad for her to do that. She kept on saying it was the reason. 5 years into the marriage now, we were having a deep discussion, then she started saying things about what happened during our early stage of marriage, that she called her ex, because that was the only person he knew as a bf then, reason why she confided in him, that he talked about leaving his wife too with two kids and run away to Canada with her bla bla bla. But the major thing about her point was that, she discussed the issue of me stearing at another womans ass with him, that was when the guy started packaging some stories that entered her head, which was the reason why she removed that ring on that faithful day. Wow! She now stated that she noticed he was trying to seduce her by seeing her, that he went to the extent of saying, if I should come and see u at that ur place of work, I might be forced to kiss you, stating that was when she knew he was trying to use words to have him come around, so he could have sex with her. I told her that whats the probability that they have not been seeing, she said NEVER. But then I reminded her of the day we had issues, she came back from work late, and I asked where she had gone, she replied by saying, I went to go and have sex with someone that has a bigger joystick that urs. She later denounced that it was a joke to get at me, its possible,, and it could be true.

Nlanders, sorry for my long story, if i dont put it down well, u wont know my stance on this issue, I wont say am a saint when I started this marriage, but I have changed, this woman up until now has not, I have another post to share right after this. Now my question here is, I WANT to keep my family regardless of whatever, but is it wise to Bleep that ex up? Because of what she told me he said, to me hes trying to spoil me to get into my wife, thats if he has not, because I one way or the other found this her ex wife number. And I have evidences to prove that she has been in communication with my wife. Or should I just let God judge? Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.

Don't get fvck ed up trying to fvck another person up

kaffy4tope:
Don't blame the 'Ex'...Blame the prostitute you married as a woman that body language still gives the 'Ex' some hopes.



Are you sure the so called Ex have not or still banging your wife??

best comment so far

mikkyphp:

Bra, i dont think you have a marriage. What you have is an "Alliance of Convenience". i dont see how u can be whole again whilst remaining in that marriage. A woman that can say she had sex with someone with a bigger joystick than yours isnt a life partner, let alone wife!
Be Wise, cut your losses, pay child support and move on with your life either alone or with someone that actually loves you.

My 2Cents

u said my mind bro

Get someone to track her, watch for all signs and ensure you get credible proof shes cheating. That should be your focus, you can't make any wise decision without first resolving whether shes faithful to you or not.

Get to work and stop whinning like a little girl.

Rogovo20, you're in deepshit brother. See, your wife removing rings was not because of her ex. Trust me, it's not her ex you should be worried for, but the man out there to whom​ she's pretending as unmarried. I'm sure the ex already knows she's married so removing rings while seeing him is nonsense.

She's trying to attract attention of other men, infact, she's the seducer here​, pretending she's single so that she can go out with someone else.

Let me tell you what game your wife is playing: she thinks you're cheating. Sincerely, you're cheating. And that is her justification for adultery. She simply wants to get back at you through any man out there, including her ex.

Since you love her and want to make your family work, be faithful. Don't give her any more excuses​ or moral justification that "because you cheat, me too can cheat".

Once you've been able to establish your own moral compass and get back your respect, let her know that you're ready to break the marriage and take custody of your children if she's still not straight with you.

shaking my head
these are sorts of things u hear n get scared abt marriage
some of us are praying 4 Mr right n someone else has a blessed union but is cheating.
op u're too gentle with her
U've got to be very strict or else she'll soon be on her ex's bed

/
The marriage is over.

You are only kicking your misery down the road.

After about 5 years, marriage turns to "managing".

It is either people can manage or not.

Obviously she cannot manage.

Make sure she tastes any food before you eat. She has been brainwashed like PDP and APC zombies on nairaland.
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Berbierklaus:
I don't even know why and how a able bodied man of a family will bring his marriage not even bf/gf issues to nairaland,where different type of frustrated and deranged people both male and female roam(that's common knowledge).
Hope you are happy and satisfied that people who don't know you or your wife are insulting and calling her prostitutes and all sort of names.

Congratulations.

That alone tells you this is a made up story!!!! Haba a grown man ina a 6years marriage with 2 kids coming on NAIRALAND to seek advice of this sort.. Gosh!!!

kulex2k1:


That alone tells you this is a made up story!!!! Haba a grown man ina a 6years marriage with 2 kids coming on NAIRALAND to seek advice of this sort.. Gosh!!!

How old are you? This toddlers sha. You for just waka pass and leave the matter for adults.

rogovo20:
Hi Nlanders,

Happy Childrens day to all the daddies and mummies. Quick one, my wife and I are 6 years into our marriage with 2 kids, from the inception of our marital union we have always had issues that stems on trust, we both have that issue, and when I say trust, it has
to strictly do with her bickering into my phone and finding somethings not worth shouting or condemning me for, rather for communication, but she does otherwise. In her own case, it had to do with her ex she always talked about when we courted for a short period before marrying. She told me she called him to seek advise and confide in him, told her to stop and threatened fire n brimstone, but later found out that she saved the guys number with another name, gave me excuse as to the reason she did it.

One faithful day, a year after marriage, 5 years ago to be precise, she had gone to the school she worked as a teacher, there also she takes my dauther who resumes at the day care there. 2 hrs later, she called me crying over the phone that there was an accident, I asked what happened, she said my daughter of 9 months old then had a severe deep cut on her lips that I should rush down. Immediately, I left and branched at the clinic where she was being stitched, I felt for the poor baby, because at that age with such injury was not nice. Immediately, I told her that we'll leave for home for the day. The clinic was not far from the school where she parked her car, so I asked for the key so I could go ahead and pick the car so we can all be going home. On reaching the car, I saw her wedding ring kept in the glove compartment. Was surprised because she always wear it, and wore it out to work. At that moment, was more worried about my daughter.

We got home, and I asked her why her ring was in the car instead of her finger,she said the reason why she removed it was because last Sunday I was staring at a girls ass and she was mad about it. In which I did, but didnt do it deliberately or seemed too obvious, I use style look, and it was more of a reflex, I am human. I apologized that very day, but to think after then, she decided to remove her ring because of that? RED FLAG. I kept my mute. Once in a while throughout the years, when we still have arguments, I ask her that I still wonder why she removed her ring, that it cant be the issue of ass staring that would make it that bad for her to do that. She kept on saying it was the reason. 5 years into the marriage now, we were having a deep discussion, then she started saying things about what happened during our early stage of marriage, that she called her ex, because that was the only person he knew as a bf then, reason why she confided in him, that he talked about leaving his wife too with two kids and run away to Canada with her bla bla bla. But the major thing about her point was that, she discussed the issue of me stearing at another womans ass with him, that was when the guy started packaging some stories that entered her head, which was the reason why she removed that ring on that faithful day. Wow! She now stated that she noticed he was trying to seduce her by seeing her, that he went to the extent of saying, if I should come and see u at that ur place of work, I might be forced to kiss you, stating that was when she knew he was trying to use words to have him come around, so he could have sex with her. I told her that whats the probability that they have not been seeing, she said NEVER. But then I reminded her of the day we had issues, she came back from work late, and I asked where she had gone, she replied by saying, I went to go and have sex with someone that has a bigger joystick that urs. She later denounced that it was a joke to get at me, its possible,, and it could be true.

Nlanders, sorry for my long story, if i dont put it down well, u wont know my stance on this issue, I wont say am a saint when I started this marriage, but I have changed, this woman up until now has not, I have another post to share right after this. Now my question here is, I WANT to keep my family regardless of whatever, but is it wise to Bleep that ex up? Because of what she told me he said, to me hes trying to spoil me to get into my wife, thats if he has not, because I one way or the other found this her ex wife number. And I have evidences to prove that she has been in communication with my wife. Or should I just let God judge? Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.

both of you really need to be born again, you really need Christ in your lives. And I see that the marriage itself has a faulty foundation

Young03:
U dont av anything to expose man


ur wife has opened leg for that guy , leave the guy alone and focuse on ur wife.

If u cant deal with her attitude, get a side chick wey go dey make u happy, sex might not be involved

Nice comment, even me dat avnt married, but my girl is giving me headache, I av to look for a side chick Dat will be making me happy, and sex isn't necessarily. Lol

....Your wife is a prostitute. That Ex has been making heavy love with her since. Divorce her if not that Ex will impregnate her and you will be the father......quote author=rogovo20 post=56927066]Hi Nlanders,

Happy Childrens day to all the daddies and mummies. Quick one, my wife and I are 6 years into our marriage with 2 kids, from the inception of our marital union we have always had issues that stems on trust, we both have that issue, and when I say trust, it has
to strictly do with her bickering into my phone and finding somethings not worth shouting or condemning me for, rather for communication, but she does otherwise. In her own case, it had to do with her ex she always talked about when we courted for a short period before marrying. She told me she called him to seek advise and confide in him, told her to stop and threatened fire n brimstone, but later found out that she saved the guys number with another name, gave me excuse as to the reason she did it.

One faithful day, a year after marriage, 5 years ago to be precise, she had gone to the school she worked as a teacher, there also she takes my dauther who resumes at the day care there. 2 hrs later, she called me crying over the phone that there was an accident, I asked what happened, she said my daughter of 9 months old then had a severe deep cut on her lips that I should rush down. Immediately, I left and branched at the clinic where she was being stitched, I felt for the poor baby, because at that age with such injury was not nice. Immediately, I told her that we'll leave for home for the day. The clinic was not far from the school where she parked her car, so I asked for the key so I could go ahead and pick the car so we can all be going home. On reaching the car, I saw her wedding ring kept in the glove compartment. Was surprised because she always wear it, and wore it out to work. At that moment, was more worried about my daughter.

We got home, and I asked her why her ring was in the car instead of her finger,she said the reason why she removed it was because last Sunday I was staring at a girls ass and she was mad about it. In which I did, but didnt do it deliberately or seemed too obvious, I use style look, and it was more of a reflex, I am human. I apologized that very day, but to think after then, she decided to remove her ring because of that? RED FLAG. I kept my mute. Once in a while throughout the years, when we still have arguments, I ask her that I still wonder why she removed her ring, that it cant be the issue of ass staring that would make it that bad for her to do that. She kept on saying it was the reason. 5 years into the marriage now, we were having a deep discussion, then she started saying things about what happened during our early stage of marriage, that she called her ex, because that was the only person he knew as a bf then, reason why she confided in him, that he talked about leaving his wife too with two kids and run away to Canada with her bla bla bla. But the major thing about her point was that, she discussed the issue of me stearing at another womans ass with him, that was when the guy started packaging some stories that entered her head, which was the reason why she removed that ring on that faithful day. Wow! She now stated that she noticed he was trying to seduce her by seeing her, that he went to the extent of saying, if I should come and see u at that ur place of work, I might be forced to kiss you, stating that was when she knew he was trying to use words to have him come around, so he could have sex with her. I told her that whats the probability that they have not been seeing, she said NEVER. But then I reminded her of the day we had issues, she came back from work late, and I asked where she had gone, she replied by saying, I went to go and have sex with someone that has a bigger joystick that urs. She later denounced that it was a joke to get at me, its possible,, and it could be true.

Nlanders, sorry for my long story, if i dont put it down well, u wont know my stance on this issue, I wont say am a saint when I started this marriage, but I have changed, this woman up until now has not, I have another post to share right after this. Now my question here is, I WANT to keep my family regardless of whatever, but is it wise to Bleep that ex up? Because of what she told me he said, to me hes trying to spoil me to get into my wife, thats if he has not, because I one way or the other found this her ex wife number. And I have evidences to prove that she has been in communication with my wife. Or should I just let God judge? Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.[/quote]

The rate married women cheat this days tho..

Me I just dey OBS.

Op, u are a big mugu, not man enough. Your wife, I mean your wife, stood before you saying she went to fk a bigger joystick...that moment, the hot slap she will receive will put her senses right.

It's a red flag for sure especially to openly rub it in your face with that statement and then later dismiss it as a joke

The human heart is something no one should ever joke with

My conclusion is she does not love you I'm not married but don't intend in removing my ring at all for any reason

It's up to you face the possible humiliation that she did and has been sleeping with him or go on your knees and pray for The Lord to give her the wisdom to keep her home for the sake of your kids.

rogovo20:
Hi Nlanders,

Happy Childrens day to all the daddies and mummies. Quick one, my wife and I are 6 years into our marriage with 2 kids, from the inception of our marital union we have always had issues that stems on trust, we both have that issue, and when I say trust, it has
to strictly do with her bickering into my phone and finding somethings not worth shouting or condemning me for, rather for communication, but she does otherwise. In her own case, it had to do with her ex she always talked about when we courted for a short period before marrying. She told me she called him to seek advise and confide in him, told her to stop and threatened fire n brimstone, but later found out that she saved the guys number with another name, gave me excuse as to the reason she did it.

One faithful day, a year after marriage, 5 years ago to be precise, she had gone to the school she worked as a teacher, there also she takes my dauther who resumes at the day care there. 2 hrs later, she called me crying over the phone that there was an accident, I asked what happened, she said my daughter of 9 months old then had a severe deep cut on her lips that I should rush down. Immediately, I left and branched at the clinic where she was being stitched, I felt for the poor baby, because at that age with such injury was not nice. Immediately, I told her that we'll leave for home for the day. The clinic was not far from the school where she parked her car, so I asked for the key so I could go ahead and pick the car so we can all be going home. On reaching the car, I saw her wedding ring kept in the glove compartment. Was surprised because she always wear it, and wore it out to work. At that moment, was more worried about my daughter.

We got home, and I asked her why her ring was in the car instead of her finger,she said the reason why she removed it was because last Sunday I was staring at a girls ass and she was mad about it. In which I did, but didnt do it deliberately or seemed too obvious, I use style look, and it was more of a reflex, I am human. I apologized that very day, but to think after then, she decided to remove her ring because of that? RED FLAG. I kept my mute. Once in a while throughout the years, when we still have arguments, I ask her that I still wonder why she removed her ring, that it cant be the issue of ass staring that would make it that bad for her to do that. She kept on saying it was the reason. 5 years into the marriage now, we were having a deep discussion, then she started saying things about what happened during our early stage of marriage, that she called her ex, because that was the only person he knew as a bf then, reason why she confided in him, that he talked about leaving his wife too with two kids and run away to Canada with her bla bla bla. But the major thing about her point was that, she discussed the issue of me stearing at another womans ass with him, that was when the guy started packaging some stories that entered her head, which was the reason why she removed that ring on that faithful day. Wow! She now stated that she noticed he was trying to seduce her by seeing her, that he went to the extent of saying, if I should come and see u at that ur place of work, I might be forced to kiss you, stating that was when she knew he was trying to use words to have him come around, so he could have sex with her. I told her that whats the probability that they have not been seeing, she said NEVER. But then I reminded her of the day we had issues, she came back from work late, and I asked where she had gone, she replied by saying, I went to go and have sex with someone that has a bigger joystick that urs. She later denounced that it was a joke to get at me, its possible,, and it could be true.

Nlanders, sorry for my long story, if i dont put it down well, u wont know my stance on this issue, I wont say am a saint when I started this marriage, but I have changed, this woman up until now has not, I have another post to share right after this. Now my question here is, I WANT to keep my family regardless of whatever, but is it wise to Bleep that ex up? Because of what she told me he said, to me hes trying to spoil me to get into my wife, thats if he has not, because I one way or the other found this her ex wife number. And I have evidences to prove that she has been in communication with my wife. Or should I just let God judge? Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.

mtcheew this one na marriage??una never ready

rogovo20:
Hi Nlanders,

Cos as I bad reach b4 I marry, I have never, and will never sleep with a married woman, nor will I ever try to sleep with an ex who is already married. Sincere opinion needed.

Trust is a 2 way street. If your wife can't trust you, she will never open her heart to you.

If she really had plans with her EX, she would have gone through with it and she wouldn't say anything to you.

I think her conversation to you might be her way of trying to get your attention.

Sounds like you care about your relationship, however, seem to downplay the hurtful things you do to her.

I could pick up a lot of "red flags" about you from your story. And I know this is your version aka "the good version"

I can only imagine how bad you would look if she was the one telling her side of the story.

I highlighted the above from your story... You won't sleep with a married woman or married ex? how about an unmarried one. Or how about saying you wouldn't cheat on your wife.

Somehow, we reap what we sow. And about her EX, he is none of your business and he is not your problem. You are your own worst enemy.

excanny:
Get someone to track her, watch for all signs and ensure you get credible proof shes cheating. That should be your focus, you can't make any wise decision without first resolving whether shes faithful to you or not.

Get to work and stop whinning like a little girl.

People Like You Can Scatter Marriage Sha.

Just Listen To Davien.

wats d age difference btw both of u? because this is wat happens wen you marry a lady you are much older than, their shakara no be for here, dey will so frustrate ur life.... for no just reason. my two unclez are typical example.

pls be mindful of your words...its better you keep mute,this is still someone's wife for christ sake,peace!!

kaffy4tope:
Don't blame the 'Ex'...Blame the prostitute you married as a woman that body language still gives the 'Ex' some hopes.



Are you sure the so called Ex have not or still banging your wife??

Mansions:
I wonder the kind of mumu that will enter into my girlfriend or wife head that would make her tell me she has gone out to fvvkk a dickk bigger than mine and later call it a joke. I swear I will make her cry bitterly ,I will make her cry for six months then she learn her leason. Seems you are too soft with her

Why cant women get
Over their ex.

Do yourself a favour and take those kids for DNA test before you waste your life fertilizing and weeding another man's farm.

Just to be clear, both of you are very immature and shouldn't have gotten married yet. Should have waited 10 years before considering marriage.

OP,becareful whose advice you take here. Such posts as yours it isn't the comment with the highest number of 'likes' or 'shares' that is right,but the one that proffers solution to your problem.
I believe from your post that what you want right now is to save your marriage,to keep your union,and if I may ask,for what reason? If your answer is you are keen on keeping your union because you have kids with her,or because deep inside it's a shame losing your woman to another man,then I'll say your choice of keeping the union is unhealthy for all of you.
If otherwise (i.e. Love for her) is reason why you want to keep the union,then you've to act right henceforth..
Forget bursting that guy,you'll further damage the situation if you do,his wife might choose to stick with him despite your claims and you end up ridiculed.
It's possible your wife had flings with her ex,yet chances are more than 50% she didn't,she could have said those things only to spite you.
The only thing that makes for great suspicion is her preference for her ex instead of a friend,relative or inlaw in discussing her problems,including her matrimonial.
Have a talk with her about 'third parties' in your marriage of which 'ex' is way outside the lines. Draw the boundary,no contact with 'ex' in any way,the that rule is broken,you both will do the needful.
Pls,don't nag by recalling all she ever did,calling ex,changing his identity on her phone etc.