Hi all!

I have been dating my man for at least 2 years now, when we started getting to know each other he talked casually about ex's. He mentioned how he was deeply in love with his ex and when he was ready to propose they went to check their genotype and it turned out that they were both AS & AS. This caused issues for them and the relationship had to end.

My biggest worry is that I unfortunately am an AS and I know how much heartbreak it will cause for both of us and and our families, I really don't know what to do, I've asked friends, I've prayed but I don't know how to tell him because he's finishing meds school and talking of settling down already. I am completely distraught and confused...

Please can you all give some advice, encouragement or even personal experience on how to handle this situation really appreciate!

You know the right thing to do.. Seeking for empathy won't do you any good

We just buried a friend last Tuesday who finally died at 30 after very agonising growing up years as an SS. My dear, your ordeal would be better imagined if you married an AS man as an AS yourself against all odds. For therein you would learn the limitations of "love."

dingbang:
You know the right thing to do.. Seeking for empathy won't do you any good

@dingbang I know but it is not as easy as I thought, I don't know how I will start again....

royyaldiadem:


@dingbang I know but it is not as easy as I thought, I don't know how I will start again....

visit a hospital where sickle cell patients are admitted and you will know how to start again..... I am just being mean because if you end up giving birth to an SS, you will hate yourself...


So avoid that now and let go... You are still young, aren't you?

dingbang:
visit a hospital where sickle cell patients are admitted and you will know how to start again..... I am just being mean because if you end up giving birth to an SS, you will hate yourself...


So avoid that now and let go... You are still young, aren't you?

yes o I'm only 25 but yeah I know the right thing to do and I don't want sick children.. Its just life, I know the relationship will have to end...

royyaldiadem:


yes o I'm only 25 but yeah I know the right thing to do and I don't want sick children.. Its just life, I know the relationship will have to end...

good.... So move on .enter dating and hook up section in nairaland, hook up with new people. You will be glad you did.

dingbang:
good.... So move on .enter dating and hook up section in nairaland, hook up with new people. You will be glad you did.

thank you for the advice

royyaldiadem:


thank you for the advice

you welcome darling

Genotype is nothing where there is true love

True love conquers all!!!

royyaldiadem:


yes o I'm only 25 but yeah I know the right thing to do and I don't want sick children.. Its just life, I know the relationship will have to end...

I fear that after you leave him to marry someone else. You guys will still find a way to always be intimate or even have sex even after Marriage.

cruchenuti:


I fear that after you leave him to marry someone else. You guys will still find a way to always be intimate or even have sex even after Marriage.

to be honest I worry about the same thing we have spent almost everyday together having to end everything abruptly will take a lot of healing but it is all for the best...

Are you waiting to hear from us that its ok for both of you to carry on? The genotype issue should have been the first question you should have asked before venturing into the relationship. He is in the medical field so one would expect him to know better. If you would not have kids then you can go ahead but if you would be thinking of having kids then it’s not advisable as there is no guarantee that you might not have SS children. Maybe you need to go to the hospital to see for yourself the crisis that an SS child goes through then may be your eyes will clear because the love you think you have for him if at all you have an SS child going through crisis, will disappear. ENOUGH SAID.

My sister, love alone is not enough o, except you're not planning to have kids! If you're planning to have kids, then, you're not meant for each other!

I'm even surprised that, at this age, you got deep in a relationship without blood group and genotype tests!

If that your man is actually in medical line as you have rightly pointed out, then, he should know better!

Please, find a way of ending it to avoid stories that touch in the future!

May God guide you aright!

How can we help?

Convert AS to AA, and you are good to go.