Hey nairalanders, am a 300l med student n i need ur help.
I had this guy dt was my first crush wen i was in secondary skul, he is 8yrs older dan i am n hes my family friend, so he took me lyk his younger sis.
I think he startd to like me wen i was in 100l bt den i'd already forgoten about wateva feelings i had 4 him. I dint av a real boyfriend until i got to 200l, a 500l med guy too. I wasnt too in luv wit him, bt i was okay wt him until i mentioned him to my mum. He's a nupe n am yoruba, mumsy said No.
Meanwhile, dis my 1st guy has bn callin me n profesin his undyin love. Now, i told mum about him n she encouraged me to go out wt him cos 'hes a very good boy'.
I got tired of d nupe guy who i know loves me to an xtent of obsesion, i broke up wit him, n went out wt my first guy.
5 months now n am not realy in lov wt him. Am feelin guilty about my nupe guy cos he's actin weird, den am pitying mysf too cos am trapd in a relationship wt a guy am nt crazy about even though he tries to make me do.
Am confused. I dont want to hurt anybody again n i dont want my boyfrends family to hate me,

@post,
Ur first mistake was datin' someone u weren't attracted to(at least not wen u were in d uni).Weda ur Mum encouraged u or not,u shud've asked urself wot u wanted,wot u deserved.Feelin' guilty bout ur nupe boyfriend ain't gonna change a fin.My advice for u is that u stop finkin' bout other people.Weda they hate u or not doesn't matter,wot matters is ur own happiness.Beliv me,it is beta 4 people to hate u dan 4 u to hate urself.Fink bout 'U' 1st den let odas com after.

@post
maybe a stupid question to some but whats a NUPE boyfriend?

Nupe is a tribe in Nigeria (middle belt)

@poster
Ebila has said it all. Don't date out of pity or because you are compelled to is totally wrong. Allow yourself the pleasurable experience of falling in love and dating someone you are attracted to.

So do you tink i should just break up wit him. His parents n mine has been actin 'nice nice' to each other

@poster

Simply follow ur heart, cos frm all u ve said, it appears ur still in luv with ur first guy (D nupe guy).
Mind u dnt go back to him out of pity. Be very honest with urself on whom out of ds two guys u truely love

cheeryangy:

So do you tink i should just break up wit him. His parents n mine has been actin 'nice nice' to each other

D question is "Do u wanna break up wif him?". 4get arents bein' nice n all,it's not bout dem,but bout u.If u fink he's true(which u can find out by bein wif him n takin fins very slow),den it is ok to stick wif him.But if u already feel ur mind ain't in it,just quite it.