Are you a parent finding it hard to understand your child or children? Do you find some habits your child portrays that drive you nuts?

Are you struggling to keep your children in check? Do you have those stubborn kids that make you regret having them?

Have you looked inwards to see if the problems of your kids were initiated by you?
What is parenting? According to Wikipedia, Parenting or Child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting also refers to the aspects of raising a child aside from the biological relationship.

So, anybody can be a parent, from guardians to school teachers, but do you do it right? Do you steer these kids on the right part? Do you think you are harsh with the kids? Do they see you as a wicked person?

What is a good parent? A good parent is not trying to be the perfect parent. A good parent takes care of themselves so they can take very good care of their children. A good parent wants what is best for their children.

So, what are the habits your child may possess that you really need to check? Read 15 habits of children below, and decide which you can effect positive changes in them.

1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.

2. If your child does not confide in you about their mistakes, you may have lost them.

3. If your child has a poor self-esteem, it is because you advise them more than you encourage them.

4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you never let them chose what they really want.

6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because you are fond of not speaking to your child, but only give out orders and commands.

8. If your child is too quick to get angry, it is because you pay a lot of attention to misbehaviour and pay little attention to good behaviour.

9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it.

10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.

11. If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but never follow through.

12. If your child is secretive, it is because they don’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.

13. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think it’s a normal behaviour.

14. If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions.

15. If your child shows rebellious traits, it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.

You may have been unknowing giving your child or children the options to exhibit these habits if you experienced same with your own parents or guardians, and think it is the right way for parenting. So, ask yourself, “How can I be a good parent?” You can be a good parent by loving your child wholeheartedly and following the below-listed tips:

1. Give your child love and affection.

2. Praise your children when they do well. Encourage them when they do otherwise.

3. Avoid comparing your children to others, especially siblings or cousins.

4. Learn to listen to your children. Sometimes, what some kids really want is to be heard and understood.

5. Make time for your children. Create enough time for them and don’t be that parent who is always.

6. Be there for the milestones. Be there to show support whenever you should.

Source: http://www.rapportnaija.com/2017/06/parenting-101-15-habits-your-child-may.html

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