engrMikemd:
it's a no no for me

Biodun37:
A woman is permitted to retain her father's name as surname even without adding that of her husband (Islamic view pls.)

SirVintageCock:
Take care of her well and you will see her shedding both her first, second and third names like snake wey dey shed im skin. She will even shed all her given name and chose yours instead, like Mrs Maximus85 Nairaland or some sh!t like that.

Stop whining over sh!t that will give you prolong headaches or stroke. You are sounding as if you are buying a pet dog or som'g that MUST bear some name chosen by the owner cos that's how it has always been

Maximus85:


Some people talk just because they have to say something. We've heard you sir. You're welcome.

SirVintageCock:
you lack the ability to comprehend issues.
Did you open this thread to rant and vent or to have meaningful discussion

twosquare:
It has always been like that since pre-colonial times. The coming of colonialism changed the rules that a woman must bear the name of her husband. Nothing special if she does or not in this age, what matters is the vow and faithfulness to it. In pre-colonial times, she is simply Ifeoma, or Yetunde, daughter of Okonkwo, wife to Obinna/ daughter of Ogungbenle, Wife to Seun (Palm wine tapper).

DarkRebel69:


Funnily enough, I had this self-same “surname” argle-bargle with a Nairalander, in this same section and sometime around last year. I presented to him that which bore striking similitude to what you've written. I served it to him in a varied number of ways, exhausted every blessed angle on the subject. But the insufferable dullard was too arrogant, too set in his ways, and had his empty head too far sunk in his arse. If I'm not mistaken, I think that must have been the day I gave up on humanity.

England, for example, began to adopt surnames only around the 12th century. In other words, in the years prior to the 1100s, the concept of surnames was virtually non-existent in the very country that imported unto our shores the self-same concept of “wives having to make a tradeoff between their father and husband's surname”.

But, like the Africans we are, we always strive to outdo our colonizers in their own ways. Pfft.

Maximus85:


Wow, Strange.

Biodun37:
A woman is permitted to retain her father's name as surname even without adding that of her husband (Islamic view pls.)

eyinjuege:
Much ado about nothing.

Most women are fine with it, but If a woman doesn't want to, no big deal to be honest.
It's got its pros and cons.

Some women e.g Dangote's children will probably be bearing their father's name( it's not an issue amongst Hausa Muslims anyway). The name will open q lot of doors for them.
Some women like Zahra will bear their husband's name. Indomie is equally a powerful name.

yvelchstores:
I can't even remember what it was like answering my father's name before marriage. I took my husbands name after marriage, I haven't looked back since. D only time I remember my father's name is when I see my bank details or international passport. I don't like complication, why prolong matter? One person will answer (for example) Gift nwadike Okoroafor. Extreme hardcore names. Abeg.

jashar:
Name change or not, are you married or not?

ki ni big deal.... how does the name change affect the outcome of the marriage?

eyinjuege:


Sorry, just want to clarify something, but how come your int passport and bank still have your father's name and you say you're bearing your husband's name?
If you are apply for a postgraduate program abroad, and register with your husband's name, how do you prove you're the said person if your passport still bears a different surname?

Acidosis:
A lot of people do not see the bigger picture. Yes, it is true that names do not affect anything, no one will die by simply deciding to retain a father's name. However, a woman who's bold enough to challenge a "precolonial" trend (according to a poster) will challenge many other things, including submission, loyalty, food, respect, even se. x.


We all know this isn't about the name only. A lot of people who retain their father's names do not see themselves staying with their partner till death. It's simply a strategy to avoid complications when either of the party decides to walk away. Let's stop pretending and acting ignorant. Name won't kill anyone but the issue is far larger than mere names.

Acidosis:


Help me ask them o, how does lack of s. ex or cheating affects a marriage?

Just common cheating

NairaSand:


Can we all do what works for us and let others have rest?

OP, there's no need trying to force anything down people's throat. People are different and so are there reasons for wanting to change their name or not.