I am deeply in love with this beautiful ibo girl,i have spent time with her for some time now,the first 3 weeks of our relationship was smooth,the relationship is in the 5th month now,but she neglects the relationship and gives it cold hands and i ve been holding out for that long.The relationship has deteriorated overtime.I have done all i could to make her happy.Even call her ocassionally and talk to her, she says "I have heard you, I have nothing to say".She doesnt respond to the relationship by not doing things voluntarily; it seems i am driving the relationship alone.At a point i begged her to tell me if she doesnt love me any more,let me move on.she said she loves me so much,still confessing that as at the time of writing this.i still love her so much.I ve tried on several ocassions to tell her out of my life, but i ve not been able to. What do i do?

she probably loves u 2 but still has her ego or wateva dont knw. But if u really do love her go for it and continue asking if she feels d same way bout u. if not i think u should probably forget her and her attitude

There comes a time in a relationship/marriage when d flame go low and u nid Romanticism to re-ignite it.Just be romantic,innovative and exciting and i bet u she would love d thrill.play games togethers,give her message.get to understand her personality by reading her sun signs- i did this 4 ma babe and she know better why she is who she is(d shy type).i can go on and on.U nid spice up ya relationship.Do things together that she finds interesting. E 2 MANY,I wont be able to tell u all.

Of recent there has been things that has been pushing me to make a decision on opting out:on Her birthday this,i happened to see a message that came into her phone,carrying love tags like "sweetheart i love u and will always do." i called her and she told me that i used to carry any small thing on my head and that he was her friend while they were in school and he was very fond of her and has been asking her out, but she never yielded.i kept the habit of ocassionally checking her call history only to find out she used to dial or receive calls from dis guy,when she most turn down calling her at nite call.Could it be that her involvement with this guy or some other could be responsible for her non-responsiveness? Or something else, please comment.

My guy believe now or you lost it. She is cheating on you & she is engage in a very strong relationship, i think you should stop being jealous LIFE GEOS ON move on with ur life b4 u wil be attack by HBP. Use ur wisdom.

i am going tru the same thing as him. your not alone bro

Poster, what should you do?

thanks fellas for your contributions
@mama-gee,you are the first female responding,whats your opinion?

I posted this issue not because its someone else's story.Its been my life for the past 5months.As this thread progresses i ll let you all into the detailed background of the relationship.

I met her immediately we were posted to our PPA early on in the last Quarter of last year as we re both serving.When i met her and became in a relationship with her,i chose not to touch her as she wanted it that way until she is sure of me been the one.I ve never talked her into sex as it as not been a priority to me till date. The series of event started taking place as time progressed into the relationship.I will let us into these as this thread go on.But one of these event was at a point she told me she is sorry for treating me do way she has been i.e. her been cold to the all thing,not giving her full attention and time,shying awaying from visiting me most times i.e. visiting me scarcely when we live in the same town.That as from that day she was going to give me her heart,she said she was taking her time to know who i am.she said i did pass the test as i tolerated her all through the first 3months of the relationship despite what she did, she thought i would ve left after all that.I wondered why a girl who claimed to love me never gave me her heart after been with me for 3 months.I forgave her for all i decided to continue with the relationship because i love her.Since then things has been going worse with hints of infidelity coming in like i earlier said above.What do i do fellas? is there any chance for me in this,or should i fight my feelings and move on.Please comment

u r not a pickin, bro. use ur head

u r not a pickin, bro. use your head

http://www.casualphorum.com/viewforum.php?f=4

Seems to me she ain't that into you. . .so do what you got to do bro!

^^^

rubbish

@post
try contacting and hearin 4rm the guy abt this
meet him in person or call him and ask him u wud like 2 speak abt some issue
1 on 1
xplain everytin 2 him dat ure in a relationship and dat its goin down cos u feel hes takin ur girl from u
then listen 2 what hes gat 2 say

u both are adults here
and 4rm what i see~ ure even scared of this ur GF

shes gone bt u jst need a valuable reason 2 leave her too
knw smtin 4rm 2day that shes gone~

^^

im calm


IM CALM


i too dey vex if babe dey use Guys do yeye`

LS4 Lands at the doors of babakess, A young Nigerian Man. Congrats Babakess for making our cover story

BABAKESS DIALS NGOZIKA WHOM HE DOESNT KNOW WHERE SHE HAS BEEN SINCE ONE WEEK.

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NGOZIKA : {sitting in Victoria Island sipping juice with A Rich Guy} Hello, Who is this ?
BABAKESS : NG, Its me , dont You see my number on the screen?

NG : i didnt look on the screen, What is it ?
BBK : i have not seen or heard from you since last week, i hope everything is OK .
NG : {takes permission from Mr Rich Guy, says its her mum calling and went into the ladies room} Yes, everything is fine except you,

BBK : What do you mean except me, I have been good to you, I bought you the shoes you wanted, the handbags, took you out to Mr Biggs last week, Gave you 50, 000 naira last week, even promised to buy you the red dress ? You know I love you so much .

NG : Yes You bought me all that, but what about the Wrist watch i showed you, You promised to buy it for me, what about the money i told you i wanted to give to my mum ? You havent given it to me, What about sending me to Dubai ?

BBK : Ok, Ok , i will do all that, but please when do we see again, i have missed you.
NG : As soon as all those thing are ready.


BABAKESS TOOK HIS CASE TO ALLAH
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AFTER PRAYING, Allah revealed to him to seek advice from other human beings.
That there is a place called nairaland where he can meet a guy named sam milla who will give him a useful advice.

Our man Babakess rushes to nairaland.
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Venue : Romance section
Topic : She Tells Me She Loves Me But Her Attitude Tells A Different Story.what Do I Do?
url : https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-389176.0.html
Content : she claims , she love me, i give her everything, she neve pick my calls again, i am carrying the love alone , etc.

Sam Milla : Run, Babakess Run, the sign is clear

who knows whats in her heart? if i were you i would make a pre-emptive move and break up with her because in my oppinion, she is being a coward by not letting you know that she is no longer interested in the relationship. It will hurt real bad seeing as you still care about her but why stay in a situation that seems forced? set your self free and find another chick besides 5 months is not that long

@ Poster

Looks like her action speaks louder than words! It takes two to make a relationship work!

Sam Milla:

LS4 Lands at the doors of babakess, A young Nigerian Man. Congrats Babakess for making our cover story

BABAKESS DIALS NGOZIKA WHOM HE DOESNT KNOW WHERE SHE HAS BEEN SINCE ONE WEEK.

[img]http://thumb18.shutterstock.com.edgesuite.net/photos/display_pic_with_logo/78977/78977,1222775737,4.jpg[/img]


NGOZIKA : {sitting in Victoria Island sipping juice with A Rich Guy} Hello, Who is this ?
BABAKESS : NG, Its me , dont You see my number on the screen?

NG : i didnt look on the screen, What is it ?
BBK : i have not seen or heard from you since last week, i hope everything is OK .
NG : {takes permission from Mr Rich Guy, says its her mum calling and went into the ladies room} Yes, everything is fine except you,

BBK : What do you mean except me, I have been good to you, I bought you the shoes you wanted, the handbags, took you out to Mr Biggs last week, Gave you 50, 000 naira last week, even promised to buy you the red dress ? You know I love you so much .

NG : Yes You bought me all that, but what about the Wrist watch i showed you, You promised to buy it for me, what about the money i told you i wanted to give to my mum ? You havent given it to me, What about sending me to Dubai ?

BBK : Ok, Ok , i will do all that, but please when do we see again, i have missed you.
NG : As soon as all those thing are ready.


BABAKESS TOOK HIS CASE TO ALLAH
[img]http://benliles.files./2008/09/man_praying_center_for_biblical_counseling.png[/img]
AFTER PRAYING, Allah revealed to him to seek advice from other human beings.
That there is a place called nairaland where he can meet a guy named sam milla who will give him a useful advice.

Our man Babakess rushes to nairaland.
[img]http://fotosa.ru/stock_photo/Corbis_RF/p_2573133.jpg[/img]


Venue : Romance section
Topic : She Tells Me She Loves Me But Her Attitude Tells A Different Story.what Do I Do?
url : https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-389176.0.html
Content : she claims , she love me, i give her everything, she neve pick my calls again, i am carrying the love alone , etc.

Sam Milla : Run, Babakess Run, the sign is clear

read the letter in red~

D1KeleVra:

but i strongly believe the babe luf am na _{is it wrong to voice my mind?}. . . how she dey use am? why u too dey vex? if uread what he siad well, they are going thru a difficult phase in the relationship anyhow. . . no dey vex too much, u go old fast

u need to see my face
i don dey resemble smigo from lord of the rings~ small small~

^^

yes even if i be like smigo
when i see u i dey get hope
cos ur face dey remind me of Olu-sege added with charly boy
come give birth to taiye taiwo=== D1KeleVra (confirmed)

^^^

theres a difference btwen luff and cute~
they know u love them and they love u too
but that dosent change the reality that they dont know
that u have a face of olusegun+charlyboy==taiyetaiwo reloaded
they are jst too scared to admit it cos u wont give Mum money again
to buy foodstuffs for the next 3market days and that 1 na serious hunger~

5 months's not that long.you may have fallen 4 her @ first sight,that doesn't mean she should fall 4 u too.she tells u she loves u-she is either gaining something from u n wants u around or she feels u are being too hasty.i think u should ease up on her.since u said she's beautiful,other guys should be into her too-na only u sabi good thing?u either stay n fight knowing it can go both ways or u forget ur feelings n move on.it's ur call

my guy, the signs are clear. It time for you to leave. tell her make she carry dey go. Trust me when you break up the relationship, don't be suprise that in the next 1month she will call begging to come back. be a man and end it, try as much as possible to look for a girl that will feel the vacuum.

@all
i greatly appreciate you contributions to this issue.hey hey sam milla i like your creative mind,but its not that way.
i understand she doesnt love me anymore and that i ll continue to waste my time if i remained with the whole idea of "i love her".My friends and loved ones ve told me to quit,but i ve been head strong,wishing that one day she will change her attitude,as it were then,but things ve changed now.Five months is not that long as rightly put by fennie.What has been difficult is getting to stay with the thought of in my head,that has been my problem.

At some point i ask her questions like,"do you treat me like this because i am not an Ibo guy?is there anything you dont like about me? do you do all these because you no longer want to be in the relationship?" she says no to all these questions.

I am quite happy sharing with you guys as i am beginning to feel different about the whole thing now i.e. gathering the courage to tell her BYE-BYE. It takes two to be in a relationship.I find it difficult relating with other girls because of my love for her.

The sayin goes that ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS. .Do the smart thing and D I T C H her,

@poster

Good u already know the p, just pull urself 2geda and let her go.it aint gonna be al easy at 1st but trust me u can do it.goodluck cos u'd be needing it.