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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by FRANKOSKI(m): 4:17pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
MARRY THE PERSON YOU LOVE BIKO. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by goingape1: 4:18pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Teedawg: baby mama things is the best deal so far! it comes with economic package that is, if any one of you phuck up you sent either one of you out of the house and either one of you have a rest of mind!
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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
beautifulrosa:I am happy for your experience. there is never a thing like love at first sight. The women I have had the opportunity to love never interested me at first sights. First sight's love is always lust. You grow to understand someone, their ways, virtues and values and then love them. If you cannot get all these whilst courting then the marriage is a doom already. Marrying someone you don't love is a disaster! |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Marry and grow in love |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by plaetton: 4:19pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
majekdom2: A: My sister offends me does not invalidate the unconditional love. Maybe for some people, but not for me. B: Because , loving your wife or spouse was a choice you made based on positive re-enforcement mechanisms that you both share. Now, if that positive re-enforcement loop is weakened by suspicions, infidelity or just natural atrophy over time, then the feelings of unfullfilment and unhappiness sets in. [quote author=majekdom2 post=58753166 .. You can only love your kids as much as you love their mothers.[/quote] Not true at all. The love for your children is TOTALLY independent of, and impervious to and for the love for your spouse. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by uniqueogo(f): 4:20pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
beautifulrosa: same thing happened to my elder sister, she will complain n complain about everything concerning him then. every single thing, but now she still thanks God she didn't loose him, when you tease her now about her complains before. she will just say this........ I was naive and stupid....... they are happily married with four kids 5 Likes |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by jesus247(m): 4:21pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
BleSSedMee:Good post there. But think of d very reason(s) some marriages crashed. Couples may not continue in any marriage when he/she feels his/her hrt had bn broken by d other. It's only d one dat u love so much can break ur hrt. In married life, u owe ourselves COMMITMENT and not LOVE any longer. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by pesco1(m): 4:24pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
To marry and grow in love is awesome. Marry the one you love is great. The best is to pray for God's direction when you are about to settle down. My take. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by McTobe(m): 4:24pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
if all these advice are coming from those who have been married for upwards of two years I will be happier and inclined to listen. 1 Like |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by piagetskinner(m): 4:25pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
marry the person u live to avoid touchy stories |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by MediumStout(m): 4:27pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Emusan: God bless you my brother. 1 Like |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
plaetton:ok,if your sister kills one of your children, would you continue to love like you used to? If your answer is No. Then the kind of love you used to have before your spouse started cheating is same you have for your sister before she murdered your son. Point is, we set values, standards and attributes we expect people in our life to meet. For instance, My brother has failed me by being greedy and selfish at sometime, I still love him but I do not love him as I used to. We are hurt by people that affect that kind of love we show towards them! |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by MostSoughtAfte(f): 4:32pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Marry the one I Love and grow in love |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Sike(m): 4:33pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Love over everything! 1 Like |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by VERDA: 4:35pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
sukkot: I do not agree with your assessment that when people marry someone they love they only go down, marrying someone you love and marrying someone you don't love and growing in love are not mutually exclusive, couples may take any of these paths and still flourish or may not. I think the problem arises from most of us and I must say from ur write up including you not understanding what love truly means. You do not stop growing in love cos you love someone, it does not make much sense. To love a person productively implies to care and to feel responsible for his/her life, not only for his/her physical existence but for the growth and development of all his human powers,love seen this way implies a never ending growth until death do you path. 2 Likes |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by snowblaq(f): 4:42pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Teedawg: If you believe in the vows you take before marriage and respect it.. Not just chanting it to be done and over with..... Marriages these days would last longer..... But now... People enter into marriages,.. Already having divorce as an option when things are not going as they want. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by nwafeje: 4:44pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
BleSSedMee:You too much, keep it up |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by legalwealth(m): 4:47pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Trueigbo: The update in the image below answers your question as it was given by a 93 years old man 1 Like
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Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by plaetton: 4:50pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
majekdom2: Again, I don't disagree with you. My point remains, and I am sure that agree with me that the love for one's sister, parents, or child is a different category of love than we have for our spouses. I mean , the statistics says it all. While the divorce rates are constantly growing in our society, and even stands at about 50% in some countries, the disownment rate of sisters, parents and offsprings are too negligible to even register statistically. ![]() That says it all. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 4:54pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
plaetton:you are not under any oath or vow with your sister. It will be very unintelligent to come compare both relationships using the example above. Your sister don't owe you anything but your spouse owes you everything. When you fill forms... I don't see boxes where you have to tick the number of brothers or sisters but in almost every form, you have to tick whether married or single. Thats to tell you something |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by CzarChris(m): 4:55pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
SuperSuave:My point exactly. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Pharaoh94(m): 4:55pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Love is not enough for marriage,you need compatibility too. Love is like a box and compatibility is the contents of the box. It is advisable to marry some one who you are compatible and in love with,... it takes two to tango, compatibility strengthens love,...... love is a surface and compatibility builds the depth,... 1 Like |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by CzarChris(m): 5:04pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
I have said this over and over again, there is nothing like "love". Love is just a concept popularised by movies(especially Nollywood, bollywood, telemondo etc). It's amazing how grown-ups confuse sexual/romantic attraction for love. Well, personally I am of the opinion that marriage is for companionship nothing more, nothing less and marriage is not by force. You marry the person who you can tolerate her sh*t and she tolerate yours. So growing in likeness or familiarity(not love) is far better than romantic attraction that quickly fades. Sex actually gets old with time, that's why people cheat to see if they can get back that initial feeling they had with their spouse/girlfriend and after a while they get bored again and the cycle continues. Wake up people!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
nzeobi: This is new to what we have always been told in these modern times . This is exactly how I marry my wife and we have always been happy together. She has all those village girl qualities, honest and truthful, always serving her parents. Those qualities are still with her 25 years after. 1 Like |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by eby001(m): 5:12pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
GreatChizzy: Never say never, I'm a witness. He just need to go back to "the drawing board". |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 5:17pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Benita27: Ahn ahn, who told you? Me I can grow to love you oh ! As long as there is fertilizer, the Love will grow na ! |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by cooluc(f): 5:18pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
majekdom2: So on point!!! |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 5:22pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
fatymore: LMAO, do people even marry their friends? Friends never cross the friendzone my sister. Last time i checked Women aren't wired to loved their friends. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by dotch: 5:24pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Marry for love. But most people confuse attraction to love. Love is deeper than 'love at first sight', that's the initial attraction from which love can be developed. Love is built on character and not feelings. 1 Like |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by hotdealz(m): 5:27pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
Love diminish after marriage. |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
majekdom2: My dear, What is love & what is lust? You are talking about the Love of God. The love of Man to Woman is different oh. As far as the little knowledge I have. God loves us unconditionally, I love my girlfriend because she has certain qualities. If those qualities aren't there, I will stop loving her. So that is conditional. We all need to be realistic in our conclusions. People don't really love you, they love your qualities. cooluc: Perhaps, you should think about this from another angle? |
Re: Marry and Grow In Love Or Marry The Person You Love, Which One Is Better? by remi1444: 5:31pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
seunny4lif:ayam not myself again...I can't afford to lose her. |
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