McDoe:

diyobdw, my response to this thread tends to tilt to what everyone here has posted so far. But we all know this african mentality or what have you exists. As for me, I would like to be called 'simply' Mcdoe. But don't forget that the environment also influences some of these things we do.

environment influences? You choose what happens in your home not what the society ask for.
If you like carry you baby and go to the market.while you wife wash the car and do school runs.SOciety start from you
what is right is by your defination


come off the old norm pls!

designplus:

j-girl & Nite Angel, From the way both of u sound, it is clear that you are some of the women rights activists. But you should undersand that, God has given man dominion over all creations including woman. This so-called fight for equality is unreligious, illogical, baseless and criminal. A woman who is a helper cannot claim to equal the man. For instance, countries like Britain, Germany, Indonesia etc which have promoted this rights to the extreme by making women their leaders have not been able to rise up from the consequences such moves had earned them.

j-girl and NiteAngel over to you

designplus:

j-girl & Nite Angel, From the way both of u sound, it is clear that you are some of the women rights activists. But you should undersand that, God has given man dominion over all creations including woman. This so-called fight for equality is unreligious, illogical, baseless and criminal. A woman who is a helper cannot claim to equal the man. For instance, countries like Britain, Germany, Indonesia [/b]etc which have promoted this rights to the extreme by making women their leaders have not been able to rise up from the consequences such moves had earned them. Their economies have continued to nose-dive. Please we should understand the role of man and [b]give him all the respect. Man is not that greedy; he knows also the kind of respect he can give to his helper, i.e, the woman.

Why is it unreligious? God asked Adam to be in control of all the animals in the Garden of Eden and then gave him someone (Eve) to help him along. He never said Man is in control of woman but he also gave us the power because he knew Adam needed Eve.
Why is it illogical and baseless? Just because we want to have equal rights? Do you know what it took for men to recognize our rights to vote? In Nigeria, it wasn't until 1973 that women could vote. If there were no feminists at that time, that wouldn't have happened. The only difference between men and women is that just biological. It is neither mental nor spiritual.
Why is it criminal? Because it damages the egos of men. A real man would be able to handle equality but for the weak ones who just want to have a false sense of strength, they wouldn't want to acknowledge it.

Britain, Germany and Indonesia economies have continued to nose-dive, why are you blaming it on the women? Is the entire economy run by women only? U.S. had their first female House of Senate speaker, Nancy Pelosi, and the economy is not diving anywhere. Besides you want to compare British Economy to Nigerian Economy? The fact that men are in power in Nigeria has not made our economy any better. Look at the job Dora Akinyuli did with NAFDAC, how many "men" have done that?

Looking at my surroundings, I think men should be given respect based on their individuality. But on NO circumstance am i going to respect a guy just because he's a "man". Biology doesn't qualify for respect, morals do.

How ironic that the two morons in this thread are both from Festac

_Ouch

^{that something}


_{whistle away}

Designplus, until you have met me your claims about my gender is simply a wide guess.

Thank you ThiefOfHearts; dada o le ja o l'aburo to gb'oju. Let me educate them:

It is for a purpose God made man and woman mutually exclusive, I haven't read anywhere that a higher percentage of sperm and a lower percentage of egg forms the baby. If you accept that woman was made from man, I'm sure you will not argue about the fact that today go tomorrow come humans must pass through the loins of the woman.

It's so unfortunate that men who grow up to be bullies are brought us by women who help them to master the skills of being egoistic. Notwithstanding, I maintain that for peace to reign in homes built on love you MUST give as much love and respect as you expect. respect begat respect, respect lo bi respect, shikenah!

I won't return to lecture you again; I simply will know you are unteachable. Lest I forget, while you are toasting your woman remember to tell her that different scales will be used in the home you are inviting her to build. If you are married; it's a futile case, I only wish her luck on learning to deal with the you that emerged after she gave her unassuming consent.

Macdoe, na which planet u dey sef? By the way, imagine u are a top exec. and u invite some very important guests to dinner, your "fine" wife serves the meal and then walks to the kitchen. Perhaps she happens to need your attention in the kitchen, and she just blurts out the words, "papa Samuel Doe!" What are u going to do? That's just plain embarrassing. The day my wife calls me "papa Prince" that's the day she's leaving my house! Forget western culture/civilization, it's absurd for a wife in the 21st century to call her husband "papa crap." So u guys are going to be in bed doing the damn sane thing and she's going to yell, "papa Samuel Doe" put it in here, not there? Does that sound romantic to u? C'mon dawg, act like the literate being I'm tempted to think u are and stop trying to bring back some outdated African practice that most people are ashamed of.

the fact that you call your husband by name doesn't mean you don't respect him

interesting discussion, ladies and gentlemen!

why should a man object to be called his own name?

Designplus, are you married? Am just curious. If you are, what does your wife call you? And if you are not, will you tell whoever you are dating that she must NOT call you by name, once you are married? Will you tell your girlfriend that she had better give you a royal title once she becomes your Mrs.?

what else should you call him by? my name?

no Darling, Baba Bomboy, Daddy or any of the other favorites

no 'daddy wa' mite be better, if he wants it dat way,lol.

@Topic, wetin u wan call am before?, Mr. Adeniyi, Papa Chukwuma?

ok wives can initiate a new naming ceremony for
their husbands

Just call my name!

i call my hussy by his name, another thing, it depends on the mood u are. Dont start calling what u will stop, esp when u guys are quarelling. DO the right thing.

Na grammar u just come write here ooo McDoe. U no defend ur stance anymore?

Great! McDoe.
The essence is not to have a post or thread go on forever (people simply end up repeating themselves and carry on with lame arguments). The idea is also not for you to agree 100% with other people's opinion. Once there's been a great discussion and opinions have been shared we can go ahead and make our world better by acting out what works for us.

Nite-Angel, You are a darling!

I could call him fatty instead but I don't think he'd like that

Nairalanders, I have been out of town. I just came back fews days ago; ran through this thread and saw attacks on my opinions. j-girl, Nite-Angel and other contributors could not see reasons in what i have said. But i ain't bothered because I am on the side of truth. Those of you who are twisting facts to score cheap points know that women cannot compete with men in all endeavours. By this, I would like to have this debate re-opened.
First, women are the weaker cells. Two, they are there for us to satisfy certain desires, importantly sex; and to be mothers to our children. I strongly believe that any attempt to foist on us the so-called Bergin Declaration which tries to equate women with men will be resisted. I have spoken the minds of many.

For me, its not right. It will sound better if the wife can call her husband a lovely name to show some respect for love.

nikynike, People like you will experience heaven because of truth. It is bitter but let it be told. Women, please stop competing with your OWNERS by being loyal. There is no respect whatsoever if u are the type that shouts your husband's name.

Am gonna call my husband by his name becos when we met that was what i was calling him so nothing is going to change now, so if he doesn't like it. FU ck him THEN

I like hearing my name. My name represents my uniqueness. I'm not just any "darling", but I'm Seun.

. . . . . aka Da-Hitler

i call my husband by his first name, except if am in a begging mood, and i want to collect something from him, then i call him all kinds of name. I dont want to call him, what i will stop tommorow if he makes me angry.

The truth is that, calling the husband by name may not really be a problem. But my concern is that, anytime an issue such as this thread's comes up, some rights agitators such as Nite-Angel and others usually capitalize on it to rob shoulders with men. I want to say here that any attempt to whittle down the decree passed on women/command on their rights since creation shall attract more woes to this world. I stand here to defend, give clear reasons why women should realize that men dictate the pulse of this world. For instance, the Arabs know where women belong and have placed them in such place. For this reason, their lands have been flowing with mineral resources. This is because they have not given women leadership a thought not to talk of trying it.

Girls have a right to "rub shoulders" with men. It's a pity that most females have chosen to give up this right.